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More Than Just Pretty September 9, 2013

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Bracelets displayed

 

 

Several years ago while visiting OU with Kristen before she was a student there; I noticed my friend Ann was wearing the prettiest bracelets. She told me they could be found at a small boutique in Norman and that they were made by women in Nepal. I fell in love with them and have been collecting them ever since.

 

Fast forward four years and the bracelets are everywhere! They have taken the fashion industry by storm and match easily with any outfit or any style. It’s not every day Oklahoma sets a fashion trend, but in this case I’m giving credit where credit is due. (In a reversal of fortunes however, I have to say Kristen was wearing Kendra Scott jewelry at OU years ago and today a pair of Scott’s signature “Danielle” earrings is a virtual unofficial emblem of an OU girl and are everywhere in the Sooner state!) Back to the bracelets. Every time I wear them, people ask me about them so I figured it was time to blog about them.

 

They are called “Lily and Laura” bracelets and the story behind them is as beautiful as the bracelets themselves.

 

Laura has always loved to travel, and after earning an art history degree she moved to Nepal. While living there, she discovered the Nepali crocheted bracelets and decided to devote her energy to helping her new friends make them and sell them to support themselves.

 

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“Each bracelet is a little piece of artwork,” says Laura. “Our women artists are passionate about making the bracelets they crochet very special.”

 

The bracelets aren’t cheap (most boutiques charge around $30 for three) but only the finest glass beads are used in them and each and every bracelet is hand crocheted by Nepali women, bead by bead and in the comfort of their own homes. No two bracelets are alike and they comfortably roll on over any size hand. Best of all, they are produced using a “fair trade” wage structure, allowing the artisans to improve the quality of their lives while providing a Nepal custom the world over. The women are seen as artisans in their communities and are able to help support their families and break the cycle of poverty, abuse, and human trafficking in the region.

 

Most people wear them in “stacks” and blend a color scheme in doing so. You can wear several of them together, combine them with other bracelets, or perhaps even with a stylish watch. Here are a few samples of some of mine:

 

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The next time you see a bowl full of beaded bracelets in a store, which is usually how they’re displayed, consider buying a few. I promise you’ll grow to love them and the women who made them for you will love the life you are helping provide them.

 

Sunday Scripture September 8, 2013

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Keeping it simple today…

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Travel…In Your Own Backyard September 7, 2013

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Travel

No one puts “websites I want to visit” on their Bucket List.

 

It’s amazing what you can learn about the city you live in by taking a tour of it.  Last night I thoroughly enjoyed a “bat boat” cruise along Town Lake…er Lake Lady Bird…with the Austin Women Travelers group and learned a lot too!

 

Those of you unfamiliar with Austin may be asking, “bat boat, what the heck is that?”  Well, let me tell you!  Austin, the city proud of “keeping it weird,” is home to the world’s largest urban bat colony.  Under our beloved Congress Street Bridge lives 1.5 million Mexican free tail bats.  Yes, MILLIONS!  Between March and November, every night at dusk they descend out of crevices underneath the bridge en masse.  They’re all female and they’re essentially going out for dinner.  They always fly away from the setting sun and are so lightweight even the slightest wind can push them.  On a really still evening, they look like a giant black cloud.  People line the bridge, nearby restaurant balconies, grassy knolls along the lake, and several commercial boats, which is what we did.  It may sound crazy but it’s actually quite impressive to watch more than a million bats fly into the sky at one time.   We love our bats in Austin.  We have a bat statue not far from the bridge and we love that they eat thousands of pounds of bugs every night.  Mosquitos?  Austin doesn’t have half the problem other cities near water do, thanks to our bats!

 

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I’ve lived in Austin 27 years but this was only the third or fourth time I’ve done the bats.  We had a great tour operator on the boat who informed us that the Frost Bank tower looks like an owl, City Hall is supposedly built to look like an armadillo (I didn’t see it; perhaps he was pulling one on us), and that the city’s tallest building, The Austonian, is jokingly referred to as the world’s largest USB drive.  It does!  And how appropriate for our city, the centre of the Silicon Hills?!  The skyline of Austin changes almost daily, so it was also nice to learn the names of all those building and what they house.  Amazingly, the majority of all new buildings aren’t office space, but condos.  Glorious condos.  Have I mentioned shut the gates yet?!

