Beyond Words

Are you getting tired of your winter wardrobe and ready to start springing ahead with some springtime fashion? Well, since we have perhaps a few weeks before we can officially start doing that both season and weather-wise, let’s just consider a few tips from those who know best.

And no, that’s not me, although I do love fashion. I also love that the Ralph Lauren style trend is back. This timeless established elegance and sophisticated taste that’s pedigreed, quality, and anything but trendy was never really out of style in my book. It’s also big in home décor and is said to be evidence that we are all craving stability and longing for what’s been lost. Amen to that!

I say I like fashion but perhaps maybe what I like more is style. Simple, elegant, timeless, comfortable, and put-together style. And there is a big difference between the two. American TV personality, author, lifestyle consultant, and style advisor Clinton Kelly says it this way: “Fashion is the stuff designers offer for sale in any given season. Style is the stuff you choose to put on your body. It’s the plate you take from the fashion buffet.” In a nutshell, fashion is what you buy and style is what you do with it. Fashion is fleeting but style is timeless. One other way to put it is to think of fashion draped in brands and trends and tied to upscale designers. It’s easy to walk into a Chanel boutique and come out with something fabulous but to walk into a Target and come out with something stylish takes a lot more than money to accomplish.

There are many perfect current examples of impeccable style out there, including Kate Middleton, Melania Trump, Michelle Yeoh, Emma Stone, Sofia Richie, and Octavia Spencer. Always classic. Always classy. Always consistent. They echo those from the past like Jackie O and Princess Di. Someone who perhaps best lived by this rule and who is connected to Jackie O and is forever at the top of any style list is the late Carolyn Bessette Kennedy. Her life and marriage to John F. Kennedy, Jr. is the current subject of a popular television series, “Love Story,” and is worth a watch.

Fame aside, Bessette Kennedy was elegant yet understated style to a T…white tee or tea length khaki pencil skirt. No better example of this was her simple wedding dress by then little know designer Narcisco Rodriquez. For someone who could have worn anything and had the biggest wedding ever, she and JFK, Jr., instead opted for a private wedding in a tiny wooden chapel in secluded Georgia. Love it.

Think “quiet luxury” like in “Succession” and Kendall Roy’s understated logo-less Loro Piana ballcap, not any “Real Housewives” in head-to-toe logos and Birkins in every color. As they say, money talks, wealth whispers.

Preppy is also refinding its fashion presence, back and back in a big way since its explosion in the 1980s. Not only did Lauren’s spring 2026 runway showcase it, so did those of Prada, Brunello Cucinelli, Dior, and Fendi. As “Town and Country” put it, these markers of constancy, tradition, and elegance such as polo shirts, navy blazers, khakis, sweaters, and penny loafers are the stuff legends are made of. Their enduring appeal can perhaps come down to one word: appropriateness. They style emotes luxury but logos are kept to a whisper and nothing is too perfect. It was huge when I was in college and many are saying Gen Z is turning back to it as a way of showing their craving of nostalgia, something deeper, and even what it means to be American. Amen and thank you Olympics!

So how do you know what’s a trend and what’s a fad? A fad is generally popular for a short period of time while a trend is sometimes but not always a fad that withstands the test of time. Once popular fads that faded include flapper dresses, neon clothes, and shoulder pads as opposed to those that are still somewhat trending like bell bottoms and maxi skirts. A word to the wise that I heard years ago and still live by is that if you wore it the first time it was a fad, when it comes back in style, you’re too old to wear it.

So, what should you wear and what should you buy to pull off this low-key but stylish look? One good tip is the high-low mix. Pair a Prada bag with a Zara dress or wear Tod’s loafers with Old Navy jeans. In other words, don’t go all in with designer or high-end; keep it simple and keep it subtle.

Spend your money on good shoes and good purses…as I like to say, they always fit! You wear these often and they will make any outfit look more expensive. Maybe some sunglasses too and a statement piece of jewelry like an expensive but discreet necklace. An incredible blazer and a well-fitting Little Black Dress are also closet must-haves and pay attention to fabric. Cashmere will also look better than synthetics. Wardrobe buys should also consider the Big 3: casual, work, and special occasions. When you find something, you love like a pair of shoes, buy them in bulk. My go-to’s right now are Rothy’s Birdie’s, Brookes, and Tod’s with a few dressy pumps thrown in. Consider that it’s estimated 20 percent of your clothes are worn 80 percent of the time.

Don’t be afraid to try new things though. Have your staples and some solid mix and match items but have fun too! Wear what makes you feel happy and confident and as my daughter once told me, wear what makes you feel pretty!

Lastly, be aware of knock offs and fast fashion. Yes, they may be waaaay more affordable but production of them could be something you prefer not to support. There are several streaming documentaries that are worth watching that detail their overproduction, low quality, and environmental waste. Their instant creation also leads to trend fatigue.

