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Halloween has come and gone and Thanksgiving and Christmas are less than one and two months away respectively and you know what that means: it’s time to bake! And whether you’re making pies, cookies, or other holiday treats, you’re probably all using one thing in those recipes: butter. But before you turn up your health-focused nose, know that while butter is often dismissed as an unhealthy ingredient, butter does have its benefits and I’m here to spread its love.

 

Quick sidenote: As I’ve put this blog together and researched, come to find out Health Secretary Robert F. Kennedy, Jr. is set to unveil new dietary guidance encouraging consumption of foods high in saturated and trans fats, which was announced mere days ago. Kennedy says food like butter, cheese, milk, and even red meats have been “unfairly demonized for decades.” I’ll be following this more closely and suggest you do too.

 

But I digress…

Back to butter.

 

 

 

The Tasting Table calls butter the great unifier across countries, cultures, and backgrounds. Who doesn’t love butter, right? People have loved it for centuries! The earliest use of butter can be traced back to 8000 B.C. in Africa and in 16^th century Europe, it was common to give newlyweds butter, which was a symbol of wealth and fertility. All these years later, the condiment is popular and used all over the world. Yes, it gets a bad rap from some but all butter is not the same.

 

Yes, butter of all types is high in fat, but it can also be a source of vitamins A, D, and E and in moderation it can be a healthy, yep healthy, part of your diet. I’ll get to the bad stuff in a bit, but know that butter is rich in nutrients like bone-building calcium and has compounds linked to lower chances of obesity. Now that doesn’t mean you can eat a sleeve of cookies or a whole pie, but in moderation it does have benefits.

 

 

WebMD reports that butter may help lower your chances of cancer as a grass-fed variety is high in beta-carotene, a compound your body coverts into vitamin A and one that has been linked to lowered risks of lung and prostate cancers. That beta-carotene is also good for your eyes and may help slow the rate of vision loss or age-related macular degeneration. The vitamin D in butter is a nutrient vital for bone growth and development as is the calcium in it, which can help prevent diseases such as osteoporosis. Finally, butter can make your skin healthier and you don’t even need to spread it on! Butter has vitamin E, which is essential in skin health in that it reduces damage from UV rays, eases skin inflammation, and helps skin wounds heal. I’m here to say I believe this as my mom ate butter all her 94 years and had the most beautiful skin!

 

In short, butter is a dairy product made from the proteins and fats found in milk and cream. Most U.S. butter is cow milk-based and it, like almost all varieties, is high in fat. One tablespoon of unsalted butter contains on average 102 calories, 11.5 grams of fat (7 of which are saturated), and 0 grams of carbohydrates, fiber, sugar, and protein.

 

 

Butter is indeed high in calories and fat, including saturated fat, which is linked to heart disease. The animal fats in butter also mean it has higher levels of saturated and trans fats, which can lead to higher cholesterol, risks of heart disease, and lower levels of HDL cholesterol…the “good” cholesterol that unclogs arteries. All of this means you should use butter sparingly.

 

Butter comes in many forms including grass-fed, whipped, reduced fat, clarified ghee. Many of you may be wondering about margarine too, so let’s look at all of these.

 

 

Grass-fed butter does boast some health benefits that may counteract health risks. It has lower levels of saturated fats and more unsaturated fats than standard butter because the milk it comes for is from cows that graze instead of being fed high-grain diets. It has about the same amount of calories and fats as 1 tablespoon of butter, but it’s a rich source of beta-carotene, vitamin K, Omega-3 fatty acids, and other ingredients.

 

Whipped butter is regular butter whipped up using nitrogen gas, is best for spreading, and shouldn’t be used in recipes.

 

The same can be said about reduced-fat butter, as it shouldn’t be used to replace regular butter in baked goods or for pan-frying. It does have around 40 percent less milk fat than standard butter and fat from cow’s milk is replaced with water and gelatin.

 

 

Clarified butter or “ghee,” is something I learned about not too long ago as the mom of one of my daughter’s friends had some on their kitchen counter. It looked interesting and easy enough but I never fully jumped on board. Ghee is a type of clarified butter that originates from India, made by simmering butter to separate the milk solids and water, resulting in a rich, nutty-flavored fat. It also has a high smoke point that makes it well-suited for frying and sauteing foods.

 

Those looking for vegan and dairy-free cooking should consider plant butter, as it is made with plant oils such as avocado, canola, coconut, or olive. The soft nondairy spread has the richness and flavor of butter and works well for lactose-free and seed oil-free diets. In most cases and with most brands, this butter can be used in recipes just like the real deal.

 

Then there’s seed oil-free butter, which often has a more pronounced and authentic buttery taste and tends to be richer in beneficial saturated fats. Which brings us to what are seed oils and why all the talk of them recently?

 

In brief…I could go on and on forever but I won’t’…seed oils are those extracted from various seeds like soybean, corn, safflower, and sunflower. They are often used in food processing due to their low cost and high smoke point but they are high in omega-6 fatty acid content. The refining process of them is known to also undergo the use of chemicals and high heat, resulting in compounds like trans fats and free radicals.

 

 

There are also many other variations of butter, including:

 

Unsalted, which is often called “sweet butter.” This version has no added sodium, which gives cooks and bakers more control over the amount of salt in recipes. It is best for baked goods, pan sauces, and pastas.

 

Salted butter on the other hand, does indeed contain sodium, which not only adds that flavor to what you’re making and it also extends is shelf life. It is best for serving with bread, pancakes, bakes potatoes, or on top of a dish.

 

 

Uncultured or “sweet cream butter” is often referred to as “American butter,” as it’s our most predominant. It’s made from pasteurized fresh sweet cream that hasn’t been cultured and has a mild, creamy flavor. Its mellow flavor makes it great for general use and it’s great for baked goods and recipes where butter’s main function is to enhance in the likes of cakes, muffins, cookies, sauces, and casseroles. Because it also typically has a lower butterfat content compared to cultured butter, it’s great for sauteing, frying, and glazing.

 

 

Cultured butter is sometimes called “European butter and is made with pasteurized fresh sweet cream and treated with live cultures like those in yogurt and cheese. It’s then fermented before it’s churned, resulting in an extra-creamy butter with a pleasant tang. This process produces a deeper flavor, making it ideal for recipes that want it to enhance the dish like mased potatoes, biscuits, pound cake, or atop a steak. It’s also higher in butterfat than sweet cream butter, making it great for flaky pastries and creamy sauces.

 

Irish butter is probably the most famous and popular of cultured European butters. It’s slightly higher in fat and can tend to be more pricey. Its deep yellow color is because its milk comes from grass-fed cows who graze on grass that is rich in beta-carotene. In fact, all butter sourced from grass-fed cows will be more yellow in color. It’s known to have a spreadable texture and rich flavor and is best for spreading, as a condiment, or meal topping. It’s low water content also tends to produce baked goods with flakier textures like biscuits or pastries. It’s not always best for baking though if it’s not a major player in the recipe, say like in chocolate chip cookies and cakes. It’s higher cost also means you might be better off using a lower cost butter if you’re making a big batch of brownies or cookies. Your call there.

 

Let’s talk a little about Irish butter, widely considered among the world’s favorite and best kinds. I’m sure you’ve all seen the famous Kerrygold, which is the second top-selling butter after Land O’Lakes and Ireland’s top food export, but what is it that makes it the gold standard of butters besides its iconic golden hue?

 

One difference between American and Europe is that European butter, including that from Ireland, has a higher butterfat content, which means better taste. Irish butter also contains more salt, which not only adds flavor but also acts like a preservative. If you like to store our butter on the counter, you might want to consider Irish butter.

