Beyond Words

Such a busy weekend this week, what with Mother’s Day and the Kentucky Derby. The Derby has forever been on this mother’s Bucket List and sadly it will remain there as I have no plans to attend tomorrow’s race. I wanna do it right though. I wanna wear the hat and sit in the grandstand. I wanna bet on a long shot and drink mint juleps. Not this year, but it’s still fun to think about and fun to write about and what a great Mother’s Day gift it would be! Hint, hint.

 

Known as “the most exciting two minutes in sports, the Kentucky Derby is America’s oldest continuous sporting event and an annual odds on favorite to be a winner.  Held each May at Churchill Downs in Louisville, it is all things southern and all things spectacular.

 

It’s also packed full of rich customs and traditions, including the mint julep, amazing hats, and the singing of “My Old Kentucky Home. In short, it is a true American icon that dates back to 1875.

 

 

HIS OLD KENTUCKY HOME

Its story commenced in 1872 when Meriwether Lewis Clark, the grandson of William Clark of the famed Lewis and Clark, visited England and its Epsom Derby. He also fraternized with those of the prestigious French Jockey Club, which developed the Grand Prix de Paris Longchamps horse race. BTW, that’s why Longchamp bags have a horse insignia. Giddy up, more fashion!

 

Upon returning to the U.S., Clark made it his goal to develop a stateside race of equal grandeur and organized the Louisville Jockey Club, which to this day maintains “The American Stud Book.” The registry keeps the official tab on not Hollywood hotties but every single Thoroughbred born in the U.S.

 

On May 17, 1875 the LJC sponsored the very first Kentucky Derby. Aristides won that first race in front of 10,000 spectators. Today more than 160,000 fans will watch the annual “Run for the Roses” live in front of the famed Twin Spires of Churchill Downs.

 

Why a “derby” though, Well, the term “derby” refers to any horse race restricted to three-year-old horses, either fillies (females) or colts (males). Only Thoroughbreds race in the Kentucky Derby. These are esteemed horses whose lineage traces back to three stallions: the Darley Arabian, Byerly Turk, and Gondolphin Arabian. And what about those odd names? As I mentioned above, they are all registered by the Jockey Club and their names can be no longer than 18 characters. Another interesting tidbit is that no matter when a Thoroughbred is born, its birthday is officially January 1, supposedly making it easier to track their pedigrees. Yes sports fans, this is serious business.

 

 

HOLD ONTO YOUR HATS

Okay that’s all well and good for those who actually care about the horses, but what about the other “H” word of the Derby: hats?!  Taking in all the various styles and varieties of hats worn by women attendees is of course half the fun. It’s not just a fashion thing either. Wearing a hat to Churchill Downs is said to bring good luck. I’m down!

 

Both men and women wear hats to the Derby and what type depends on your personal style and where you plan to spend the day. Within the seated areas of Churchill Downs, hats are generally elegant and wide-brimmed but in the Infield, anything goes and they trend more eccentric and outrageous. Still, there are really no rules or limits when it comes to choosing a Derby headpiece. But, keep in mind it is also the chance to express your Southern charm or convey your inner Southern Belle, so keep it tasteful ladies. Clothing-wise, most women wear simple spring dresses so as not to compete with the real star of their outfit: the hat. Since the hat should be the focus of your outfit, there’s also no need for large, statement jewelry. Thing pearls, not bling. And be sure to pack flats as you will be walking a lot!

 

 

Men also don hats at the Derby, albeit somewhat more subtle and traditional ones. Where men go a little crazy is in their attire. A Derby man is not above wearing pastel-colored pants, tropical colors, busy plaids, bold stripes, fun gingham, and all-things seersucker. On the more traditional side, you’ll see many classic navy blazer, chalk stripe, bowties, and monograms. On foot, it’s all about the loafer…worn sockless.

 

Hats can be tough to choose though, so just what kind is a safe bet (excuse the pun!)?

 

The wide brim is an iconic Derby topper that invokes both class and drama and think color, floral accents, and individuality. Fascinators have become a more recent trend, thanks partly to Kate Middleton. The fetching headpieces are smaller and easier to wear but just as chic as their bigger cousins. For men, a fabulous French Fedora is a sure winner, as is a Boater or Skimmer, which tycoon John Jacob Astor IV favored. No ball caps or flat rims please. I’m looking at you sports fans.