Okay, now that we’ve got all that covered, here’s what experts say are items every woman should have in her closet:

The Workhorse White Shirt. Always have a crisp and ironed white blouse ready to go. I have a few, ranging from high-end to my favorite from Old Navy. It’s amazing how you can dress one up or dress one down. Caroline Bessette swore by them and often wore JFK, Jr’s oversize ones.

A Piece of Legacy Jewelry. Something standout or sentimental that you treasure. I tend to wear the same jewelry everyday to everything. I might thrown on a pair of fun earrings depending on the occasion, but my diamond studs and favorite watch and bracelet go with me everywhere.

The Little Black Dress. Nothing new here, as the LBD has been around since Audrey Hepburn and maybe even before. Keep it simple though, which will allow you to dress it up or keep it casual.

Pearls. Probably the most classic IYKYK. Just ask Jackie.

Comfy Shoes. I have a closet of these and like I said above, when you find a brand and style you love, buy them in bulk!

A Great Fitting Bra. This one is a tough one for me. Consider getting an in-store bra fitting and be prepared to spend some money on one but know that a good one makes all the difference. When you find one, buy several and buy in beige and black. Nothing screams “ick” more than a tan bra showing under a black top.

A Good Blazer. This one is a tough one for me too. I have several but it seems like every time I put one on it just doesn’t look right. If I had to choose, my faves are a classic khaki one and my tuxedo-style one.

A Good Coat. Trench coats were once all the rave and still are in some parts, but if it’s not your style go with a more simple jacket or even a nice puffer.

Diamond Stud Earrings. These little sparklers never go out of style and go with everything. They don’t have to be giant, which IMO are a bit much, and these days they don’t even have to be “real.” My local jeweler who I love swears by lab grown diamonds. Google them. You’ll be surprised.

So, there’s what you should be wearing but what about what you shouldn’t be wearing? Of course there’s the standard “just because it fits doesn’t mean it looks good” and the “dress your age” tips, but there’s others that have nothing to do with actual clothing, including these from Courtney Carver of the brilliant “Be More With Less:”

Stop Wearing the Guilt of Your Past. Guilt and regret serve no one well. Let go of guilt the same way you let go of a piece of clothing that doesn’t serve you well anymore.

Stop Wearing the Pressure to Prove Yourself. Yes, this can be fashion-related and we often dress to impress others, but what you wear is not always an indicator of what you’ve accomplished. Once you stop proving yourself, you can be yourself.

Stop Wearing the Weight of Other’s Expectations and Judgements. As Mel Robbins writes, “Let Them.” Let them judge you, let them expect something from you, and let them be them. You be you. Caring less about what other people think is the ultimate form of self-care. Usually, when we think people are thinking about us, they aren’t.

So there you have it; what to wear and what not to wear. But like I said, wear what makes you happy and what makes you feel pretty!

It’s time to “spring forward” tonight and you know what that means. Sadly, it means we lose one hour of sleep. When your local time hits 2 a.m. tonight, turn your clocks forward one hour. Technology automatically will do this on phones, tablets, computers, etc., but for any of you who still have old school clocks (like me!) or even microwaves and ovens, as you lay yourself down to sleep, set your them all forward one hour. More about all this later, but first, did you know “spring forward fall back” is a mnemonic? A what?! Stay with me…

First, how in the world do you pronounce that crazy word and what does it mean? The oddly spelled word is pronounced “nih-mah-nick” and mnemonics are techniques or strategies used to improve memory and help one remember something. IE: “spring forward, fall back.” Easy peasy!

Named for Mnemosyne, the goddess of memory in Greek mythology, mnemonics are also called memoria technica or Latin for “memory technique,” and were used by ancient Greeks and Romans, philosophers, and are frequently referred to by Plato and Aristotle. It sounds so serious, but it’s actually fun!

Think about it.

“Lefty loosey, righty tighty.”

Holding up fingers to remember proper place settings and which glass and butter plate are yours. If you don’t know this trick, follow along: hold your left hand up and make the “ok” sign and then do the same with your right hand. As you look at your hands, you’ll notice the left hand looks like a small letter b and your right hand looks like a small letter d. The b stands for bread and the d stands for drinks. Your bread plate is on the left of your place setting, and your drink glasses are on the right side of your place setting. Need to do this discreetly as your seated? Place your hands on your thighs under the table. Shhhhh!

Another trick is to remember “BMW.”  In order, Bread is on your left, the Meal is in the center, and Water/Wine are on the right.

Sayings can be so helpful, as the popular Texas one, “red and yellow kill a fellow, red and black friend of Jack” to help distinguish venomous Coral Snakes from similar looking non-poisonous ones. Also, “Leaves of three, let them be,” to identify poison ivy.

