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Fashion To Fall For September 22, 2012

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Welcome Fall!  Autumn officially begins today and what better way to celebrate my favorite season than to talk about fall fashion trends?!  Temperatures cool down (hopefully!), leaves change color and fall, football is in full gear, and nighttime comes earlier.  What’s in and what’s out this autumn?  Here’s the lowdown on some “all the rage” yet tasteful trends to “fall” for:

 

 

IN AND IN A BIG WAY:

 

For the Feet

Ankle strap pointy heels

(Gianvito Rossi)

 

 

Booties

(Rebecca Taylor)

 

 

Pointy toe shoes (flats and pumps)

(Schultz at Bloomingdale’s)

 

 

Velvet loafers and Slipper loafers

(Alexander McQueen)

 

 

Loafer pumps

(Alexander Wang)

 

 

 

For the Body

All things black and gold (shoes and clothing)

 

 

All things jewel tone (shoes, bags and clothing, especially Hunter Green, Burgundy, and Oxblood)

 

 

Trumpet hems

(Jennifer Connelly in Stella McCartney)

 

 

Brocade (perfect for dressing up or pairing with jeans and flats)

 

 

Menswear

 

 

 

Glitter and metallic, especially gold

 

 

Leather

 

 

Equestrian

 

 

Also…

Embellishments (sparkly, oversize, anything goes!)

Military details (embossed and shiny buttons, epaulets, etc.)

Houndstooth

 

 

For Hair, Face and Nails

Braids

Wine red lips

Burgundy nails

Dark blue nails

Edgy French manicures

 

 

Accessories

 

Jeweled statement necklaces

(Kendra Scott)

 

Collar necklaces

Belts

 

 

WHAT’S BACK AND STILL HOT

Peplum

 

Lace

 

 

Colored denim

 

 

 

Riding boots

(Tory Burch)

 

 

Hi/Low hems

 

 

Also…

Patent leather

Printed Pants

Colorblock

 

 

WHAT TO DITCH OR DONATE

Thigh-high boots

Ombre

 

 

Think About It Thursday September 20, 2012

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Tuesday’s Tip September 18, 2012

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The Fine Line Between Confidence and Arrogance September 14, 2012

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Have you ever been around someone whose confidence is bordering on arrogance?  I’m not talking cocky, as in athletic prowess, or secure, as in at peace with themself, I’m talking a plain ole know-it-all.

 

I recently enjoyed a spontaneous and fun dinner with my friend Karen during which we discussed the difference between confidence with arrogance.  What is the distinction, and how can we make sure we remain proud of ourselves but not full of ourselves?

 

Webster defines confidence as a feeling or consciousness of one’s powers or of reliance on one’s circumstances: the quality or state of being certain.”  On the other hand, arrogance is defined as “an attitude of superiority manifested in an overbearing manner or in presumptuous claims or assumptions.”  When looking at them that way, it’s easy to see the difference.  Or is it?

 

In short, arrogant people are what I like to call “braggy.”  If you ask my daughter, she’ll tell you it’s one of three things I detest (the others being sneaky and phony.)  Arrogant people think they are perfect and better than anyone else, they rarely apologize or admit defeat, and they are surprisingly equally disliked and admired.  People look up to them because they are often successful, but once they are faced with any type of adversity, they don’t know how to handle it.  “This can’t be happening to me, I’m perfect!”  And, even though they are sometimes likable they are more often not well-liked because they are…well…arrogant!

 

Perhaps actress Angie Harmon said it best recently in “Good Housekeeping” magazine:  “I tell my kids everybody needs to be respected.  There is no one on this planet who is better than they are and they aren’t better than anybody else.”  This, mind you, from a stunning-former model-successful actress who’s married to a former NFL star.  If anyone could be arrogant, it’s Angie Harmon!  How refreshing to know she’s the furthest thing from it and is raising her kids that way too.

 

I didn’t have a lot of self-confidence growing up, which is one reason I made it my goal to raise a daughter who is self-confident.  Since day 1, my mantra to Kristen has been “Believe in yourself.”  I’m happy to report she is very confident, sometimes (I must admit) over confident, but confident nonetheless.  Every now and then she does need to be reigned in though, and I remind her that humility is as impressive and admired as confidence.

 

Aaahh humility.  How can we, as a society, promote being humble while at the same time encouraging independence and ambition?  Defined as “not proud or haughty,  not arrogant or assertive, unpretentious,”  being humble is not only Biblical, it’s benevolent.  Power and money tend to make even the most humble of people over-confident and ultimately arrogant.  It’s almost inevitable, but as Abraham Lincoln said, “nearly all men can stand adversity but if you want to test a man’s character, give him power.”

