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Sunday Scripture September 21, 2014

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I am as guilty as the next person of placing people on pedestals they don’t necessarily deserve and idolizing certain famous people.  But, when it comes down to it, forget about football teams, reality show stars, musicians, and anyone else we entitle with fame, there is really only one who deserves it.  Let’s make Him famous today and every day.

“Even rich men need God.”

 

Shhhhhh! Where’s the Library? September 15, 2014

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Happy September and Happy “Library Card Sign-up Month!” What?  Yep, it’s time to go to your nearby public library and get your library card.  I’m crazy, right?  Nope, just crazy about libraries and crazy about books.

 

 

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I have always loved libraries. My mom was an elementary school librarian for many years and I fondly remember going to the Santa Fe Public Library and staying there for hours.  I can close my eyes and picture its distinctive green doors and my blue or salmon colored library card.  I also remember the library at Santa Fe High sitting in the middle of the sprawling open campus.

 

 

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And then there’s Bizzell Memorial Library at The University of Oklahoma, my alma mater. I loved that place then and I still love it today.  Its “great reading room” is one of the prettiest this side of The Library of Congress and its “stacks” are chalk-full of history, classics, and a few make-out sessions…none by me though!  I spent a lot of time in “The Biz” and love everything about it, from its statuesque role on OU’s south oval to its gorgeous castle-like red brick appearance. (Its bathrooms are also convenient to pre-game tailgating!)

 

I love libraries so much that I’m currently working with an artist to paint bookshelves on a wall in my powder room.  When guests ask where’s “the library,” I’ll send them right to it!

 

 

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We all have memories of a library: that confusing Dewey Decimal System and card catalog, the musty smell, and the joy of checking out stacks of books.   Public libraries are not only places to access books and study, but they also offer everything from internet access to job-hunting services.  Sadly, libraries are, in many ways and in many places, becoming things of the past with cities large and small shutting them down.  Yes, the New York Public Library and its famous steps and lions is still doing brisk business (having a library card from it is on my Bucket List!), but probably as many people know it for the location of Carrie and Big’s ill-fated wedding in the “Sex and the City” movie as for any books they’ve checked out or research they’ve conducted.  Much like book stores, libraries are feeling the heat from the likes of Kindle and Amazon.  A happy ending, it’s not.

 

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Think about it, libraries are more than just stacks of books. They represent places where anyone can enter and read about virtually anything.  They also serve as community gathering spots and bring people together.  Generation after generation and civilization after civilization have all considered libraries vital to a community.  Today’s society should be no different; after all, no tech store can beat the likes of this, Prague’s Theological Library:

 

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The city of Austin is currently building a 200,000-square-foot library and I like what they’re including in it. Yes, it will contain shelves of books, rows of magazines, and digital downloads, but it’s also going to house places where Austinites can mix and mingle without being told to “shhhhh!”

 

“Whatever the cost of our libraries, the price is cheap compared to that of an ignorant nation.” Walter Cronkite

 

The new Austin Public Library will have a 300-person event space with its own catering kitchen, as well as a full-service restaurant. Awe.  Some!   Visitors will be able to take cooking classes in one of the largest culinary demonstration spots in the city; relax at the rooftop garden; and attend special events ranging from book signings to film screenings to live performances.  This, ladies and gentlemen, is not your grandma’s public library!

 

Ninety-miles south of Austin, in San Antonio, a library of a different kind is turning pages and turning heads. In Bexar County’s BiblioTech, there aren’t any books.  Nope, not a one.  The $2.3 million “library” instead boasts rows of iMacs and iPads to use either in the building or to check out.  It’s the nation’s only bookless public library and is proving very popular.  Digital libraries can be found on many college campuses, but San Antonio’s public one is considered by many as the future.

 

“Without libraries what have we? We have no past and no future.” Ray Bradbury

 

The future of libraries in indeed precarious. As one of the architects of Austin’s library, Steve Raike, told the Austin American-Statesman, “If the information is really available in the palm of your hand, what is it about a library that is really important?”  He goes on to say that the significance of libraries lies in the fact that they are where communities learn and share.

 

Kathy Lussier, a long-time friend and co-worker of mine back in my TV and PR days, is currently Community Relations and Marketing Manager for the Jacksonville Public Library, Florida’s largest public library. When asked by WJCT what makes her place of work one of the city’s “hidden gems,” Lussier spoke of the “second floor oasis in the middle of the city,” the library’s Betsy Love Courtyard.  “It’s great when kids come to the library with school groups or with their parents, or for people working downtown who want to have lunch in the courtyard,” Lussier said.  “I’ve also seen some beautiful wedding pictures because at night the tress and the fountain are lit up.”