 

When you think about it, Ireland’s topography is perfect for dairy farming. It has abundant rainfall, the temperature rarely gets below freezing or extremely hot, and the country’s famous cliffs protect the farmland from cold and wind. They say Irish cows are happy cows and there’s also something to be said about the fact that Irish farmers take pride in what they do and don’t do, including adding chemical additives and hormones to their products. In the U.S. and many parts of Europe, the opposite is true as the dairy industry has become increasingly industrialized with dairy cows often kept indoors and in overcrowded pastures.

 

 

Then there’s margarine. Butter’s often maligned cousin. It does however, have its own health benefits and is not a true form of butter. Yes, both are yellow and their sticks and tubs look alike, but that’s where their similarities end. They are made of different ingredients and provide different health benefits.

 

Margarine is made from vegetable oils, not heavy cream like butter, which has higher levels of saturated fat. Margarine’s vegetable oils contain unsaturated fats, which are split into polyunsaturated and monounsaturated fats, which when used as a replacement for saturated fat, help lower LDL cholesterol, the “bad” cholesterol that clogs arteries.

 

Margarine’s unsaturated fats are considered “good” because they can help improve blood cholesterol levels, ease inflammation, stabilize heart rhythm, and lower heart disease chances. But, because unsaturated fats are liquid at room temperature, margarine isn’t good for baking.

 

Here’s another way to compare the two:

A serving of stick margarine contains around 2 grams of saturated fat and 3 grams of trans fat. A serving of margarine from a tub contains 3 grams of saturated fat and no trans-fat. In comparison, a serving stick of butter contains around 7 grams of saturated fat and no trans fat while a serving of butter from a tub contains around 4 grams of saturated fat and no trans-fat. I find it amazing and surprising that many health experts say that spreads sold in tubs are a bit healthier than either butter or margarine sticks.

 

 

And what about bulletproof coffee, the caloric coffee version with added fat that is supposed to make you feel energized and full for longer? The drink is also known as butter coffee, and as you correctly assume, it is made with butter. First promoted by American entrepreneur Dave Asprey, bulletproof coffee caused quite a craze among those who follow a low carb, high fat diet or any trending food craze. It still needs to be determined whether bulletproof coffee can improve your health or make you feel energized

 

 

 

Lastly, in a pinch when cooking with butter and it needs to be softened? Here are some suggested ways to do so if the typical 30 minutes at room temperature needs to be sped up as well as a handy-dandy measuring guide:

 

Microwave a whole stick, wrapper and all, at high in 10-second intervals, rotating it 90 degrees after each 10 seconds. Rotating is key!

 

If you have some time to soften it at room temp, some say to cut up the butter, as cutting a stick into smaller chunks will soften if more rapidly

 

A way to test whether a stick of butter is softened enough but not too much is to gently press the top of the stick with your finger. If the indentation remains but the stick holds its shape, it’s perfectly softened. If you can hardly make an indentation, it’s not softened enough while if pressing your finger makes a finger mark not just a fingertip mark, it’s too soft.

 

Clever Uses for Butter

Prevent sticky fingers. While baking, slather a thin layer of butter all over your hands before mixing batter.

 

Get Rid of Smell on Hands. After handling anything stinky like fish, onion, or garlic, massage your hands with a dab of butter and scrub them clean with water and soap.

 

Slip off a ring. Use a bit of butter to loosen a tight ring stuck on your finger.

 

Swallow pills. If you have a hard time making the medicine go down, rub pills with a light coating of butter before swallowing them with water.

 

Dislodge gum from hair. Massage butter into the gum and then slide it easily out.

 

Stop Door Creaks. Grease the hinges on your door with butter rather than a pungent, toxic product.

 

Treat Skin Irritations: Always check with your doctor first, but many believe the protein in butter and its overall texture make it an effective way to treat minor scars and burns.

 

Disclaimer: As I mentioned previously, I’m merely reporting and writing what I’ve researched but am not a physician or even health expert per se, so please consult your doctor regarding any use of butter or margarine.

 

 

 

 

 

 

I was reading one of James Clear’s recent “3 Ideas, 2 Quotes, and 1 Question” emails and one of the ideas hit me. You could say it took my breath away.

One of Clear’s ideas was to give yourself an instant gift: just breathe. He suggested you close your eyes for 60 seconds…right now…and just breathe. Try it. I’ll wait…

It’s crazy how just stopping and breathing can give you strength and give you relief. Don’t just take it from me, take it from science.

It’s true, breathwork is a science-backed route to relief from multiple modern ailments. The science of breathing and how embracing the art of breathwork can bring you the peace and calm you crave, even in the most hectic of moments.

I kinda know this for a fact and it’s all because of one little bracelet. When my mom recently passed away, I got a package in the mail from a special friend of mine. In it was one of those beaded bracelets with a word on it (ala Swifties). I couldn’t see the word right away but was expecting something along the lines of “comfort” or “strength” but when I read it, it had the word “breathe” on it. I teared up and thought “what a perfect word!” It’s a simple bracelet that’s much more special to me than any designer piece.

But I digress…

So, what exactly is “breathwork?” Breathwork refers to breathing techniques that intentionally channel and focus on the breath. For thousands of years, various Eastern medicine practices have employed breathing techniques to calm the body and the mind and the breath of God is mentioned many times throughout the Bible in both the Old Testament and New Testament referring to everything from creation to the Holy Spirit.

Think about it; breathing and breathing right is often the key to childbirth, yoga, Pilates, sleep therapy, exercise, and stress relief. Evidence is clear that if you’re feeling anxious, angry, frustrated, worried, or disappointed, relief can come just by taking a few slow, deep breaths.

We all know that breathing sustains life and that it’s one of our body’s natural acts, but do we know that intentional breathing is a powerful tool for enhancing physical, mental, and emotional well-being? In short, proper breathwork techniques can improve lung capacity and heart health, increase oxygen intake, and can also boost immune function, lower blood pressure, enhance endurance, help manage overwhelming emotions, and even aid in pain management as it promotes the release of natural endorphins.

All of this is of course great, but what’s equally great is that breathing doesn’t require any costly or fancy equipment or classes. All one needs to do is take a big belly breath! Doing so can actually help you calm down and maybe even make you feel better. James Nestor, author of “Breath: The New Science of a Lost Art,” told “Good Housekeeping” that “The way you breathe affects anxiety and anxiety affects how you breathe.” Makes perfect sense, right?

It’s all well and good that western science has now embraced this lost art, proving that perhaps yogis were right all along. My beloved yoga instructor is always reminding class to take a big breath in and a big breath out, often using the “in through the nose out through the mouth” method and it usually is followed by a sense of calm and centering.

Come to find out proper breathing can also lower heart rates and help in digestion. Research also show that slowing down your breathing changes the neurological signals you’re sending to your brain, which influence emotions, thoughts, and behaviors.

“Good Housekeeping” points out that all of this can come in handy when dealing with some of the gloom and doom that we are currently inundated with. A most tragic of “last breaths” hit us full force a few weeks ago, causing anxiety and worry, but by merely breathing (and not watching so much news and social media!) we can dial it all down. In fact, certain intentional controlled breathing techniques do the opposite of what adrenaline does…they slow the heart rate down. The practice can also lead to gratitude, as it’s been said that a mere 45 seconds of deep breathing can enhance your appreciation of your surroundings.

One of the more popular intentional breathing techniques is called “Box Breathing.” In short, this 4-4-4-4 breathing has you breathe in through your nose for a count of four, hold your breath for a count of four, exhale for a count of four, and remain empty of breath for a count of four. Repeat until you feel centered. As with anything, always do so with care if you have health problems and consult your physician. In the meantime, just breathe!