Other tricks include using acronyms. This is when you combine the first letter in a group of words to combine a new word like “HOMES” for the five Great Lakes: Huron, Ontario, Michigan, Erie, and Superior or “GOAT” for Greatest of All Time.” Best of all, an acronym doesn’t even have to be a real word, such as “NATO” for North American Treaty Organization and “NASA” for National Aeronautics and Space Administration.

It may be an ancient trick but modernity and technology have jumped on board ASAP (as soon as possible!) Think “PIN” for Personal Identification Number and “Wi-Fi” for Wireless Fidelity

Sayings are also common such as “Richard of York” for the colors of the rainbow: red, orange, yellow, green, blue, indigo and violet or “My very easy method just speeds up naming planets” for Mercury, Venus, Earth, Mars, Jupiter, Saturn, Uranus, Neptune, and poor little Pluto.

Songs often work too, such as the ABC song to help children learn the alphabet. You can even create your own mnemonic tune by choosing a song you know well and create new lyrics using words of things you want to remember to the tune of that song.

Props can also be used such as “The Knuckle Method” for remembering the number of days in the months of the Julian and Gregorian calendars. Not familiar with it? Here’s how it works:

1. Make a fist.
2. Start counting from the first knuckle as January.
3. Each knuckle represents a month with 31 days.
4. The valleys between the knuckles represent months with fewer days (30 or 28/29 for February).
5. After July (the fourth knuckle), return to the first knuckle for August.

Cool right? I find this much easier than “30 days has September, April, June, and November; all the rest have 31 excepting February alone” but take your pick.

Amazingly, it’s not just fun and games as studies have shown that the use of mnemonics have shown the effectiveness of using them. In fact, research shows that learning is more efficient when people use mnemonic devices and tricks.

So how did we get here? It’s all due to “Spring forward.” But why do we even do it and what is Daylight Saving Time?

The idea of turning clocks forward one hour during the summer was first conceived by New Zealander George Hudson back in 1895 but it wasn’t really until April of 1916 when the German Empire and Austria-Hungary first used DST as a way to conserve coal during WWI. Britain followed suit as did the U.S. in 1918 and the idea of “saving” as much daylight as possible became especially popular during the 1970’s energy crisis.

Daylight Saving Time is the practice of setting the clocks forward during part of the year to make better use of natural light. It’s usually one hour ahead of standard time, runs from spring to autumn, and is when sunrise and sunset will be about one hour later meaning there will be more light in the evening and less in the morning.

You might think changing the clocks twice yearly creates more daylight—after all, it’s called Daylight Saving Time. But in reality, the total amount of daylight doesn’t change with the distribution of daylight hours merely shifted.

Two main misconceptions about DST are that it wasn’t primarily intended to benefit farmers and it’s often referred to as Daylight Savings Time, but the correct term is Daylight Saving Time.

Daylight Saving Time remains unpopular for many and continues to spark political debate on both sides of the Atlantic. In the U.S., public support is low—just 33% of Americans see its purpose, according to a Rasmussen poll and state lawmakers have introduced more than 750 bills and resolutions to change or end DST. Thus far, Hawaii and Arizona are the only two states that do not observe daylight saving time.

But so it goes and every other state will be adhering to “Spring forward” tomorrow so I guess we’ll all just have to bite the bullet.

Happy New Year! Say what? Yep, a new year started February 17 and is now in full swing. But wait, didn’t the new year begin January 1? Yes, it did…the traditional new year linked to the Gregorian calendar introduced by Pope Gregory XIII in 1582…but the Lunar New Year started February 17. In Chinese zodiac tradition, each year is associated with one of 12 animals and one of five elements: wood, fire, earth, metal, and water. This year ushers in the Year of the Fire Horse, which is predicted to gallop in bold moves, increased intentions, boldness, ambition, and energy. Now I’m not big on Chinese legends or the zodiac, but I do like horses and our daughter did Hunter-Jumping and Dressage back in the day, so I’m running with it…excuse the pun.

“Courage is being scared to death but saddling up anyway.”
John Wayne

So, what exactly does all this mean? According to calm.com as a new lunar cycle begins, people look to the year’s symbolism for a sense of direction or insight into what might lie ahead. According to Asian astrology, your birth year and the animal it represents determine your personality traits. Horses thrive on speed, energy, and forward momentum and paired with fire; those qualities tend to intensify. Giddy up!

Horse years can be like taming a horse and are often described as active with an emphasis on forward progress and may coincide with upheaval, cultural shifts, opportunity, bold collective movements, renewed passion, and pushing for radical change. When paired with fire, elements are intensified. Emotions can run high and drive can be intense. People born in a Horse year are commonly characterized as energetic, independent, driven, social, and self-directed. The year is predicted to propel one into fast forward motion and intentional goals and it makes sense, as what do we know about horses? They run!