 

Books and the people who read them.  It’s those kinds of things that libraries offer and what sets them apart.

 

 

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As I’ve blogged before and as I discussed with good friends while watching football over the weekend, I am not a Kindle or Nook user. I prefer a real book in my hands and I long for a library room in my house with shelves of books, comfy chairs, and even a rolling ladder. In my home library, my books won’t run on batteries but rather on the merits of the words inside them.  Okay, I do agree that people are at least reading when using tablets, but I also tend to agree with Southern Living’s Rick Bragg who wrote, “Even when a whole library can fit in your palm, the gravity of stories in dog-eared books will never grow obsolete.”  Amen.

 

 

If you’re a library and book lover like me, here are some interesting thing you might want to check out:

 

Ann Patchett’s book, “The Public Library,” a photo and essay collection about America’s public libraries.

 

The Texas Humane Legislature Network’s “Paws for a Purpose” on-line auction fundraiser, specifically Austin artist Craig Hein’s “LIBRARYdor Retriever” entry, which is covered with the titles of thousands of books:

 

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Thatcher Wine, a Boulder, Colorado bookseller who custom designs client’s bookshelves into works of art. Here are just a couple of his creations:

 

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Forgive and Forget? September 14, 2014

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Forgive. It’s a very big word.  Perhaps one of the biggest in any language spoken.  I, of course, am not talking about the number of letters in it, but the meaning behind it.

 

I thought about forgiveness a lot last Thursday, September 11, and I almost wrote this blog on that notable day. But I had to think about it all and I came to the conclusion that it would make an appropriate Sunday Scripture blog, so here it is.

 

For many, the motto of September 11 is “Never Forget.” That’s a given, but what about “Never Forgive?”  My knee jerk reply is “no.”  “No way.”  The day was too monumental, the actions too horrific, and the pain too immense.

 

In day to day living however, we are called to forgive. “Forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us” is what Jesus himself taught us to pray.  We are reminded to forgive others because we all need forgiveness ourselves.  How can we receive something we are not willing to give?

 

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It is so very hard sometimes though, right? Forgiving someone who has betrayed you, lied to you, cheated you, or hurt you in any way is downright nearly impossible.  The heart hurts and the head remembers.  Asking for forgiveness is one thing, but forgiving someone else is another.  But, to love is to forgive.  Forgiving can also prove very freeing.

 

“To worry yourself to death with resentment would be a foolish, senseless thing to do.” Job 5:2

 

On the other hand, holding onto resentments can be paralyzing, counterproductive, and self-destructive. That’s when we need to turn not only to the person we are feeling resentful towards, but to God.   It’s at those times, when we feel the most hurt and the most vulnerable, that we should ask God for healing.  We need to ask Him to help us make peace with our anger, our hurt, and our broken spirit.

 

I am a very emotional and sensitive person. My feelings are hurt very easily and I often take things way too personally.  When I’m hurt by someone, I’m hurt bad and have a hard time getting over it.  I’m getting better and better at thinking “it’s not as bad as you think it is” but saying that and believing that wrestle in my head.  Sometimes I just have to say “so what” and get on with life.

 

I also like to remember that I can either let a hurt make me bitter or make me better and that holding onto resentment ultimately hurts me more than the other person. More than likely, he or she has moved on and so must I.  It’s the healthy thing to do and it’s the right thing to do, even if I haven’t received the apology I was hoping and waiting for.

 

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Forgiving doesn’t have to mean minimizing the seriousness of the offense. That’s the problem many of us, including me, have with forgiving.  We think that by forgiving, we are justifying the hurt.  That is not the case.  Don’t ever say it doesn’t matter when it does and don’t ever let someone keep hurting you again and again.  Forgiving someone also doesn’t necessarily mean a relationship reverts to its original state.  It just means you are bigger than the hurt caused you.  Being forgiving and being tolerant are two different things. Forgiveness is something you can do privately and not involve the other person.  Reconciliation, however, takes two.  Both sides need to be open to apologizing and open to forgiving.

 

  “Apologizing doesn’t always mean you are wrong and the other person is right. It just means you value your relationship more than your ego.”