Benefits of Deep Breathing

Deep breathing can provide numerous benefits in various situations. Here are some key examples:

 

STRESS MANAGEMENT

Calms the Nervous System: Deep breathing activates the parasympathetic nervous system, promoting relaxation and reducing stress hormones.

Reduces Anxiety: It helps manage anxiety by slowing down the heart rate and lowering blood pressure.

PHYSICAL HEALTH

Improves Lung Function: Deep breathing enhances lung capacity and efficiency, allowing for better oxygen exchange.

Boosts Immune System: It can strengthen the immune response by increasing oxygen levels in the blood.

MENTAL CLARITY

Enhances Focus: Taking deep breaths can improve concentration and mental clarity, making it easier to tackle tasks.

Promotes Calmness: It helps shift the mind from a state of panic or agitation to one of calm and focus.

SLEEP IMPROVEMENT

Facilitates Relaxation: Practicing deep breathing before bed can help ease the transition into sleep, promoting better rest.

Reduces Insomnia Symptoms: It can be a useful tool for those struggling with insomnia, helping to calm the mind and body.

PAIN MANAGEMENT

Alleviates Discomfort: Deep breathing can help manage pain by promoting relaxation and reducing tension in the body.

Triggers Endorphin Release: It encourages the release of endorphins, which can enhance feelings of well-being.

PHYSICAL ACTIVITY

Enhances Performance: Deep breathing techniques can improve endurance and performance during physical activities by maximizing oxygen intake.

Supports Recovery: It aids in recovery post-exercise by promoting relaxation and reducing muscle tension.

Other Natural Stress Reducers

Breathwork is just one way to find your Zen. Here are some additional ways to do so naturally:

Take a hike. Actually, just a walk will do, as research shows even a 10-minute walk has benefits and can actually lower anxiety.

Get out. Exposure to nature and being outside has been linked to improved attention span, lower stress levels, and better mood.

Be thankful. As mentioned with breathwork, which can increase thankfulness, the opposite holds true in that practicing gratitude can help relieve stress and anxiety by putting things in perspective.

Stretch it out. Loosen up those muscles and relieve some of those aches and pains. Doing so for just 10 minutes a day has shown to help people feel less anxious.

Be crafty. As in arts and crafts. Studies show that drawing, pottery making, knitting, cross-stitching, puzzles, and other similar activities can significantly reduce anxiety. Perhaps the best part? You don’t even have to be good at them!

Pet a pet. As I’ve written again and again, simply petting a dog improves mood and relieves stress all while lowering cortisol levels. They’re not called “man’s best friend” for nothing.

Be a bird brain. It may sound crazy, but recent research shows that hearing or even seeing birds can make people feel calmer.

Tune out. It goes without saying to tune out of news cycles some, but also tune the tunes up. Music makes people often feel good and if you decide to dance to that music, symptoms of depression may decrease and feelings of well-being may increase.

Just say no. Sometimes saying “no” to something feels a whole lot better than always saying “yes.” I’m big on asking myself “What will you regret more: saying yes or saying no?” It’s ok to not have a calendar full of commitments and to allow yourself some you time to recharge and regroup.

Sniff away. Grab you some fresh lavender and sniff away as numerous studies show the calming power of lavender. Use lavender oil in a diffuser or put a few drops on a towel and just breathe it all in.

 

 

A few months ago, some friends and I went to see the movie “Roadmap to Reality,” a great film about Carlo Acutis, the first millennial Catholic saint. I’m fascinated and inspired by the young man who was an ordinary teenager and yet became the perfect role model for today’s generation. In fact, he is often called “God’s Influencer” and in today’s world of even the youngest of kids living on tablets and phones, his story is one everyone should learn about.

 

 

 

Proof that holiness and high-speed internet can peacefully coexist came to fruition today when Acutis was officially canonized by Pope Leo before thousands in Rome’s St. Peter’s Square. For all you non-Catholics out there, canonization is the official last step to sainthood. It follows his beatification by Pope Francis in 2020 when huge crowds watched the ceremony on giant LED screens that he would have loved to configure. Today’s ceremony comes a little more than a month after more than a million young people filled Rome for the 2025 Jubilee of Youth and is a heavenly sent date for the first influencer saint.

 

 

Acutis was born in London but his family soon moved to Italy and he was raised in Milan. He loved soccer and wore his favorite Nikes everywhere but was diagnosed with leukemia and died at age 15 in October of 2005. But, in his short life, he influenced many and his “digital evangelization” changed hearts and minds worldwide. He is buried in Assisi, home of one of his favorite saints and mine, St. Francis, and is appropriately dressed in his beloved sneakers, a sports jersey, and jeans. This “Saint in Sneakers” was influenced by many including, appropriately, former Apple CEO Steve Jobs, whose wisdom struck a chord with young Carlo when he said, “Your time is limited so don’t waste it living the life of someone else.”

 

 

For Acutis, information and technology should be seen as tools to share good news, to connect, and to do good. His goal was for us to use technology to lead toward truth and hope and to promote faith rather than undermine it all while not being controlled or manipulated by it. As the “Catholic Star Herald” wrote, Carlo also knew that a deep spirituality on the inside is the secret to a serene, consistent, and joyful disposition on the outside. He exemplified the inner beauty we all strive for and was a great person of holiness inside and out as he helped beggars, the disabled, immigrants, and the elderly.

 

 

“Why do people worry so much about their physical beauty but not about the beauty of their souls?” he often asked. As today’s teens, particularly females, struggle with online comparison and bullying, this question is not only timely but pure wisdom. “Happiness is looking towards God and sadness is looking towards yourself” he said as well as “Money is only ragged paper. What counts in life is the nobility of the soul and the way one loves God and loves one’s neighbor.” This vision from a saint that encourages young people not to settle for something beneath their dignity is truly a perfect example of someone who was wise beyond his years and who used modern technology for a good effect without wasting time or being distracted.

 

 

Other than his adeptness with technology and putting faith at our fingertips, Acutis also had a deep love for the Eucharist. When he noticed that Google featured more gossip than Gospel, he created a slick website that mapped Eucharistic miracles and Marian apparitions into one easy-to-use searchable site. Today that home-grown project has become a multilingual portal used by catechists, youth ministers, and others on every continent. At a time when many of his contemporaries were walking away from Mass, Acutis had the ultimate respect for the Body of Christ saying, “The Eucharist is my motorway to heaven.”

 

Ceremonies for Acutis’ official canonization haven’t been met without delay. His beatification ceremony was postponed due to the 2020 pandemic and his canonization was delayed for the papal funeral of Pope Francis. As with anything that’s meant to be however, it’s all come to be.

 

Today also marks the opening of the animated film, “Carlo Acutis: God’s Influencer,” which offers children and family to learn about his life and evangelization.

 

 

Acutis is the example young people need today and his canonization coincidentally comes at a time when young Americans are entering the Catholic Church in great numbers, an example being the more than 400 currently preparing to enter the Catholic Church at Texas A&M University’s St. Mary’s Center. It indeed appears that the Church is entering a period of renewed growth with more Americans joining the Catholic Church than leaving it for the first time in decades. Just as Acutis is considered a “cool” saint, Catholicism has become cool. Maybe it’s our new American Pope, maybe it’s an awakening, maybe it’s all divine intervention.