All we need do is look back to the last Year of the Fire Horse to get an idea of what this year might bring.  Because an element rotates alongside the animal signs, the same combination only returns once every six years, with the previous one being 1966. IYKYK, right?

That was a year filled with a lot of horsing around, including the Vietnam War, protests, race riots, coups, worldwide nuke tests, the space race, Miranda Rights, the establishment of NOW and the Freedom of Information Act. It also brought us India’s first ever female Prime Minister; The Sound of Music Academy Award; and hit TV shows like Mary Tyler Moore Show, Star Trek, and Newlywed Game. Sports heroes included Hull, Chamberlain, Mayes, Petty, Unitas, and Ali. Perhaps through all of, what spoke loudest was music with hits by Simon and Garfunkle, the Beatles, Frank Sinatra, the Rolling Stones, the Beach Boys, Mamas and the Papas, the Monkees, Neil Diamond, and Jimi Hendrix. Songs like “Sounds of Silence” and “The Battle of the Green Berets” will forever be tied to that year and era. Sadly, on November 24, 400 died of respiratory failure and heart attacks due to New York City smog, which was the smoggiest day in the city’s history. The city is again in the spotlight right now and once again the air is again dubious.

Funny tidbit: the most popular car in 1966 was the Ford Mustang!

But I digress.

Let’s go back to Fire Horse 2026!

This is apparently the year to put plans into action and make moves with increased activity and stronger expression while taking into account the following qaulities associated with the Year of the Fire Horse:

1. Momentum and ambition. This year may be driven by progress and visible results and people may feel impatient yet ready to take action. Dare to show your abilities along with your imperfections, share your skills, believe in yourself, and embody the spotlight! Remember, the more open you are, the more doors open.
2. Courage and visibility. Fire is connected with confidence and speaking up so this year may be the perfect time to share ideas or take the lead.
3. Independence and self-direction. A horse is linked with personal freedom and even restlessness with a powerful drive for freedom, self-expression, and breaking away from limitations. As a result, there may be a stronger desire to make independent choices or question things.
4. Restlessness. Progress will be strongly desired, so when it feels slow, frustration may build up.
5. Impulsivity and reactivity. Both fire and horses are associated with speed so decisions and moves may happen quickly but think them out and move cautiously and smartly.

Given these vibes, how should you proceed? You may feel the need to push actions, express strong opinions, and feel motivated but stay clear of overstimulation and impulsive moves. Do so by:

1. Choose a clear direction before moving forward. Clarify your direction and ask why you’re considering making certain decision. In other words, hold your horses a bit!
2. Break up goals into grounded steps. Easy does it. Increased energy can cause urgency but break things up into specific steps. You might want to trot or canter before galloping.
3. Schedule rest. Think of life as a Sabbath…a day of rest. When motivation increases, rest is often the first thing to go but over time, that can lead to irritability, fatigue, and burnout. Put your phone away. Listen to a meditation. Reflect. Go outside. Rest!
4. Practice pausing before reacting. I’ve previously chosen “pause” as my word of our traditional new year’s resolutions and boy does it make a difference, whether pausing before acting, thinking, or speaking. Yes, press forward, but strive for balance and grounding too.
5. Strengthen boundaries. This one is a must every year and pretty much every day. Even things that seem good and positive require time and energy. Ask yourself if it’s truly worth either of those and consider your capacity and load. Personally, I’ve regretted saying “yes” way more than I have saying “no.” No is okay!
6. Define what independence means for you. Horses are often linked to independence, but independence does not need to mean not asking for help or speaking up about your needs. Comfort plays a big role here.

Whether you say yay or “nay” to all of the above, it’s a good idea to be intentional about how you move forward this year and how you respond to possible faster pace. Saddle up but pause before making big decisions, protect time to rest, and honestly consider whether a move a decision is in your best interest. Don’t put the cart before the horse but pony up and take the reins or your life!

A friend of mine recently posted these graphics by Chantal Russell and I loved them so much I thought I’d share them here. Enjoy!

Happy New Year! Say what? Yep, a new year started February 17 and is now in full swing. But wait, didn’t the new year begin January 1? Yes, it did…the traditional new year linked to the Gregorian calendar introduced by Pope Gregory XIII in 1582…but the Lunar New Year started February 17. In Chinese zodiac tradition, each year is associated with one of 12 animals and one of five elements: wood, fire, earth, metal, and water. This year ushers in the Year of the Fire Horse, which is predicted to gallop in bold moves, increased intentions, boldness, ambition, and energy. Now I’m not big on Chinese legends or the zodiac, but I do like horses and our daughter did Hunter-Jumping and Dressage back in the day, so I’m running with it…excuse the pun.