 

 

IN MINT JULEP CONDITION

Now that you’re dressed to the nines, it’s time for a Mint Julep or splash of bourbon. No Kentucky Derby is complete without its signature cocktail, which has been the traditional beverage of Churchill Downs and the Kentucky Derby for nearly a century. In fact, more than 120,000 of them are served at Churchill Downs during Derby weekend each year…most of them in an heirloom silver cup or souvenir glass.

 

The origins of the mint julep are a bit murky, but it is known that Kentucky Senator Henry Clay introduced the drink to his Washington, D.C. colleagues at the famous Willard Hotel back in the 1800s. In yet another twist, it’s thought that the straw was invented thanks to the Mint Julep because such huge sprays of mint were served at the tops of the drinks that you couldn’t really drink one. The straw fixed that! According to the Derby museum, the yummy sweet cocktail became Churchill Down’s signature drink in 1938 when they sold for 75 cents. Today that wouldn’t buy you a mint sprig that comes in one.

 

Why “julep?” Historians trace the word back to an Arabic drink called a “julab,” which was made with water and rose petals. Mediterranean drinkers replaced the rose petals with mint and used the cocktail to alleviate stomach problems. Although today a julep is considered a solid southern bourbon institution, amazingly the first mint juleps were made with rye whiskey or rum, not bourbon. Well I do declare!

 

 

SMELL THE ROSES

Speaking of roses, they will be regally on display in the stands and on the track at Churchill Downs. Each losing participant in the Derby gives a fresh bouquet to the winner who will also be draped in a satin garland of more than 400 red “Freedom Roses” and will receive 60 long-stemmed roses wrapped in 10 yards of ribbon. “The Run for the Roses” is indeed just that.

 

Roses and the Derby go way back. At one time, all women attending the swanky Louisville Derby Party were given a fragrant bloom, which became the official flower of the Kentucky Derby in 1904.

 

 

THE CROWN JEWEL OF SPORTS

But back to the sports angle, which after all, is what the Kentucky Derby really is. It’s not the “most exciting two minutes of fashion,” although it probably could be the “most exciting two days of hat fashion!” It’s a sporting event that has morphed into a social affair. You know because….it’s fun!

 

The first of what is considered the “Triple Crown” of horse races, the Kentucky Derby is also the shortest of the three races at just 1 ¼ miles…hence the most exciting two minutes! To win the coveted Triple Crown, a horse must win the Derby, the Preakness Stakes, and the Belmont Stakes in the same year. This is no easy task, with only 12 Triple Crown winners in the event’s long and storied history.

 

Last year American Pharoah stole the show and America’s hearts by winning the first Triple Crown since Affirmed did so 1978. That’s nearly 40 years! It was exciting. It was historic.

 

Country music trio Lady Antebellum is set to sing the National Anthem tomorrow at around 5 p.m. but the real singing highlight will be when 160,000 fans join the University of Louisville marching band to croon “My Old Kentucky Home” at around 6:30 p.m. during the horse parade, a tradition that started in 1921. Right after that, the horses run and another quest for the Triple Crown begins.

 

Someday I will be there. I even have the hat for it. Someday. You can bet on it.

 

Last week my dear college friend Ann texted me and the other three women who make up my annual college girls trip travelling buddies. The five of us have been friends for more than 30 years and they mean the world to me. We all live in different cities and states so I deeply cherish whenever I get to see them. What Ann texted made me smile.

 

 

It looked like something from a daily devotional she might use and was titled “Find your moai. Her personal message with it was, “how ironic…there are five of us.” You see, a “moai” is a group of five friends committed to one another for life. The word is Japanese for “meeting for a common purpose” and originated in Okinawa, Japan. There, community support groups provide social, financial, health, and spiritual care and are considered one of the leading factors of the famously long lifespans Okinawans enjoy. In fact, the region has one of the highest concentrations of centenarians in the world. Hello moai!

 

The info in Ann’s message went on to suggest one “identify the people in your life who make you feel most valued and supported and invest the majority of your energy in those relationships.” Even though I see these women once, maybe two or three times a year if I’m lucky, I get it. They (along with others) are my moai and moi feels blessed to have them.

 

More Than Sushi

It seems I’ve had a lot of Japanese influences in my life lately.

 

I recently blogged about the book “The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up” and its Japanese method of decluttering and organizing and how it’s changed my current “I’m moving” situation.