 

This “sacred surge” in the numbers of aspiring Catholics registering to join the church is led by a growing number of young adults, particularly those in their teens and 20s, who are defying decades of declining religious affiliation. It seems Gen Z and Millennials are seeking purpose, authenticity, meaning, normalcy, and tradition in an increasingly chaotic and confusing world. Driven by the pandemic, the highs and lows of the internet, and lax and questionable alternatives being offered, today’s younger generation is simply finding something beautiful and transcendent about the rituals and ancient history in Catholicism, its doctrines, and the mass.

 

 

According to the National Catholic Register, some dioceses are reporting increases of 30-70 percent in new converts and much of it is being driven by young men, who are now statistically more religious than young women. C’mon ladies! And America is not alone. The Catholic boom is also happening in France, which saw a 45 percent increase in the number of adult baptisms this year. In England, a surge in Mass attendance is resulting in Catholics outnumbering Anglicans for the first time since the Church of England was born while Austria is reporting an 85 percent increase in adult baptisms. The same is happening in Canada, Belgium, and Sweden.

 

 

All of this would be music to Carlo Acutis’ ears and would undoubtedly make him smile. Maybe today, and every day, take a minute to put faith at your fingertips as you scroll and post.

 

 

 

 

Also being beatified today is Peir Giorgio Frassati who, like Acutis, was an Italian young man who has been a global patron for young adults, athletes, and “ordinary people.” Frassati saw many parallels between Catholic life and his favorite sport, mountain-climbing. It was in nature that he connected most deeply with God and his simple quote, “Verson L’Alto,” which means “to the heights,” encapsulates his philosophy of mountaineering and his Catholic outlook on life and adventure. Frassati died in 1925 at the age of 24 but like him, we are called to go “to the heights” to encounter Christ and love in all things.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

We’ve all heard about them and many of us have actually been around one: an Emotional Support Animal, or ESA. We’ve likely read how they can be very beneficial but we’ve also read about the abuse of the privilege and outrageous requests to board planes or enter restaurants with the most outrageous of animals. Here’s a new one though: college students using ESAs to get accustomed to their new higher learning world.

 

 

Back to school is in full force right now and universities are filling dorms, apartments, and Greek houses with freshman and upper classmen. Leaving home and entering the new world of college life can be fun and exciting yet daunting and overwhelming. The college experience can be a whirlwind of challenges, personal growth, and forging friendships. Friend groups and campus organizations are helpful in getting settled at college, but a new entity has entered the chat room: ESAs.

 

 

It’s been documented again and again that our furry four-legged friends and family members go way beyond canine cuteness as they also provide comfort and companionship so why not allow them at college campuses? That, my friends, is the million-dollar question.

 

Yes ESAs, particularly dogs, provide so many benefits but those benefits might not gel with your new room, suite, hall, or classmates. Before even thinking about it, a student should consult with a mental-health professional such as a licensed therapist or psychiatrist who can assess the student’s emotional needs and determine whether an ESA is appropriate. After that, the next thing is to research your university’s housing policies. Keep in mind that ESAs are not covered under the Americans with Disabilities Act.

 

 

Something else to know is that ESAs aren’t the same as service or therapy animals. In general, service animals are trained to perform specific tasks for individuals with disabilities while therapy animals are trained to provide comfort in therapeutic settings. ESAs on the other hand, offer companionship and emotional support to individuals with mental health conditions or emotional challenges.

 

 

Anyone who knows me knows I’m a dog lover. I’ve owned them all my life and have worked with organizations that provide both service and therapy dogs. Two that stand out include the Austin Dog Alliance’s “Hounds for Heroes” program that trains and provides dogs for our nation’s wounded veteran heroes. I’ve also worked with the program in which autistic students gather for a small group learning activity, many of who exhibit anxious and nervous behaviors only to see those behaviors diminish simply by us volunteers walking in and having a dog sit next to them to pet.

 

College life can be lonely and stressful and many have found that interacting with an ESA can similarly help reduce stress levels and promote relaxation. In fact, spending time with a pet has been shown to lower cortisol and norepinephrine levels and increase oxytocin, a hormone associated with bonding and well-being.

 

College life can also feel isolating for students living away from home for the first time and ESAs can alleviate feelings of loneliness and seclusion. They can also act as social catalysts, bringing students together in shared spaces such as puppy playdates or dog parks. I’ve always said dog parks are some of the happiest places on earth…they’re happy place and our happy place…and what better place than a college campus for one?

 

 

They can also improve mood and overall emotional health by offering unconditional love, non-judgmental affection, and endless comfort. There’s nothing like puppy dog eyes gazing up at your if you’re sad or anxious. It’s not just emotional, it’s science!

 

That science also supports the idea that spending time with animals enhances and improves concentration and focus, which are especially beneficial during study sessions. The calming effect of dogs while studying can help students maintain a higher level of attention and hopefully absorption and learning.

 

 

If you sleep with your ESA dog in your bedroom or on your bed, studies also show you’ll sleep more soundly. The above famous “Dog on Bed” painting by Andrew Wyeth hangs above our bed and I must admit, it mimics our life! Researchers at the Mayo Clinic’s Arizona campus revealed that sleeping with animals in the bedroom actually helped participants achieve better quality sleep. Having your dog cuddle next to you is a very comforting feeling and the study showed that whether you sleep with a poodle or a Great Dane, you’ll sleep better. The old saying “let sleeping dogs lie” might just mean lie in your bed!

 

 

Lastly, having a dog ESA probably means you have to walk that dog, which means you’re getting exercise you might not otherwise if you didn’t have one. I don’t think I need to go into the physical, mental, and emotional benefits of physical activity.

 

 

According to the American Veterinary Association, more than 40 million American households have dogs. Now you can maybe add dorm rooms to that number. And while dogs and cats are the obvious ESA darlings, other animals like rabbits, birds, and reptiles can also provide companionship. And as adorable as the above puppy and kitten are, they probably aren’t the ideal choices for an ESA. Experts recommend a pet you aleady own and one that’s somewaht trained.

 

I’m a solid dog only vote here but even being the dog lover that I am, I personally can’t fathom having a dog when I was in college. Doing so is a huge commitment and spontaneity is not in the cards. Class and social schedules must jive with feeding and “taking out” schedules of Fido and to me that adds stress, not comfort! Anyone choosing to go that route needs to make sure they’re up for the responsibility and the ESA is up for college life. Still, if even one animal can provide security and strength for their one owner and not negatively impact anyone, I’m all for it. Think of yours as your own personal team mascot!

 

Happy September and happy the month of fall! That means football, hopefully cooler temps, and holidays. It also means three words: Pumpkin Spice Latte. The phenomenon associated with those words is, in a word, insane! Don’t get me wrong, I love coffee and I like a pumpkin flavored coffee but I’m not gah-gah over its arrival in virtually every coffee shop, grocery store, and restaurant. I’m clearly in the minority though.

 

 

 I’m here to say, however, that I loooooove pumpkin pie…it’s my favorite pie…and I’ll grab some pumpkin flavored coffee creamer at the store (I’m one of those who likes a little bit of coffee with her creamer!) but you won’t find me in line at Starbucks waiting to order a Pumpkin Spice Latte. When and if I do venture into a Starbucks, has it dawned on you that can be anyone you want in one. How? When they ask your name for your order, give them any name you want. My go to is Natasha but I’ve been known to give other (always appropriate) names. It’s most fun to do so when you’re with others and calmly watch the looks on their faces as you give a random name. Fun times!

 

But I digress.

 

Back to Pumpkin Spice Lattes.

 

 

This simple fall flavor has taken on a life of its own and is a full-fledged cultural phenomenon and we kinda have one place to thank for it: Starbucks. But, while everyone automatically thinks of the Seattle-based coffee giant, it didn’t truly invent the idea of a pumpkin pie coffee but it certainly made it famous.