“Courage is being scared to death but saddling up anyway.”
John Wayne

So, what exactly does all this mean? According to calm.com as a new lunar cycle begins, people look to the year’s symbolism for a sense of direction or insight into what might lie ahead. According to Asian astrology, your birth year and the animal it represents determine your personality traits. Horses thrive on speed, energy, and forward momentum and paired with fire; those qualities tend to intensify. Giddy up!

Horse years can be like taming a horse and are often described as active with an emphasis on forward progress and may coincide with upheaval, cultural shifts, opportunity, bold collective movements, renewed passion, and pushing for radical change. When paired with fire, elements are intensified. Emotions can run high and drive can be intense. People born in a Horse year are commonly characterized as energetic, independent, driven, social, and self-directed. The year is predicted to propel one into fast forward motion and intentional goals and it makes sense, as what do we know about horses? They run!

All we need do is look back to the last Year of the Fire Horse to get an idea of what this year might bring.  Because an element rotates alongside the animal signs, the same combination only returns once every six years, with the previous one being 1966. IYKYK, right?

That was a year filled with a lot of horsing around, including the Vietnam War, protests, race riots, coups, worldwide nuke tests, the space race, Miranda Rights, the establishment of NOW and the Freedom of Information Act. It also brought us India’s first ever female Prime Minister; The Sound of Music Academy Award; and hit TV shows like Mary Tyler Moore Show, Star Trek, and Newlywed Game. Sports heroes included Hull, Chamberlain, Mayes, Petty, Unitas, and Ali. Perhaps through all of, what spoke loudest was music with hits by Simon and Garfunkle, the Beatles, Frank Sinatra, the Rolling Stones, the Beach Boys, Mamas and the Papas, the Monkees, Neil Diamond, and Jimi Hendrix. Songs like “Sounds of Silence” and “The Battle of the Green Berets” will forever be tied to that year and era. Sadly, on November 24, 400 died of respiratory failure and heart attacks due to New York City smog, which was the smoggiest day in the city’s history. The city is again in the spotlight right now and once again the air is again dubious.

Funny tidbit: the most popular car in 1966 was the Ford Mustang!

But I digress.

Let’s go back to Fire Horse 2026!

This is apparently the year to put plans into action and make moves with increased activity and stronger expression while taking into account the following qaulities associated with the Year of the Fire Horse:

1. Momentum and ambition. This year may be driven by progress and visible results and people may feel impatient yet ready to take action. Dare to show your abilities along with your imperfections, share your skills, believe in yourself, and embody the spotlight! Remember, the more open you are, the more doors open.
2. Courage and visibility. Fire is connected with confidence and speaking up so this year may be the perfect time to share ideas or take the lead.
3. Independence and self-direction. A horse is linked with personal freedom and even restlessness with a powerful drive for freedom, self-expression, and breaking away from limitations. As a result, there may be a stronger desire to make independent choices or question things.
4. Restlessness. Progress will be strongly desired, so when it feels slow, frustration may build up.
5. Impulsivity and reactivity. Both fire and horses are associated with speed so decisions and moves may happen quickly but think them out and move cautiously and smartly.

Given these vibes, how should you proceed? You may feel the need to push actions, express strong opinions, and feel motivated but stay clear of overstimulation and impulsive moves. Do so by:

1. Choose a clear direction before moving forward. Clarify your direction and ask why you’re considering making certain decision. In other words, hold your horses a bit!
2. Break up goals into grounded steps. Easy does it. Increased energy can cause urgency but break things up into specific steps. You might want to trot or canter before galloping.
3. Schedule rest. Think of life as a Sabbath…a day of rest. When motivation increases, rest is often the first thing to go but over time, that can lead to irritability, fatigue, and burnout. Put your phone away. Listen to a meditation. Reflect. Go outside. Rest!
4. Practice pausing before reacting. I’ve previously chosen “pause” as my word of our traditional new year’s resolutions and boy does it make a difference, whether pausing before acting, thinking, or speaking. Yes, press forward, but strive for balance and grounding too.
5. Strengthen boundaries. This one is a must every year and pretty much every day. Even things that seem good and positive require time and energy. Ask yourself if it’s truly worth either of those and consider your capacity and load. Personally, I’ve regretted saying “yes” way more than I have saying “no.” No is okay!
6. Define what independence means for you. Horses are often linked to independence, but independence does not need to mean not asking for help or speaking up about your needs. Comfort plays a big role here.

Whether you say yay or “nay” to all of the above, it’s a good idea to be intentional about how you move forward this year and how you respond to possible faster pace. Saddle up but pause before making big decisions, protect time to rest, and honestly consider whether a move a decision is in your best interest. Don’t put the cart before the horse but pony up and take the reins or your life!

A friend of mine recently posted these graphics by Chantal Russell and I loved them so much I thought I’d share them here. Enjoy!