 

I’ve also been following my two nieces Monica and Tessa as they travel around Japan to see my Japanese nephew-in-law Takeshi’s family and show Tessa and Takeshi’s new son his dad’s homeland. Monica has posted lots of interesting observations, the kind I just LOVE, and I thought I’d share some…

 

• They don’t drink soda in Japan.
• Rice is served with every meal.
• There are no single-story homes and all houses have clothes lines because dryers are extremely rare.
• You give up your seat IMMEDIATELY for an elder, disabled person, or pregnant woman on a bus or train. Even an elderly person gives up a seat for a “more” elderly person.
• You stand on the left side of an escalator unless you are passing.
• Everyone is thin!
• Japanese don’t wear sunglasses outside. (what?!)
• You need to get used to constantly taking your shoes on and off everywhere you go.
• Taxi cabs are spotless. Spotless windows. Spotless seats. They smell fresh and drivers are “dressed to the nines.” Doors also open automatically for you when entering and exting a cab.
• Bus drivers wear masks and whisper where they are going so as not to awaken sleeping passengers.
• There are almost no public trash cans to be had. One hangs onto their trash until one is found.
• No one says “Bless you” when you sneeze.
• Public bathrooms are equipped with buttons on the wall that make the sound of running water when you push them to make your toileting experience and those next to you more discreet.

 

For Goodness Sake

Something else interesting that I learned long ago is that you never pour your own Sake. It is part of a Japanese etiquette rule called “o-shaku.” In general, it is considered much more polite to pour Sake for others but never directly for yourself, resulting in an atmosphere of social interaction and common courtesy. No worries though, as the small Sake cups traditionally used in Japan allow for everyone to have the opportunity to pour and receive. When receiving Sake, lift your cup off the table, hold it with two hands, and take a sip before setting it back down. What’s not to love about this tradition?!

 

All of these endearing customs demonstrate how deeply connected and rooted Sake is to Japanese culture. Known as the “drink of Gods” in Japan, Sake has ancient and important ties to religious ceremonies, traditions, and beliefs. It is said that if you get to know Sake, you get to know Japan.

 

All this talk about Japan got me thinking; I wonder what my dad would think of all this. A United States Navy vet, he fought in WWII and the Japanese were enemies of America. The mere mention of Pearl Harbor may have made him cringe, but I have no doubt he would be so proud of my niece and would love her husband. Still, how times have changed, right? Change is good.

 

Being the information nut that I am, I also researched just a tad about the “Land of the Rising Sun.” I just can’t help myself!

 

 

Head East

The name “Japan” is actually the English word for the country. The Japanese names are Nippon and Nihon, both of which mean “the sun’s origin.” Japan is said to see the first Earth’s sunrise every day and the terminology also refers to the island nation’s position from China.

 

Japanese history and culture is connected to China also in its system of writing called Kanji, which means Chinese letter or character. Invented by the Chinese and adopted by Japan in the 6^th Century, Kanji characters convey meaning not just sound and were originally drawn as pictures from nature. There are said to be more than 5,000 Kanji and by their ninth birthday, Japanese students are required to know nearly 2,000 of them. The first picture or Kanji or Japan means “sun” and the second one means “base or origin,” hence “the land of the rising sun!” The Japanese flag also depicts this image, with the red circle in the middle symbolizes the sun as well as “brightness” and “warmth,” while the white background signifies honesty and purity.

 

I don’t know about you, but I just love learning these types of things. I’m hoping I haven’t gotten any of it wrong but am counting on my niece to correct me if I have. Tessa lived and worked in Japan for many years, met her husband there, and was there during the 2011 tsunami.  I would love to know more and needless to say, I know just who to ask!

 

So, sayounara! Oh wait, that’s not correct. Believe it or not, Japanese people don’t walk around saying what we commonly think of as “goodbye” in Japanese. That’s because “sayounara” has a strong sense of finality and is only used when you think you might not see that person again or at least for a very long time. So at the risk of being disrespectful or just wrong, I’ll end by saying “thank you for reading this blog today,” so how about just “arigatou.” I’m pretty sure that means “thank you” in Japanese!

 

 

 

 

William Shakespeare. The mere mention of the English poet, playwright, and actor conjures up images of memorable plays or not-so-memorable English Lit reading assignments. I was never a huge Shakespeare lover but I do respect and appreciate his legacy. It’s a legacy that 400 years ago today came to an end with Mr. Shakespeare’s death on May 3, 1616.