 

But how, and why?

 

 

It all started back in 2003 when Starbucks Product Manager Peter Dukes was asked to create an autumn-themed drink that would match the success of the company’s Peppermint Mocha and Eggnog Latte drinks that had been met with great success for the winter and holiday months. The company was looking for a new fall drink that would blend comfort with warmth with originality. Even though pumpkin pie is a fall tradition, at the time pumpkin-flavored things weren’t common and the only items you’d find in a store were pies and canned pumpkin.

 

Dukes and his team huddled together and got to work.

 

 

After brainstorming possible fall favorites, they surveyed Starbucks customers online and when it came time to narrow the list down to four, chocolate-caramel, orange and spice latte, and a cinnamon streusel latte proved popular but not so much the “pumpkin pie latte.” The group was convinced that it was unique and could be a winner though and it made the final cut despite naysayers.

 

How it came about is equally interesting.

 

 

According to company lore, Dukes and company gathered to eat pumpkin pie while drinking espresso to try to figure out what parts of the pie paired best with espresso. They decided on pumpkin and spice and the rest is barista history.

 

Naming their concoction was another challenge. They threw out “Fall Harvest Latte” because although it tied in with the season, it didn’t describe what its flavors were. “Pumpkin Spice Latte” did just that. Debuting in Vancouver and Washington, D.C. in the fall of 2003, it was an immediate hit.

 

 

The drink is the perfect mix of spicey yet sweet and is made up of pumpkin, cinnamon, clove, nutmeg, milk, and Starbucks’ Signature Espresso steamed milk. It’s traditionally topped with whipped cream and pumpkin pie spices, making it not only yummy to drink but lovely to look at.

 

 

PSL officially went nationwide the following fall and since then has become a fall rite of passage and Starbucks’ most popular seasonal beverage. By some estimates, it’s the most popular beverage of all time and although Starbucks doesn’t share sales figures for individual drinks, many estimate sales of the drink are between $400-$800 million annually, putting a smile on corporate faces.

 

 

Quick to jump on its success, Starbucks now also offers a Pumpkin Cream Cold Brew, Iced Pumkin Cream Chai, and a Pecan Crunch Oatmilk Latte in addition to bottled Pumpkin Spice Latte, coffee creamer, K-cups, and ground coffee in retailers everywhere. It didn’t take long for competitors to grab a piece of the pumpkin-flavored drinks pie with Dunkin’ Donuts offering their own version as well as McDonald’s and even 7-Eleven.

 

 

And, take a look around your local grocery store and you’ll see pumpkin flavored cereals, pretzels, coffee creamers and even hair color and deodorant. A peek into pumpkin as a fashion or design trend is a whole other blog.

 

 

When it launched, the PSL was undeniably popular, but what is credited with putting it over the top is when it went viral and began popping up all over social media. In 2014 the Pumpkin Spice Latte joined Twitter, now X, and a similar Instagram account can be found.

 

To say pumpkin flavored coffee has gone mainstream is to put it mildly.

 

Don’t believe me? Check this out: in 2022 Merriam-Webster added “pumpkin spice” to its dictionary. My word.

 

 

As summer winds down and fall beckons, Dukes told people.com that he looks forward to seeing his creation warming hands and hearts around the world. Cheers to that!

 

The Pumpkin Spice Latte is now available at Starbucks and other outlets. Enjoy!

 

 

I saw one today. Actually, I saw two. Jeeps with rubber ducks on their dashboards. They are everywhere and as a lover of rubber ducks, I had to learn why. It’s actually a fun story, as is the history behind the little rubber toy. Let’s dive in…

 

 

According to “Reader’s Digest,” it all started back in 2020 in Ontario, Canada. Officially called “Jeep Ducking,” the movement started after Jeep owner Allison Parliament had an argument with someone at a gas station. Her friend tried to calm Parliament down and what seemed to do the trick was a bag of rubber ducks, one of which Parliament placed on a stranger’s Jeep with a simple “Nice Jeep” note. The Jeep owner loved it and posted it on social media. The rest is no lame duck history.

 

Not only do I love rubber ducks and collect them, I love that at the heart of Jeep Ducking is to put a smile on someone’s face. I’m not even a Jeep owner but when I see a dashboard full of little rubber ducks, it puts a smile on my face. You could say they quack me up!

 

 

I’m not sure when or why I became enamored with rubber ducks. Maybe it was their cheerful face or happy color. Today I have them in various spots in our home and I always try to purchase one on trips or at special events. My collection is quite extensive and a bit historic.

 

The origin of the rubber duck itself is also historic albeit humble. Maybe that’s what I like about them. They’re happy and they’re humble. Nothing fancy. Just cheery.

 

According to the Rubber Duck Museum in Point Roberts, Washington (how fun would that be for me?!), the origin of the rubber duck traces back to the late 19^th century with the advent of vulcanized rubber patented by Charles Goodyear. The material allowed for the production of a variety of rubber products like tires, but also toys. Hmmmm…very interesting, right?

 

 

It wasn’t until the 1940s that sculptor Peter Ganine patented a design for a floating toy duck and chew toy. Ganine is believed to have been the now familiar duck’s primary designer and reportedly sold more than 50 million of them.

 

 

The soft bath toy we all know and love today was originally made of hard rubber but later the advancement in materials led to the use of soft vinyl. By the early 1960s, the vinyl ducks were free from patent restriction and became bathroom fixtures. The cuteness of them and their iconic squeaker became childhood bath toys and joys and a soothing presence for children with apprehensions about being dipped into water. Children loved them so it’s fitting that it took a children’s TV icon to turn them into eternal icons.

 

 

Fast forward to 1970 when, on the first season of television show “Sesame Street,” beloved character Ernie splashed around in a tub while singing the “Rubber Duckie” song. (you’re singing it now, right?!) The song achieved widespread popularity, selling more than 1 million copies and reaching No. 16 on the “Billboard Hot 100” chart. It should come as no surprise then, that the classic yellow duck was “in-duck-ted” into the National Toy Hall of Fame in Rochester, NY in 2013.

 

 

Various rubber ducks have since appeared in movies, commercials, and art installations; are popular gifts and marketing tools; are stars of many charitable rubber duck races nationwide; and have their own National Rubber Duck Recognition Day every January 4. Some are the original yellow, but others now come in a variety of colors and themes including celebrities, sports teams, holidays, and famous destinations all while remaining a symbol of relaxation and childhood innocence. What’s not to love?

 

But back to Jeeps.

 

It’s no secret that Jeeps are more than cars. They are a lifestyle and their owners consider themselves part of a community with a shared passion for the brand of vehicles. It’s perfect then, that this community has its own little but growing tradition all its own.

 

 

So, can anyone “duck duck Jeep” or is it all just reserved for Jeep owners? My inkling is only Jeep owners receive and display their ducks but perhaps anyone can “duck” a Jeep owner. If you’re inclined, simply place a duck just outside a Jeep driver’s side window, near the windshield wiper, or in front of any inspection stickers. Traditional two-inch ducks are the norm and finding one should be a surprise. Other than all this, what I love of Jeep Ducking is that the trend isn’t an effort to bring or spread awareness about any specific cause (thank goodness…we have enough of those!) but is instead a simple and sweet way of bringing a smile to someone’s face…often a stranger, which is even cooler. In other words, the only rule of Jeep Ducking is kindness and adding joy to someone’s perhaps otherwise regular day.