 

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The “owl” and the “USB port”

 

I remember taking a tour of my hometown Santa Fe on board the city’s “Chile Line” bus.  It was so informative and fun!  I also remember taking the trolley car tour in San Francisco and opting for the double-decker bus tour of London the day we arrived because it was pouring rain.  We learned so much and saw the whole city in one fell swoop.  These types of tours then allow you to later pick and choose which sites you want to go back to.

 

They say travel is really the only thing you spend money on that makes you richer.  And even though travel can also be so frustrating, I couldn’t agree more.  Even if it’s right in your backyard.

 

Friday Funny September 6, 2013

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Happy Friday everyone!

 

Where There Is Doubt, Faith September 1, 2013

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A simple judge of character is how you treat a person who can do absolutely nothing for you.

 Humility

 

You may or may not have noticed, but I haven’t been very motivated to write my blog lately.  It’s been a crazy time getting Kristen back to college and getting ready for the start of my school year.   I’ve thought about some good topics but I just haven’t followed through on sharing them with you.  Leave it to God to get me going again.

 

Just yesterday Smitty asked me if I had ever read the “Peace Prayer of St. Francis.”  I told him it’s always been one of my favorites, hangs next to my bed and on my desk, was sung at our wedding and at Princess Di’s funeral, and that the statues in our backyard are St. Francis.   We talked a little about it all and went about our day.

 

This morning we go to mass and what’s one of the songs being sung?  Yep, the Peace Prayer.  Not only that, but the entire homily was about humility, which St. Francis was known for; Pope Francis, who took his name in honor of the saint and who is also known for his humble actions; and even Johnny Manziel who we were told didn’t demonstrate God’s humility during yesterday’s A&M game.  It all literally gave me chills and brought me to my knees.

 

Finding Peace

The first part of the “Prayer of St. Francis” reminds us what we should strive to be while the second part reminds us what not to be.  In short, Father God help me to sow, or give, faith, hope, forgiveness and love to others and not focus so much on my own struggles and injuries.  The secret is doing all of this, we were told in mass, is not just to talk the talk, but to walk the walk.  As St. Francis himself is quoted as saying, “Preach the Gospel at all times, and when necessary, use words.”  Do your actions always sow love?  Do mine?  Lord, please help make me a channel of your peace.

 

Prayer of Saint Francis of Assisi

Lord, make me an instrument of your peace. Where there is hatred, let me sow love; where there is injury, pardon; where there is doubt, faith; where there is despair, hope; where there is darkness, light; and where there is sadness, joy.
O Divine Master, grant that I may not so much seek to be consoled as to console; to be understood as to understand; to be loved as to love. For it is in giving that we receive; it is in pardoning that we are pardoned; and it is in dying that we are born to eternal life. Amen

 

 

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Being Humble

Today’s readings were also inspiring.  We were reminded that we are all “poor” in some way and that only through humility do we achieve true heavenly strength.  It’s always important to remember that even rich men need God and scripture encourages us to think of others first and to invite the poor to our tables.  This, as we all know, is not always easy.  Try as we may, we often fail.

 

In the book of Sirach we are told:  My child, conduct your affairs with humility, and you will be loved more than a giver of gifts. Humble yourself the more, the greater you are, and you will find favor with God. What is too sublime for you, seek not, into things beyond your strength search not.

 

And Micah 6:8 teaches us:  You have been told what is good and what the Lord requires of you:  Only to do justice and to love goodness and to walk humbly with your God.

 

As we humbly walked to our car, I noticed a lady carrying a dog.  Smitty and I both thought, “who brings a dog to church?”  Then it dawned on me, no one would be happier to see that then St. Francis, the lover of animals.

 

How can one not believe in God and that He is working miracles every day after experiencing all of this?  Not me, and hopefully not you.