 

One of my favorite bloggers, Gretchen Rubin of “The Happiness Project,” recently wrote about something similar, something she calls “oppositional conversational style.”  This, Rubin describes, consists of conversations with someone who disagrees with and corrects whatever you say.  You know the type, you say the sky is blue, they’ll say it’s green.  Conversations with these OCS sufferers, who tend to be arrogant by the way, are draining, unpleasant, and annoying.  They don’t listen, they’re always right, and by mid-conversation, you really don’t care!

 

In the end, arrogance is often not the result of over-confidence, but rather a deep-rooted lack thereof.  Know-it-alls often times are hurting inside and make up for that hurt by being overbearing.  They know it and it ultimately catches up with them.  They let others down and even themselves, and according to Oprah Winfrey, “there is no greater disappointment than the disappointment in oneself.”  Ouch.

 

Maybe it, like so many things, just comes down to being happy with yourself.  Confident people don’t have to be everything.  They’re convinced they are where they’re supposed to be and are satisfied with their lot in life.  It doesn’t mean they don’t try to meet goals or achieve great things, they just don’t have the need for constant approval and admiration.  They don’t need to prove anything and they generally aren’t the jealous types.  They are, quite simply, content.  I’m confident if more people were honest, that is what we’d all like to accomplish.  Let’s start today.

 

“The only cure to envy is happiness, but the difficulty is that envy is a terrible obstacle to happiness.”  Bertrand Russell.

 

Never Forget September 11, 2012

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I remember logging onto my computer that morning and seeing a headline under the “news stories” section asking “Accident or Terrorism?”  It wouldn’t be long before we all knew it was no accident.

 

I remember calling Smitty at his office and him immediately coming home.

 

I remember watching TV news reports with him all day and all night and the horror and helplessness we both felt.

 

I remember the utter fear I felt when the Pentagon was hit.  I thought, “they’re attacking everywhere and Austin could very well be in their sights.”

 

I remember seeing the second plane hit the WorldTradeCenter and feeling sick to my stomach.  When both towers collapsed onto themselves, I remember actually crying.

 

I remember all the people in New York City talking to TV cameras and posting photos of their loved ones, begging someone to tell them they were okay.

 

I remember hearing the company name “Cantor-Fitzgerald” again and again.  I had never heard of it before, but now 11 years later, I still remember it.

 

I remember being amazed that even ESPN was covering only the horrific events unfolding.

 

I remember Kristen getting off the bus that afternoon and I asked her if she’d heard anything in school.  She said something about “bad guys in New York.”

 

I remember President Bush standing with volunteers and blaring into that bull-horn.

 

I remember firefighters draping that giant flag on the Pentagon.

 

I remember being so very grateful that Smitty was not traveling that week.

 

I remember hearing the Alan Jackson song for the first time.

 

I remember changing my Fall-themed flag outside my house to a generic stars and stripes one.  It wasn’t the American flag, but it was close enough.

 

I remember buying a newspaper on 9/12 at a gas station not really near my home.  I’m not sure why I went there to buy it, but to this day, every time I pass it I think of 9/11.

 

I distinctly remember certain photo images:  the firefighter in the WTC stairwell, the skeleton frame of the WTC standing among the ruins, people dashing into buildings as the towers fell, filling Manhattan with a cloud of dust.

 

I remember the video of Andy Card whispering in President Bush’s ear while he read to Florida school children.

 

I remember embassies around the world creating memorials and tributes on our behalf.

 

When I think back to September 11, 2001 I also think of the fireman I had in my house all day.  He did contracting on the side and had been scheduled to replace my kitchen backsplash that day.  All day I kept telling him to go home to his family but he insisted he wanted to stay, that doing the work gave him something to do amidst all the dismay.  I will never, ever forget what he said when the second tower fell.  He looked at the TV and solemnly said, “A lot of firemen just died.”  How prophetic that I shared the awfulness of that fateful day with a fireman and that firefighters ended up being the true heroes of the day. For many years I called him every September 11 just to see how he was.

 

How are we today as a country?  We are far from the united front we demonstrated following the attacks and are instead a fractured society that has somehow forgotten what happened that day and how we felt.  How exactly we felt.  I feel it every time I watch a “Friends” rerun and see a skyline shot that includes the TwinTowers.  I have a Barbie book in my classroom that I keep safe and out of three-year-old hands because the “Business Barbie” page includes a photo of the WorldTradeCenter.

 

Where you were on 9/11/01?  Have the 11 years that have passed changed your opinion of things?  Why?  How?  My hope is that all of you will take a moment today to remember your thoughts of that day and the days that followed.  Wouldn’t it be nice to be truly the UNITED States again?   Mostly, let’s all consider and respect the nearly 3,000 innocent people who lost their lives and the cherished family members they left behind.  It’s all something we should never, ever forget.

 

 

 

Sunday Scripture September 9, 2012

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“God, please give me the courage and strength to be full of the spirit of joy and hope.  Help me put emphasis on the positive.  Give me the grace to interpret all of reality through the basic attitudes of trust and hope.”

 

Friday Funny September 7, 2012

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