 

What to do if you find a duck on your Jeep? Most say to take a photo of it and post it on social media with the hashtag #duckduckjeep. Then, put the duck on your dashboard. You can keep that duck forever or pay it forward and give it to another Jeep owner. Again, kindness is at the heart of it all.

 

 

All of this has not gone unnoticed by Jeep corporate, which proudly displayed an 8,000-pound, six-story-tall yellow duck at the North American International Auto Show in Detroit.

 

Learning this makes me smile and hopefully brought a smile to your otherwise normal or stressful day.

 

 

 

About The Rubber Duck Museum

The world’s first and only rubber duck museum is located in Point Roberts, Washington, which sits right near the U.S.-Canadian border near Vancouver, and features 30 rare historical rubber duck artifacts ranging from the early 1900s to today. The extensive collection includes a duck dating back to 1911, original rubber ducks used by Ernie on Sesame Street, and an original mold from the Donald Duck toy created by Disney in the 1930s. Also included are more than 2,000 ducks for sale ranging from standard to large sizes and featuring a variety of themes. Admission is free.

 

They are honored and acknowledged every May on Mother’s Day, but when you think about it, moms are everywhere all the time. Mother Nature. Mother-of-Pearl. Mother, may I? Mother lode. Mother Teresa. Hello Muddah. Mother Goose. Mother Hubbard. Mother Superior. Mother Mary. The Queen Mum. Mommie dearest. Mother Ship. Mother Earth.

 

The list goes on and on. You could say it’s the mother of all lists.

 

 

It’s been several weeks since my sweet momma officially left Mother Earth to be with Father God and two weeks since we said our final goodbyes. Each day is different but each and every day I think about her and miss her.

 

 

 

I look at photos of her. I look at big and little things I have around the house that were hers or that she gave me. And I look at photos of my childhood home in Santa Fe, which she lived in until a move to assisted living was needed as she hit her 90s. Photos of that beloved home are hard to look at. I can hear every drawer open and close. I can feel the carpet under my feet. And I can hear the front door open as she welcomed us home after a long drive. My memories in that home are infinite. I’d give anything to walk into it again but the buyer has remodeled and updated it. It would be fun to see his final product, but at the same time it wouldn’t be the same.

 

French novelist Marcel Proust’s writes that among many abiding lessons is that “a longing for our childhood home never leaves us. Wherever we live, we carry inside us a vision of the place in which we were, if not in every case happiest, then first conscious of the world beyond us.” I concur Mr. Proust.

 

 

Life wasn’t always perfect growing up, but my mom did her best and tried her best. She was there as I walked home for lunch in elementary school, making me a sandwich while ironing or watching “As the World Turns.” She bought us nice clothes for those special occassions like Christmas and Easter. She had class and style and was the envy of many for her beauty. She passed on beauty tips to my two sisters and me and taught me how to make green chile stacked enchiladas.

 

 

She was right there by my side as she and my dad drove me to school at the University of Oklahoma and she stood for both her and my dad at my wedding many years later. She was the quintessential “June Cleaver” mom and wife but she was also so dang strong. Yeah she also stood with me and for me, but she stood strong too.

 

My mom was my husband’s and my last surviving parent so I guess we’re officially orphans. We’re at that age where many friends are also members of that unenviable guild. But, as much as I will miss my mom, she lived a good life, albeit one that consisted of many years without her beloved husband and my dad, who passed away my senior year at college. She was 94 years old but our family will forever think of her as “folley-fo,” as she used to joke about being 44. Ironically, my niece and her granddaughter turned “folley-fo” this year.

 

Don’t blink.

 

 

Thank you mom. Thank you for giving me your Catholic faith and teaching me manners and style. Thank you for your prayers and your patience when I wasn’t making the greatest choices and decisions. Thank you for teaching me that perfume is always a must regardless of income or budget and for letting me have dogs growing up. Thank you for sacrificing for me…from out-of-state tuition to our beautiful wedding in Santa Fe all without dad there and for always being there for me. I’m who and where I am because of you and I am forever grateful.

 

 

 

And finally, thank so many of you. Thank you to the many friends and family members who have reached out, continue to reach out, and have filled my life with love and comfort. I’m still getting cards in the mail daily and I can’t thank y’all enough as each one makes my day and warms my heart. Masses are also being said, for which I’m forever grateful. And the flowers and plants. So many beautiful flowers and plants! Thank you, sweet friends, you know who you are and I will never forget your thoughtfulness. Lastly, thank you to those reading this who attended my mom’s mass and burial. They say it’s times like these that you learn who is truly there for you and I couldn’t agree more. From the bottom of my broken heart, thank you.

 

 

One special gift I received is a beautiful original watercolor of a cardinal from my four college buddies. As many believe, cardinals symbolize hope, love, good fortune, spiritual connection, and are often seen as messengers from loved ones who have passed away. Their vibrant red color is associated with vitality and the promise of new beginnings, making them a comforting presence during difficult times.

 

 

 

The symbolism of cardinals is deeply rooted in various cultures and beliefs, the most popular one probably being that when you see one, it’s a visit from a departed loved one. Cardinals also symbolize sincerity, loyalty, and love as they are monogamous birds. Native Americans associate them with good fortune and consider them lucky and believe cardinals are spiritual connectors between the earthbound and the divine. For many tribes, the northern cardinal is more than a bird; it’s a guide. Their red color, vibrant and fiery, is thought to embody vitality, energy, and significant change.

 

Within Christianity, the cardinal can represent the Blood of Christ, symbolizing renewal, sacrifice, and love and seeing them in of flight can symbolize a blessing from angels. Cardinals can live up to 15 years in the wild and seeing one is ultimately considered a blessing and a reminder to be attentive and grateful.

 

I’ve always found it interesting and even a bit unfair that much like peacocks and other birds, male cardinals are prettier, or I guess more handsome, then females. Seems to me it should be the opposite but what do I know? Sounds like something my mamma would know.

 

 

 

 

 

 

I saw the above meme online and I giggled. It made me smile and it made me wonder. What bill is that? Who is that statesman? Off to Google I went…

 

What I found was fascinating.

 

Take a look at an American dollar bill. That bill you’re holding first came off the presses in 1957 in its current design. And although we all call our currency “paper money,” it is in fact made from a cotton-linen blend mixed in with red and blue silk fibers. That blend makes the notes more difficult to counterfeit compared to paper and vastly improves its durability. Makes sense as haven’t we all washed money and it comes out just fine? Now we know why.

 

As for the ink, it too is special but its contents are a secret. But what we do know is that part of the reason money in the washer or pool comes out just fine is because it’s starched to make it water resistant. It’s also over-printed with symbols and then finally pressed to give it that nice, crisp look.

 

 

The current design of the United States one dollar bill technically dates to 1963 when the bill became a Federal Reserve Note as opposed to a Silver Certificate. However, many of the design elements that we associate with the bill were established in 1929 when all of the country’s currency was changed to its current size. Let’s pay a visit to what all is on a dollar bill.

 

 

On the front of a $1 bill, you’ll see a portrait painted by Gilbert Stuart of President George Washington front and center. Choosing him for this distinction has historical significance and the decision to do so dates back to 1869. It only makes sense as Washington, revered as the father of our country, played an instrumental role in leading the American Revolution, establishing the fledgling nation, and serving as its first president. His inclusion serves as a permanent tribute to his leadership during our nation’s early years.

 

To the right of Washington, you’ll see the United States Treasury seal and above it, scales symbolizing justice. In the center is a chevron with 13 stars representing the original 13 colonies and underneath it is a key embodying fair and honest measurement as well as locking things up for safe measure. At the very bottom of the seal is the year 1789, when the Department of the Treasury was established.