 

Apologizing.  Yet another big word and one whose meaning we long to avoid for life.  Don’t fool yourself though.  You will need to apologize many, many times so you might as well do it right.   Never ruin an apology with any type of excuse.  “I’m sorry I lied, but…” just won’t cut it.  Sincerely and honestly own up to your mistakes and transgressions.   Whoever you’re apologizing to will see right through any transferring of blame and disingenuousness. If you don’t mean it and have no plans to make true and effort-filled amends, don’t say it at all.

 

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When offering an apology, you must show genuine repentance, offer to make up for the hurt you’ve caused, and then work on rebuilding trust, which is sometimes as easy as forgiving.  Once trust is lost, it’s difficult to get it back but, it’s not impossible.

 

“It is an insult to Go to think your sins are greater than His mercy,” Mother Angelica

 

If no sin is too big for even God to forgive upon reconciliation, we should all find a way to forgive others and even ourselves.  As Pope Francis said, “we are all sinners. The problem isn’t being a sinner.  The problem is not repenting of our sins.  Not being ashamed of what we have done, that’s the problem. “

 

Shame. Another short yet very big word.  We don’t like shame and we certainly don’t like to admit being ashamed of our actions.  We also don’t like to ask for forgiveness for those actions.  But, just like letting go of resentments is freeing, so is asking for forgiveness.

 

Forgiveness. Do it and ask for it.  Others and God are waiting.

 

 

 

Tuesday Tip: The Danger Lurking in Antibacterial Soaps September 9, 2014

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School is in session and flu season is just around the corner.  Dorms and locker rooms are full of germs and a new respiratory virus is making headlines.  If you’re thinking of reaching for that antibacterial hand sanitizer or soap to protect yourself, you may want to think twice.  Yes, it might keep the germs away, but at a risk.

 

It’s been 35 years since the U.S. Food and Drug Administration elected to eliminate the chemical called triclosan from soaps.  But, the FDA has failed to enforce or even formalize those 1978 recommendations so the unnecessary and possibly unsafe ingredient is virtually everywhere, particularly in antibacterial soaps.

 

Under the proposed FDA guidelines, manufacturers will have to prove that the chemicals in their products are safe and, somewhat even more importantly and problematic for them, that they’re more effective than soap and water.  If they can’t verify both of these claims, they will have to reformulate their product, remove the antibacterial claim from their product, or remove it entirely from the market.

 

Research after research shows that triclosan could interfere with our hormone levels and may even artificially increase the effects of sex hormones such as estrogen and testosterone, resulting in increased possibilities of breast and prostate cancers.   In animal studies, the chemical has been shown to affect metabolism, brain development, sperm count, the onset of puberty, heart function, infertility, and weaken skeletal muscle.  Altered behavior, learning disabilities, and even resistance to antibiotics are also common results of triclosan studies.

 

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Originally created for use in hospitals to protect patients with weak immune systems from disease-causing bacteria, antibacterial cleansers can actually significantly decrease natural body bacterial resistance when used in healthy households.  Think about this:  levels of asthma, eczema, and allergies increase in homes that are overly protected against germs.   A person’s immune system must learn how to respond to disease-causing bacteria in order to have proper balance and germ-fighting stimulation.  More infections in early childhood may actually lead to a decreased number of allergic reactions.  Today’s kids are so germ free they are always sick and dangerous bacteria are developing antibiotic resistance, resulting in what many are calling a global health crisis.

 

So why use it?  I guess because it’s easy and it’s everywhere and it’s kinda hard to avoid products that promise to kill bacteria, right?   You’re probably not surprised to know that triclosan is found in most standard cleaning products, but did you know that products ranging from lipstick to toothpaste, body washes to shaving cream, make-up to cutting boards, and shoes to powders have all been shown to have traces of triclosan in them? In fact, “Scientific American” magazine reports that triclosan was measured in 75 percent of Americans sampled.  That’s a lot of Americans!

 

And don’t for a minute think that by mixing the two – antibacterial cleansers and plain ole soap – that you are getting twice as clean, as triclosan becomes less effective when combined with soap!  Experts worldwide agree that hand washing is the most effective way to prevent bacteria, germs, and disease and the longer you wash your hands, the more successful you become at killing bacteria.   In fact, the Mayo Clinic says there is no proof that washing your hands with antibacterial cleansers kills any more germs than regular soap.  And, there is no data that has proven that using antibacterial cleansers in your home is of any benefit over using standard cleaning supplies.