Happy Valentine’s Day everyone! Here’s hoping you’re surrounded by love and all things pink and red.  But, shouldn’t the day’s message of love stick around all year? Long after the roses have died, the cards have been tossed or saved, and candy has been eaten, the love behind them should last and linger. That’s how St. Valentine would have wanted it and that’s how he lived. There was a real man named Valentine and maybe it’s time to learn about him and why we even have a Valentine’s Day.

Valentine, and yes, that was his real name, was a priest who served in third century Rome. During that time, Claudius II was emperor and at some point decided that single men made better soldiers than those who were married. He outlawed marriage for young men in hopes of building a stronger military but Valentine thought the decree was unfair and wanted to help Christians who were being persecuted so he continued to marry young couples. He strongly believed people should get married and secretly performed weddings throughout Rome. When Claudius found out about this, he sentenced Valentine to prison.

While imprisoned, Valentine was relentlessly asked to renounce his actions and his faith but he refused. Sent to another prison, Valentine is said to have written little messages to family and friends to let them know he was well and that he loved them. He would also pray with and befriended a guard whose daughter was blind and had asked Valentine to heal her sight. It is said that just days before his execution, Valentine prayed over the girl, touched her eyes, and she regained her eyesight. Word travelled fast, and upon hearing about this, many turned to Christianity. Claudius was not amused or impressed and quickly condemned Valentine to death. The night before his execution, Valentine wrote to the young girl and signed it, “From your Valentine.” The phrase became popular and today is still used on cards everywhere.

Stoned and beheaded on February 14, 269, St. Valentine was initially buried in Rome but in the 19th century, an Irish priest, Father John Spratt, obtained some of St. Valentine’s remains and the relics were brought to Dublin, Ireland, in 1836. Today, parts of St. Valentine’s remains are housed in the Whitefriar Street Church in Dublin. The church features a shrine that includes a casket containing his bones and a vial of his blood. Various churches across Europe also claim to possess relics of St. Valentine, including locations in Dublin, Rome, Glasgow, Prague, and Madrid. Each site has its own story regarding the saint’s remains.

All that proves just how popular Valentine was and to this day, not only is Valentine’s Day a holiday in the U.S., it’s celebrated worldwide. In Japan, chocolate is more beloved than even stateside while in Denmark, flowers are also given to loved ones on the holiday. In both Italy and Germany it’s strictly an adult and “lovers only” holiday while Mexico officially calls it a Day of Love and Friendship. St. Valentine is considered the Patron Saint of Spring in Slovenia but perhaps the holiday is celebrated biggest in France.

We all know that Paris is known as the “City of Love” and that couples used to attach locks on the Pont des Arts Bridge and throw keys into the River Seine on Valentine’s Day, but the practice was halted due to the weight of the locks and their potential damage to the historic bridge.  The French village of St. Valentin is decked in flowers on Valentine’s Day and is a popular destination for weddings, vow renewals, and engagements. How lovely would that be?!

St. Valentine is the Patron Saint of love, young people, and happy marriages, which makes me happy being that I was married a day later on February 15 and tomorrow we will celebrate our 40^th anniversary!  Considering the fact that Valentine saw to it that couples were united in marriage, it’s quite fitting that the holiday of love is named after him. Valentine’s favorite words were “Love one another as I have loved you” and I’m thinking they’re pretty good words for all of us to live by. Have a LOVEly day!

I recently went to my amazing aesthetician Tara for my regular facial and while sitting in her chair receiving the power and relaxation of her “hands from an angel,” she asked me about my recent Polar Plunge on New Years Day. We talked a little about it and come to find out it’s all very healing and one half of what’s called “Contrast Therapy.” I’ve always believed doing the annual plunge refreshes me and starts my year off fresh but I loved hearing that it’s not just all in my head and something fun to do.

I kinda experienced this last summer when I visited a spa in Albuquerque and fell in love with its adjacent hot tub and cold plunge. So immersed was I in my immersions that until just now I didn’t realize the window above the pools resembles a Zuni turquoise piece. How cool is that?! During my visit, I literally went back and forth…throwing in a wet or dry sauna here and there…and loved every minute of it. I’m still thinking about it.

Now I learn that it was all so very good not just for my mind and my heart, but my body.

The Alo Wellness Club and Alo Moves reports that the healing power of Contrast Therapy has been ceremonially practiced for many years and in many civilizations, from Native American sweat lodges to Greco-Roman public baths to Japanese onsens. In short, both hot and cold therapy have been touted for centuries as beneficial wellness practices for both the body and the mind but now we’re learning that combining them makes a powerful and healing recovery pair.

So, you’ve likely heard of cold plunging (think athletes) and a hot sauna (think spa days), but what exactly is Contrast Therapy? In a nutshell, it’s the practice of alternating between hot and cold immersion; i.e. water. Doing so has a plethora of physical and mental benefits.