 

To the left of George Washington is the Federal Reserve District seal. The name of the Federal Reserve Bank that issued the note encircles a capital letter, identifying one of the 12  Federal Reserve Banks. The sequential numbers of the bank are displayed on the corners of the bill.

 

Finally, below the FRB seal (to the left of George Washington) is the signature of the Treasurer of the United States and below the USDT Seal on the right is the Secretary of the Treasury’s signature. To the left of the Secretary’s signature is the series date. Money in the bank you might say.

 

Now let’s flip it over.

 

 

You’ll see two circles on either side of “ONE,” both of which comprise the Great Seal of the United States. On the lefthand side is an unfinished pyramid of 13 tiers topped by probably the most mysterious symbol on a dollar bill, the Eye of Providence. A well-known Christian symbol of God’s benevolent watchfulness, the eye was included as a conventional symbol for God’s benevolent oversight. The pyramid itself signifies strength and duration and many also suggest its unfinished form represents America’s status as an unfinished creation.

 

At the base of the pyramid are the Roman numerals MDCCLXXVI for 1776, the year of American independence from Britain. At the top of the seal stands a Latin phrase, “ANNUIT COEPTIS”, meaning “He favors our undertakings.” At the bottom of the seal is a semicircular banner proclaiming “NOVUS ORDO SECLORUM” meaning “New Order of the Ages,” a reference to the new American era. To the left of this seal is a strand of 13 pearls extends that toward the edge of the bill.

 

On the right side of the back of an American dollar bill is an American bald eagle, wings spread as if in flight. The eagle grips 13 arrows in its left talon, emblematic of war, and an olive branch signifying peace in its right talon. The bird’s head is notably turned in the direction of the olive branch to exemplify the nation’s preference for peace.

 

Also notable is that the eagle appears behind an unsupported shield, representing the United States now standing on its own with strength and virtue and ultimate independence. The horizontal lines at the top of the shield represent Congress, while the vertical green and white stripes represent the red and white stripes of the American flag. There are also 13 stars floating above the eagle’s head. This portion of the Great Seal of the United States looks very similar to the Presidential Seal, which it’s based on.

 

 

Front and center on the back of a dollar bill are also the words “In God We Trust,” the official motto of the United States. It has appeared on U.S. coins since 1864 and its use on all paper currency originated in 1957. The motto was adopted to reflect the nation’s religious heritage. On July 30, 1956, two years after pushing to have the phrase “under God” inserted into the pledge of allegiance, President Dwight D. Eisenhower signed a law officially declaring “In God We Trust” the nation’s official motto. The law also mandated that the phrase be printed on all American paper currency. The phrase had been placed on U.S. coins since the Civil War when, according to the historical association of the United States Treasury, religious sentiment reached a peak. Eisenhower’s treasury secretary, George Humphrey, had suggested adding the phrase to paper currency as well.

 

 

Can you name who’s on the front of the other denominations of U.S. currency? “A Benjamin” may come to mind first, denoting Founding Father Benajmin Franklin on a $100 bill, but here are the rest: President Thomas Jefferson on the $2 bill, (my mom and dad always gave $2 bills in cards and gifts…I still have some stored away,) President Abraham Lincoln on the $5 bill, Founding Father and U.S. Treasury Secretary Alexander Hamilton on the $10 bill, President Andrew Jackson on the $20 bill, and President Ulysses S. Grant on the $50 bill.

 

And just for grins, Lincoln is also on the penny, Jefferson is also on the nickel, and Washington is also on the quarter. President Franklin D. Roosevelt sits on the front of a dime and President John F. Kennedy is on the half-dollar.

 

 

 

First of all, I had no idea Benjamin Franklin is credited for the quote on pennies and as for those pennies, you might indeed want to start saving them because after 233 years of production, the U.S. Treasury Department announced production of them will come to an end, the only ones available being those currently in circulation, and that pennies will stop being put into circulation early next year. The statement came following President Donald Trump announcing in February that production was going to stop this year as a cost-saving measure for the budget.The currency that is only worth 1 cent costs about 3.7 cents to make according to the U.S. Mint. Being that a nickel costs about 13.8 cents to make, could they be next?!

 

 

The United States dollar is the official currency of the United States and several other countries worldwide. The Coinage Act of 1792 introduced the U.S. dollar at par with the Spanish silver dollar, divided it into 100 cents, and authorized the minting of coins denominated in dollars and cents. U.S. banknotes are issued in the form of Federal Reserve Notes, popularly called greenbacks due to their predominantly green color.

 

 

The U.S. dollar became an important international reserve currency after the First World War, and displaced the pound sterling as the world’s primary reserve currency. The dollar is the most widely used currency in international transactions even in trade between countries other than the United States. . You can bank on it!

 

Such fun and “rewarding” learning all of this. Next up? The $5 bill. JK. You couldn’t pay me to do all the other bills. After all, it took research and writing time and time is money!

He’s crossed the Rainbow Bridge. I’ve heard that a lot the past few days as we had to put down our beloved Beagle Barry. It’s been rough. We miss him so much. We give our hearts to our dogs and they give them back. Loyal to a tee and undeniably Man’s Best Friend, dogs fill a place in our homes and our hearts that no one else really does. But what is that Rainbow Bridge? Come to find out it’s got a long history.

 

 

Originally written by Scottish teenager Edna Clyne-Rekhy in 1959 when her beloved dog Major passed, the Rainbow Bridge has become nearly ubiquitous when it comes to mourning an animal. Amazingly, the poem that has touched millions of pet owners remained largely authorless for years. Authorless perhaps for a time, but it still could be called one of the most influential pieces of literature ever written. That wasn’t the plan though.

 

 

According to American author Paul Koudounaris, who dug deep into the poem, Clyne-Rekhy penned the poem and figured it would remain hers and hers alone. After handwriting it, she sometimes typed out copies to give to friends who were so touched by it that they then passed it on. It made its way across the pond when it appeared in a “Dear Abby” advice column in the “Sacramento Bee” in 1994. The newspaper’s wide circulation guaranteed its popularity, which remains today.

 

The poem paints a picture of a meadow where a pet goes upon death, restored to perfect health and days full of play. One day however, the pet stops playing, turns around, smells up, and looks in the distance where it sees its beloved owner. The two run to each other, are reunited, and walk side-by-side across the Rainbow Bridge into heaven.

 

This may be contrary to some religious teachings, which believe animals don’t have an afterlife, but I for one hope and pray I will see my Barry and all former dogs in heaven. I picture them all with St. Francis, who loved animals, and am reminded of Romans 8 in which Paul the Apostle writes that God created all and all are “waiting redemption.” Since God created animals, maybe he means them too?

 

Also, in Rev 21:1-5, Pauls’ fellow Apostle John writes that “I saw a new heaven and a new earth, for the first heaven and the first earth had passed away.” Maybe that new earth included the animals of the old earth?

 

Some also say the rainbow is a reference to Noah and his Ark while the idyllic setting of the meadow, filled with loving and peaceful animals, could be in reference to Isaiah 11:6-9 that states:

 

The wolf will live with the lamb,
the leopard will lie down with the goat,
the calf and the lion and the yearling^[a] together;
and a little child will lead them.
⁷ The cow will feed with the bear,
their young will lie down together,
and the lion will eat straw like the ox.
⁸ The infant will play near the cobra’s den,
and the young child will put its hand into the viper’s nest.
⁹ They will neither harm nor destroy
on all my holy mountain,
for the earth will be filled with the knowledge of the Lord
as the waters cover the sea.