 

Love him or hate his work, William Shakespeare is widely regarded as the greatest English language writer and dramatist and is considered England’s national poet. Just a few of his “greatest hits” include “Hamlet,” “Macbeth,” “Romeo and Juliet,” “Othello,” “King Lear,” “A Midsummer Night’s Dream,” “Merchant of Venice,” and “Taming of the Shrew.”

 

Whether you’ve read them or not or whether you’ve seen them performed, you know of them. You know Juliet dies and you know both Hamlet and Macbeth were kings. But, did you know you owe much of what you say to William Shakespeare? Consider this:

 

Full circle? Yep.

Piece of work? Yeppers.

Good riddance? Check.

Love is blind? Check and double check.

Amazing, right? No wonder his legend didn’t vanish into thin air following his death. Oh wait, that’s one of his lines too.

 

Famous and amazing yes, but William Shakespeare is also somewhat of a mystery.

 

Though no birth records exist, Biography.com notes that church records indicate a William Shakespeare was baptized at Holy Trinity Church in Stratford-upon-Avon on April 26, 1564. Most scholars observe April 23, 1564 as his birthday, allowing for the three traditional days between birth and baptism. After that, very few records exist of his childhood and virtually none about his education. Legendary writer of many a student’s books and yet his own education is unknown? Cue the mystery.

 

That’s right. Although works by William Shakespeare are known throughout the world and have been performed on every corner of the globe for more than 400 years, his personal history has shadowy origins. In fact, his story could easily be one of his productions!

 

Other than church and court records, the only historical sources historians have to work with are his works. Maybe that’s how he wanted it to be.

 

 

What is known is that he was the third child of leather merchant John Shakespeare and his wife Mary Arden, a local heiress. Young William had two older sisters and three younger brothers. When he was 18-years-old he married 26-year-old Anne Hathaway and they later had three children, including twins. Now is where his life really gets cryptic.

 

Following the birth of the twins, there are seven years of Shakespeare’s life that are called the “lost years,” as no records exist of him or his family. Speculation varies as to what happened during this period and some even question whether William Shakespeare really existed.

 

By the early 1590s however, documents show a William Shakespeare was managing partner in the Lord Chamberlain’s Men, an acting company in London, and that he was indeed earning a living as an actor and playwright. He may have even produced some plays during this time.

 

The years that followed were some of his most successful, as 15 of his 37 plays were published; earning him enough money to purchase the second largest house in Stratford called New House. Soon after, Shakespeare and his partners built their own theatre on the banks of London’s famed Thames River. The rest as they say is history. Literally.

 

 

Even in his writing though, Shakespeare danced to a beat all his own. His early plays were written in the conventional style of the day but incorporated elaborate metaphors and rhetorical phrases that didn’t always align naturally with the story’s plot or characters. Shakespeare was not only very talented but very innovative as well. Even with little or no education, he learned to adapt the traditional writing style of the times while creating his own free-flowing technique.

 

His writings started as historical ones, with the exception of “Romeo and Juliet.” He then penned what might be considered a comedy today, “A Midsummer Night’s Dream,” as well as the romantic “Merchant of Venice” and witty “Much Ado About Nothing.” He turned charmer with “As You Like It” but then focused on tragedy with “Hamlet,” “King Lear,” “Othello,” and “Macbeth.”

 

Shakespeare’s works are studied and performed worldwide on a regular basis, but his reputation as a dramatic genius wasn’t recognized until the 19th century. Perhaps, as bio.com writes, the genius of Shakespeare’s characters and plots are that they present real human beings in a wide range of emotions and conflicts; characters who also transcend their Elizabethan English origins. He was an original who lived by his own words: “To thine own self be true.”

 

Well-played Mr. Shakespeare. Well-played.

 

 

 

 

 

Can you believe it’s already May? That means summer is right around the corner, (even though as I write this it is pouring rain outside and it’s probably snowing in Denver and parts of the east coast!) which also means time to stock up on new and re-evaluate your summer wardrobe and all things summer.

 

I’d like to start with two of my favorite summer products that you can buy at your local drug store and that won’t blow your summer budget:

 

First of is Jergen’s Natural Glow lotion.

If you’re looking for that “sun-kissed” look but are smart enough not to go to tanning salons or sit out in the sun, this is for you. It really works! I use it on my legs and love the results. Be sure to spread it completely and allow it time to dry before putting on clothes or shoes. It truly is my favorite product!