How does it work? Without boring you to death with scientific and organic data, the heat part of Contrast Therapy increases circulation and relaxes your muscles while the cold portion constricts blood vessels to decrease inflammation. Together, they work in tandem to bring your body back in balance, especially after a workout or when you’re experiencing bouts of aches and soreness.

What are those benefits? Let’s look at them…

Reduces pain and muscle soreness.

Contrast Therapy you had me at hello with this. A 2013 study of Contrast Therapy found significantly greater improvements in muscle soreness recovery. This leads us to…

Improves post-workout recovery and performance

Another study found that Contrast Therapy resulted in an enhanced rate and magnitude of recovery compared to passive recovery alone. This leads us to…

Promotes injury recovery

We’ve all had them and we see them regularly in sports we watch, but the good news is that a study looking at those with ankle strain (I’m looking at you pickle ballers!) showed that Contrast Therapy, compared to heat alone, reduced swelling faster.

And now for the mental benefits.

Boosts heart health

Alternating between vasodilation (blood vessels expanding) in a hot sauna and vasoconstriction (blood vessels narrowing) in a cold plunge increases your circulation. Better circulation helps regulate blood pressure, increase vascular health, and deliver oxygen-rich blood and nutrients throughout your body.

Reduces stress by releasing feel-good hormones

Cold water immersion releases neurotransmitters like dopamine and serotonin, which contribute to feelings of happiness and pleasure. My Polar Plunge is making more and more sense!  Even a single cold-water plunge found a significant improvement in mood and reduction in tension, anger, depression, fatigue, and confusion. Follow it up with a hot jacuzzi and say “aaahhhh!” and read on…

Improves sleep quality

Think about it, relaxed muscles, lower stress levels, and less inflammation make you more comfortable, which makes you better primed for a good night’s rest.

Okay, so this is all well and good if you’re at a spa or have both a pool and hot tub at your house, but what if you aren’t or don’t? No worries! You can mimic it all with what you’ve got. One example would be to take a hot shower followed by a cold bath or rinse off in the shower with cold water. Easy peasy! Take the plunge and jump right in!

On a sidenote, I love this tradition and feel it fits today’s theme perfectly.

Courtesy: Native American Heritage

For much of the country, planting flowers is the furthest thing from people’s minds, and even in warmer climates many still aren’t thinking of plants and planting but with the start of a new year, it’s not a bad idea as some blooms are considered lucky and who isn’t looking for a little good luck this and every year?

In fact and according to House Beautiful, across history and around the world, some flowers have carried meanings that go far beyond their beauty. Certain blooms are thought to invite good fortune into your yard and perhaps the best part is that many of these varieties are surprisingly low maintenance. Being the furthest thing from a green thumb, this makes me happy as the flowers are easily adaptable to many climates and easy to grow, making them good choices for both novice gardeners like myself to certified green thumbs.

So, what are they? Here’s the list and why they may just be what your space and new year need.

Marigold (Tagetes)

These bright, golden blooms symbolize wealth and optimism and are believed to ward off negative energy and bring luck to your household.

Jasmine (Jasminum)

A fragrant flower associated with love, prosperity, and spiritual peace, jasmine is a favorite among gardeners for its beauty and durability.

Chrysanthemum (Chrysanthemum spp)

Known as a symbol of longevity and wealth, chrysanthemums are popular in many cultures, especially Asia, for attracting good fortune.

Orchid (Orchidaceae)

Orchids represent fertility, abundance, and luxury. I find them a bit boring and hard to maintain, but might rethink them as it is said that adding them to your garden or home invites beauty and elegance.

Peony (Paeonia)

Popular with so many people but not one of my faves, peonies are associated with romance, prosperity, and honor. They are especially auspicious in feng shui practices.

Sunflower (Helianthus)

I remember seeing fields of these in Spain and they always creeped me out because they’re like faces watching you as they follow the sun. But, due to their sunny dispositions, they symbolize happiness, vitality, and abundance making them the perfect choice for amping up the energy level in your garden.

Lotus (Nelumbo nucifera)

The white lotus conjures up images of the TV show, but this flower is sacred in many cultures as a symbol of purity, enlightenment, and prosperity.

Lavender (Lavandula)

One of my personal favorites, this simple purple bloom is known for its calming scent and is said to symbolize luck and prosperity. As an extra bonus, lavender also attracts beneficial pollinators to your garden.

Hibiscus (Hibiscus rosa-sinensis)

These bold and vibrant flowers are associated with wealth and fame and bring a tropical flair to gardens and good vibes to homes.

Zinnia (Zinnia spp)

My dad’s favorite, zinnias were prized possessions of the Victorians as they symbolize lasting affection and friendship. Their vibrant colors are also believed to attract good energy and prosperity.

Whatever you choose, plant with faith and maybe also consider the flower of your birth month.