 

 

In any case, my heart is broken and I miss Barry so much. He was our “OB,” our “Original Beagle” and the sweetest of the bunch. We called him a “quirky little dog” because he had his ways that were both baffling and endearing. In between his two ACL replacement surgeries, fear of thunderstorms, incessant barking, insatiable appetite, and the colon cancer that eventually ended his life, was a boy who had the softest ears and was so obedient and loving. As is the case with all rescue dogs, we firmly believe he knows he was rescued and was forever grateful.

 

 

Bubbas, as our daughter affectionately called him, is missed by more than me and my hubby. His housemates Nick and Boomer still seem confused and a bit sad. It makes total sense though because dogs are inherently pack animals and they see their pack is missing a member. I’m trying to stay happy and playful with them despite my sorrow because dogs not only feel our pain and stress, they take them on. They are truly amazing animals.

 

 

Anyone who’s a fellow cynophile, which I’ve learned is a dog lover, has lost a beloved four-legged family member and knows the pain of doing so. It’s amazing how many people have reached out to me and the level of support from fellow dog owners is so different then that from those who aren’t dog obsessed. It’s the classic case of IYKYK.

 

In the end, Clyne-Rekhy had many dogs after Major and even used to rescue street dogs. When asked by Koudounaris what advice she had for anyone suffering from the loss of a pet, her response was immediate: get another pet. While we won’t be getting another dog since we are blessed with our other two, it’s great advice.

 

 

For now, we’re keeping Barry’s bowl and bed where they are and have his collar front and center in our family room with flowers my sweet neighbor gave me. We love and miss you, Barry. Run free and see you on the bridge someday!

 

 

The Rainbow Bridge

Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.

When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.

All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor. Those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by. The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.

They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent. His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.

You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.

Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together….

Like many of my generation, I have a curio cabinet filled with things that bring back memories and things that make me simile, all accumulated over the years, on trips, and as gifts. Two special items are fans. Yep, those fold-up hand-held fans but special nonetheless.

 

One I bought in Spain and one my niece brought me from Japan, where she lived for many years and where her husband is from. Often associated with both Spanish flamenco dancers and Japanese geisha dancers, fans are much more than simple accessories and have a long and interesting history.

 

To start with, there are basically two versions of the hand-held fan: the folding type and the rigid style. Both date back centuries, with ancient Hebrews, Greeks, and Romans all having been depicted using fans. The items are also mentioned in the Bible.

 

Some say the true origin of the fan goes back as far as 4,000 years and in Egypt, where it was considered a sacred instrument and used in religious ceremonies. It was also seen as a symbol of power and royalty and two fans were found in King Tut’s tomb. In fact, archaeological ruins from the 4^th century depict the use of fans.

 

From there it gets kinda hazy. Both Japan and China stake claim of inventing the modern-day fan and both countries have valid points and history. What is agreed upon is that the folding fan, modeled after the folding wings of a bat, came from Japan while the “fixed” or rigid version was developed in China It wasn’t until the Ming Dynasty that folding fans were introduced in China.

 

 

Originally fans were intended for practical reasons like swatting away insects, shielding a lady’s face from the sun or fire, and cooling one off. They were first used by the middle class, who didn’t have staff to fan them or take on household tasks using fans. Both folded and rigid fans became popular imports in 1500s Europe as trade routes opened up.

 

Fans quickly become exotic and stylish symbols of wealth and class, even falling into the “expensive toys” category. It didn’t take long for well-healed women to soon be seen carrying an assortment of hand-held fans, which were often decorated with jewels and feathers and hanging from the skirts of the likes of even Queen Elizabeth I. They eventually were considered works of art and created by specialized craftsman with many hand-painted on luxurious silk.

 

This was not the case across the ocean in America though, where the fan had much more humble origins. Fans stateside were rarely jewel-encrusted or hand-painted. Instead, they were often produced and mended by the likes of Shakers and made from straw or paper.

 

 

Fast-forward to today, where in Japan the folding fan remains very important in Japanese society and culture; even in that of sumo wrestling. A traditional fan is made from washi paper while fans made of silk are considered the most precious. A fan symbolizes prosperity through its opening up and its single starting point and wooden strips going out from it resemble the various paths leading us through life after the single point of birth.

 

The color of and pictures on a fan are also full of meaning. A pair of birds symbolize a loving couple, bamboo and pine represent patience, a lion symbolizes strength, a koi carp represents luck and a long life, plum blossoms represent a new beginning, while cherry blossoms represent the love of parents as well as richness and good luck. Typically, fans will consist of an odd number of pictures, as odd numbers are considered lucky.  Gold colored fans are believed to attract wealth while red and white ones are considered to bring luck.

 

 

In Spain, fans go hand-in-hand, both literally and figuratively, with classic flamenco dancing. It’s believed that both the fans and shawls used in flamenco originally came from China and Japan but Spaniards have made them uniquely their own through their passionate dance.  Popular products coming through Portugal through trade routes and it didn’t take long for fans to become sought after items, especially by those in Southern Spain where the weather is hot and flamenco originated.

 

Growing up my sisters and I took flamenco lessons and I still love the dance to this day. It is considered a very seductive dance that incorporates emotion, grace, and style in a performance full of power and passion. If you’ve never seen a live flamenco performance, I highly recommend doing so.

 

 

Brides have jumped on board the fan wagon and fans are making their way down wedding aisles in many forms. One way is to provide folded versions for outdoor wedding guests while another option is a more rigid version complete with wedding party or wedding schedules printed on them. Another popular trend is to incorporate fans in a bridal or bridesmaid bouquet.

 

The fashion world has of course not missed the boat on this one, with many a fashion house incorporating fans on their runways and splashing their logos on fans of all fashions.  So in style are fans, that designer versions were given to front row VIPS at a recent Dior Couture show, of course emblazoned with the design house name and logo.

 

Ironically it was Dior’s home of Paris where Jean-Pierre Duvelleroy launched his fan house in 1827 and it stands today as one of the rare French fan makers still in existence. The well-known French fan maker and leather goods manufacturer is credited with introducing the notion of “fan language” to his fans. Some say it was just a marketing ploy by him and other manufacturers to sell fans, but I personally like the concept; a concept that has never been fully debunked.

 

 

In the courts of early England and Spain, it was said that fans were used in, yes, a secret and unspoken language of sorts. These hand messages were clever in that they allowed a woman the ability to cope with stifling and restrictive social etiquettes. And according to a recent exhibit on the history of fans at Purdue University, Joseph Addison, publisher of “The Spectator” in the early 1700s, is credited with opening an academy for women to be trained in the use and handling of a fan, saying “women are armed with fans as men with swords and sometimes do more execution with them.” Amen sistas!

 

So, what exactly was this secret language? Jules Duvelleroy’s “Language of the Fan” leaflets included a code supposedly used by women for centuries. True or not, I’m a fan.

 

Some of those codes were:

• “We are watched”: Twirl the fan in the left hand
• “Follow me”: Carry the fan in the right hand in front of face
• “Do not betray our secret”: Cover the left ear with the open fan
• “I hate you”: Draw the fan through the hand
• “I love you”: Draw the fan across the cheek
• “I wish to speak to you”: Touch the tip of the fan with the finger
• “Yes.”: Let the fan rest on the right cheek
• “No”: Let the fan rest on the left cheek
• “You are cruel”: Open and shut the fan
• “We will be friends”: Drop the fan
• “I am married”: Fan slowly
• “I am engaged”: Fan rapidly
• “Kiss me”: Bring the handle of the fan to the lip

 

With the heat of the summer upon us, maybe it’s time to fan up and speak the language!