 

 

 

 

 

 

So Annoying! August 17, 2013

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I’ve always thought a fun drinking game would be taking a sip every time someone on “Keeping up with the Kardashians” (yes, I’ve been known to watch the show with Kristen!) says something or someone is “so annoying.”  You see, I find it very annoying they say it constantly.  You could say it’s a pet peeve of mine.

 

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I recently saw the above and died laughing and it got me thinking about pet peeves.  We all have them and here is a sampling of mine:

  • Disorganization
  • People talking on cell phones in public places
  • Those round stickers runners put on their cars with how many miles they ran (should I put “hole in one” on mine if I ever make one?!)
  • Older, mature women dressing like teenagers
  • Those AT&T commercials with the man asking kids questions…soooo annoying!
  • Starbucks drink sizes names.  (why isn’t “grande” the biggest and what the heck is “venti?”)
  • Alarm clocks
  • People wearing sunglasses indoors or when being interviewed on TV
  • Short on-ramps on freeways
  • Solicitors at my front door
  • When the person at the front of the right lane at a red light isn’t turning right
  • Cabinets or drawers left open after someone gets something from them
  • That Norah Jones’ debut album beat Bruce Springsteen’s “The Rising” for album of the year after 9/11 at the Grammys
  • When celebs complain about being famous
  • That the IPhone 5 requires all new charges and IHomes than the IPhone 4
  • The fact that, regardless of anyone else’s score or his, Tiger Woods always gets the TV coverage
  • That our regular trash bin is green but the recycle one is blue.  Shouldn’t it have been the other way around?
  • Jennifer Aniston’s “no bra” look on nearly every episode of “Friends.”  (We get it…you’re sexy but enough already.)
  • I hate that the carts at Target always stick together and getting one is nearly impossible
  • Bad grammar (irregardless is not a word and “axe” does not mean “ask”)
  • Over-plucked eyebrows
  • Hand blowers in bathrooms instead of towels
  • The fact that eye appointments, glasses, and lenses are not considered standard on insurance coverage.
  • Masseuses who talk the whole time or who try to fix every ache and pain in one hour.  (Just rub!)
  • People who start every sentence with “I mean…”

 

And last, but certainly not least…

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Do you agree or disagree with any of my pet peeves?  What are some of yours?  Please share!

 

Think About it Thursday August 15, 2013

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Sunday Scripture August 4, 2013

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“Don’t seek the blessing, seek God and the blessing will come to you. Make pleasing God your highest priority.”

Joel Osteen

 

They Sang the Songs

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Have you ever felt unappreciated for your efforts, talent, and hard work?  Did it bother you?  If so, then back-up singing is probably not the industry you should get into.

 

Proof of this, somewhat, is the fabulous docu-movie I saw today entitled “20 Feet From Stardom,” which chronicles the careers and lives of many talented yet often unknown background singers.  As the movie poster says, you indeed “meet the unsung heroes behind the greatest hits of our time.”  If you like music, you’ll love this movie!

 

Giving these amazing singers their due, “20 Feet” spotlights a handful of black background singers who brought gospel to both R&B and rock ‘n roll. Coming from church choirs, they brought with them the “call and response” technique that sets background singers apart.   They also brought soul, style and the “hooks” of so many songs that we all sing along to, perhaps most notably “Gimme Shelter” by The Rolling Stones.

 

Louisiana native Merry Clayton sings that distinctive “it’s just a shot away” chorus that made everyone ask, “who is that girl singing with Mick?!”  In the film, Clayton recalls the late-night recording session of the 1969 hit song and Jagger himself speaks of her significance and genius.   Clayton also recalls singing back-up for Lynyrd Skynyrd on their famous but at-the-time somewhat politically charged “Sweet Home Alabama.”  She didn’t quite understand why this Southern roots rock band would want a black woman singing with them, but sing she did and the song is better for it.

 

It’s funny.  I saw the movie with my daughter Kristen, and as we’re walking out of the theatre I asked her if she liked the film and she said, “yes and it makes me want to go out and buy a Rolling Stone CD to hear that song.”  No worries, little one.  Momma was more than happy to provide it for her via my Ipod as we drove to dinner.  Old does not always mean old-fashioned!