So, there you have it, blooms that bring bunches of blessings to your garden and home. And even if they don’t, think about how pretty they are and just go with that. Happy planting and Happy New Year!

Webster defines “epiphany” as an illuminating discovery, realization, or disclosure. It’s a manisfestation or sudden insight. You know, “I was driving to work and had an epiphany that I need to take next week off.”

Tricia Robinson

In Christianity, today is the Feast of the Epiphany, which celebrates the visit of the Magi, or the Three Kings, to the infant Jesus. It is customary to have your home blessed today and in some cultures, to jump into freezing cold water. (Does my New Year’s Day Polar Bear Plunge count?!) It’s also the twelfth day of Christmas…you know…twelve drummers drumming.

But first, why Magi, Kings, and Wise Men?

We’re all familiar with them in depictions of the nativity and whether you call them kings, wise men, or magi, they are commonly known as foreigners who visit the infant Jesus on the night of his birth accompanied by shepherds and angels and bring Him gifts of gold, frankincense, and myrrh…more of those in a minute.

The wise men appear only in the Gospel of Matthew where they are described with the Greek word magoi, which in addition to “wise men” implies astrologers. Little is known about them except that they came from the East and were Gentiles coming to pay homage to the new King of the Jews.

There is no mention in Matthew’s account that the Wise Men were kings nor came on camels. The idea of three kings and the presence of camels is linked with two Old Testament prophecies. The gifts they brought had diplomatic significance and suggest that the Magi were indeed kings.

Gold, frankincense, and myrrh were presented to Jesus by the Magiand each carries deep symbolic meaning. Gold represents kingship and is a precious metal associated with honor and wealth. It signifies Jesus’ royal status as the King of the Jews. Frankincense, a fragrant incense used in worship, symbolizes Jesus’ divinity and priestly role and it was commonly burned in temples as an offering to God. Finally myrrh, a valuable spice used for anointing and embalming, foreshadowed Jesus’ suffering and death and signifies his humanity and the sacrifice he would make.

So there’s that…

Whatever you call them, the three followed a star to find the Christ child, which begs the question “what star have you chosen to follow in your life?”

 

Tough one, right?

 

The world tells us to follow the money and strive for success and power. Buy the biggest house. Wear the loudest labels. Travel, travel, travel. As Pope Francis once spoke about, we also often follow the wrong “stars,” saying “Some stars may be bright, but do not point the way.”

 

Hello Hollywood.

Hello sports.

Hello music.

Hello politics.

 

Think about it, the Three Kings were just that, kings, but they knew there was a king of all kings born and they actually brought Him gifts. As I’ve written many times, I’ve always used this idea, that Jesus got three gifts, as reason why our daughter to this day only gets three gifts each Christmas. But for the rest of the year, what gifts am I striving for and what gifts am I giving to others? What stars am I following?

 

Start following the right stars.

 

Follow the stars of kindness, gentleness, generous, truthworthy, gratitude, humility, and …….

 

 

Throughout history humanity has used stars as navigational tools and throughout the Bible stars are abundantly mentioned. God created the stars in the Book of Genesis, stars were used to describe how many descendants Abraham would have, stars represent angels in the Book of Revelation, and as mentioned above the Star of Bethlehem led the Three Kings to the Christ Child at Christmas, just to name a few references.

 

It’s all pretty powerful when you think about it. God created all those stars and yet still longs for us to shine His light here on Earth. How can we shine like little stars and share the light so we can make a difference in the world; a world that is starving for true light right now? Sometimes it doesn’t take much.

 

Amazingly Jesus’ Earthly ministry was really only about three years long and yet He accomplished more than anyone else ever has. You could say He was the first “one name” celebrity…waaaaay before the likes of Cleopatra, Cher, Elvis, and even Shakespeare. He’s also the most famous person in history according to a recent survey that ranked the names of famous individuals using a specially developed algorithm that scoured the Internet. Jesus topped the list. Amen!

 

 

Perhaps what’s most impressive is that Jesus could care less about becoming famous, an almost foreign concept in today’s fame obsessed society. We seem to all either want to be famous or are fascinated by those who are. Jesus, on the other hand, never sought fame and fame was never His goal. Much like today’s paparazzi and mobs of fans, crowds gathered wherever Jesus went and whenever He spoke and yet when they tried to make Him a king, he retreated and walked away. Can you imagine anyone doing that today? No way, no how.

 

 

The 3 Wise Men were indeed very wise. As they watched the night sky they evoked the importance of alertness and once they saw the star, they got moving despite the long and treacherous length of the journey. They brought gifts and humility with them. The Magi teach us to watch and to move, to be generous and humble and most of all to believe.

 

So maybe that should be our goal. Shine but keep looking up and seeking encounters. Shine like stars but spread light in the world. Ask yourself what stars you follow and what presents you give. Lead the way. Shine bright.