 

Guess I will stop looking for that “antibacterial” claim on dish soaps and household cleaners, but I will probably still carry a small bottle in my purse to use only in those dire situations where soap or water are not available.  I’ve even heard that simply quickly rubbing your hands together under water will kill most germs so soap isn’t always necessary.   Like anything else, moderation is the key.

 

I am not a doctor or an expert, just a blogger sharing information with you.  My advice:  use antibacterial products wisely and use them sparingly and opt for plain soap when given the choice.

 

Sunday Scripture September 7, 2014

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Happy Opening Day NFL fans!

 

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Why I’m Glad My Daughter Wasn’t the Smartest Girl in Her Class September 3, 2014

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“If you’re the smartest person in the room, find a different room.”  Michael Dell

 

Did you hear the one about the scientist who made a lot of money but had no cents, as in common sense?  Well, it’s no joke.  Apparently the sharpest tool in the shed isn’t what we should want for ourselves or our children.

 

According to researchers as reported by Khan Academy officials, the brain is like a muscle and the more you use it, the more it grows, and the more you struggle, the more you use your brain.  In math terms this means struggle=usage=growth.  Think of any other muscle in your body.  If you don’t use your calf muscles, they won’t grow, neither will your biceps.  The brain is much like those other muscles and actually grows when you don’t know it all.  Awesome!

 

Researchers found that neural connections form and deepen most when we make mistakes doing difficult tasks rather than repeatedly enjoying success with easy tasks.  The best way to grow your intelligence they say, is to embrace tasks you might struggle with…or even fail at!

 

This my friends and trusty readers, is why I’m so grateful my daughter didn’t graduate number one in her class or that everything came easy for her.  It didn’t.  She has worked hard for her successes, which I always thought not only brought accomplishment but made her more grateful and more determined than ever.  Now come to find out all those struggles and failures actually made her brain more intelligent.  Sweet!

 

Dr. Carol Dweck of Stanford University has been studying people’s minds and has discovered that most are one of two mindsets:  fixed or growth.  In her research, she’s determined that fixed mindsets mistakenly believe people are either smart or not and that those smarts are purely genetic.  On the other hand, those boasting growth mindsets correctly believe that ability and intelligence can actually grow through effort, struggle, and failure.  Dweck also found that those so-called brainiacs tend to attempt only things they feel a high likelihood of succeeding at and avoid anything they may struggle with.  The result of such “fixed” mindsets?  Their learning is limited, as opposed to those with growth mindsets, who embrace challenges, value tenacity and effort, and use their imaginations.  These people are proof positive that intelligence can be taught.

 

How then can you, the parent of a child who learning comes easy to, keep from becoming a “fixed” mindset?   Praise their process (I like how you had a hard time with that problem but figured it out anyway) rather than praising their talents (You are so smart!)  Most importantly, encourage the struggle of learning things that are difficult and unnatural to them and continually stress the idea of being a life-long learner.

 

Finally, keep in mind that the brain grows most by getting questions wrong and that by embracing struggle, anyone can learn anything.

 

Back to School Backpacking Done Right September 2, 2014

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Parents:  have you actually tried to carry that backpack your child takes to school every day?  If so, you’re probably amazed and if not, you might want to give it a lift.   Either way, here are some backpack tips for the start of another school year as reported by Better Homes and Gardens magazine courtesy Cincinnati orthopedic doctor, Eric Wall.

 

 

First off, be sure to choose the right backpack, not just the cheapest or the most popular.  Make sure it has a padded back and wide, padded straps, as support is the key to a quality bag.  Once you’ve selected a backpack, you’re all set to load it up, but be smart!  It might be too late to buy a different backpack, but it’s not too late to pack it right.

 

 

A child’s backpack should weigh no more than 15 percent of their body weight and items inside should be distributed effectively.  The bulk of what’s inside your child’s backpack should rest evenly in the middle of their back.  Position the bag so the bottom is within four inches of the waist and stress how important it is to always use both straps.  Place the heaviest items like heavy textbooks and laptops closest to the spine.  Constantly lifting these surprisingly heavy school supplies can lead to muscle strain and even pulled back or leg muscles, so always bend at the knees, not the waist, and use your legs not your back to lift it up.

 

When it comes to choosing a school backpack and lifting it, be smart!

 

 
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