 

In another Rolling Stone twist, singer Claudia Lennear, who left the industry to become a teacher, is featured in the film as well and is often cited as the inspiration for the Stones’ hit “Brown Sugar.”

 

“20 Feet” also introduces Lisa Fletcher to the audience.  I found her singing and humility mesmerizing.  Unlike many who simply have singling talents, the New York native’s voice is a true instrument.  Without uttering a word, she will captivate you with her wide, high-reaching vocal range.  She toured for 22 years with the likes of Tina Turner and Luther Vandross and has a Grammy of her own for her 1991 single “How Can I Ease the Pain,” but she opted to forego being a solo artist to return to back-up singing, stating, “some people want to be famous.  I just want to sing.”

 

Darlene Love also plays a prominent role in the movie.  She was one of the first black artists to introduce a new style of singing to back-up singing, which had been done predominantly by lackluster white women.  She sang with none other than Frank Sinatra and Sam Cooke before signing with legendary (and somewhat odd) producer Phil Spector.  From there, her career took a somewhat current pop turn, as her vocals were credited to another group.  Still, the likes of Bruce Springsteen consider her voice one in a million.

 

Speaking of today’s over-produced pop, one of the most interesting quotes from the movie was from a music exec who said that today’s music contracts have budgets for “tuning.”  When asked “why don’t the artists sing in tune?,” he could only shake his head.  Over-dubbing and auto-tuning can virtually make anyone sound good, but the fact that some artists with way less talents then many a background singer are rich and famous just isn’t fair and isn’t right.

 

Although the fabulous women of background bee-pops have enjoyed some success, one of their counterparts who stands alone in doing so in Sheryl Crow.  I remember Crow as a back-up singer for Don Henley when I worked at the Erwin Center and I distinctly recall the audience at “The Backyard” booing her off the stage.  Little did we know she would go on to sell more than 50 million albums worldwide and win nine Grammys!

 

Crow was a background touring pro though and definitely paid her dues before hitting the big time.  In addition to Henley, she also performed backing vocals for Michael Jackson, Tina Turner, Stevie Nicks, and Bob Dylan.

 

She’s also musically educated, earning a BA in Music Composition from the University of Missouri and working as a music teacher, which allowed her the opportunity to sing in bands on nights and weekends. Her first success came in the way of advertising music jingles and she eventually toured with Michael Jackson as a backing vocalist during his late 80’s Bad World Tour.

 

In 1992, Crow recorded her first album with Phil Collins’ producer, but the self-titled debut was ultimately rejected by her label. In the meantime, Crow’s songs were recorded by major artists such as Celine Dion, Tina Turner, and Wynonna Judd.  She soon joined an ad hoc group of musicians that called themselves the “Tuesday Music Club.”  Their album of the same name featured many hit singles including “Strong Enough, “Can’t Cry Anymore, “Leaving Las Vegas,” and the career defining “All I Wanna Do.”  Crow went solo and has since enjoyed hit single after hit single.  She too is interviewed in “20 Feet” and has nothing but respect and admiration for the singers who today back her up.

 

Young Judith Hill is hoping to follow in Crow’s commercial footsteps and also boasts a Michael Jackson connection.  The amazingly talented singer who is fluent in both English and Japanese was selected as MJ’s duet partner for his “This Is It” world tour however, the pop legend’s untimely 2009 death put an end to both the tour and Hill’s global debut.  Following more back-up singing years, she auditioned for NBC’s “The Voice” and impressed not only all four judges, but the viewing public as well.  Her somewhat early elimination is still considered one of the most shocking in the show’s history.  Today Hill continues to work on her solo career and has all the talents and energy to hopefully succeed.

 

So, what’s the message here?  I’m not sure.  One message I definitely want to send you on your way with is what an entertaining and educational film “20 Feet” is, but there’s also the message that the best don’t always become the most famous and that the most famous aren’t always the best.  Do what you love and love what you do.  In the end, wouldn’t you rather be respected then famous anyway?

 

 

 

 

 

Friday Funny August 2, 2013

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Love the commercial.  Cracks me up every time!

Happy Friday everyone!