 

Next up is Hawaiian Tropic’s Sheer Touch after sun moisturizer.

As hard as we may try, we all get a little too much sun every now and then and this lotion is what we all need after. My sister-in-law turned me on to this lotion in Jamaica and it had me at hello skin care! Not only does it soothe and moisturize, it has a little bit of sparkle and sheen to it too. It’s the perfect product!

 

 

I can see you Your brown skin shinin’ in the sun

You got that hair slicked back and those Wayfarers on

I can tell you my love for you will still be strong

After the boys of summer have gone

 

 

 

Sunnies for Every Face

Don Henley’s “Boys of Summer” will forever be a go-to summer tune for me and Ray-Ban Wayfarers remind me of many a summer outing.

 

Sunglasses in general are a must for me all year long, but especially in the summer. I have to wear prescription sunglasses so I’m not able to walk into any store and buy the latest and greatest trends, which does not make me happy! I tend to lean more toward classic and traditional frames since I don’t want to look “so last year,” but I do have one or two designer pairs that I bring out now and then.

 

 

Picking out the ideal sunglasses for your face shape isn’t as easy as you might think. Sunglass Warehouse is the first to admit that there are frames that work to set off your killer features, and there are frames that well, don’t. One of my favorite blogs, The Zoe Report, recently covered sunglasses and how to pick the best style for you face shape. Certain styles fit certain profiles better than others, and while they are considered accessories by many, finding that perfect pair is you’re a fashion must.

 

To figure out what shape your face is, pull all your hair back, including off your forehead; then stand in front of a mirror and trace the outline of your face with a bar of soap or a dry erase marker. When you step away, you should see what looks like a shape. Easy peasy, right?

 

If you have a round face like Hayden Panitierre, go for round frames, which actually provide a slimming effect. I know, I know, it seems it would be just the opposite, but try it, it works!

 

 

Rectangular frames are best for those of you like Jennifer Aniston with more square faces. In order to complement but not widen, look for lenses that are angular and dip low on the cheeks.

 

 

     

You’ll see everyone wearing aviator-style sunglasses but they work best on Jessica Alba-like oval and Reese Witherspoon-like heart-shaped faces as they work well with wide foreheads and slim chins.

 

 

If you are lucky enough to have an oval face, you can pretty much wear any shape, as Alba here demonstrates:

 

 

Colors of Summer

Now that we’ve got product and sunnies out of the way, let’s make room for the colors of summer: “Serenity” and “Rose Quartz.” Say what? Yep, those are the colors of the year selected by color guru Pantone and they scream spring and summer. The airy pastels also lend a feeling of slowing down, which was intentional but the fact that the quote at the beginning of this blog boasts the two colors was pure coincidence!

 

 

“With our hectic lives and the frenzy around us, there is an increasing demand for tranquility,” Leatrice Eiseman, Pantone Color Institute’s executive director told InStyle magazine. “The combination of a cool and a warm color also brings a sense of balance.”

 

According to fashion experts, Rose Quartz brings to mind a sunset, budding flower, or flushed cheek, while Serenity conjures an expanse of bleached blue sky. They are lightweight and warming and work well in floral patterns, color blocking, and even stripes. The soft blue and blush pink are a harmonious color pairing but for some will work best in small doses or in prints. If you are pastel shy, try them via accent colors in handbags, jewelry, and cosmetic palletes.

 

Hmmmm. Okay. I don’t know about you, but the two colors kinda scream the Miami Vice-inspired ‘80s, and not in a good way. In a year of “who is the most powerful” headlines and punchlines, both colors come off as very passive to me and anything but powerful. On the flip-side, they are wonderfully feminine and can stylishly feminize an otherwise too manly ensemble.

 

Pantone chooses a color of the year annually, which is then considered a trend forecaster that influences both fashion and interior décor. This is the first time it’s picked two colors, which flow seamlessly into each other. Putting aside talk that the colors mimic society’s movements toward gender equality and fluidity (can we just stop already, please?!), let’s look at the two.

 

Serenity works well on almost all skin tones, brightening up even the muddiest and warming up the lightest. You want to avoid looking like someone off the “Mad Men” set though, so keep it modern and pair it with neutral accessories. Nude, ivory, cream, blush, and even gray are all good options.

 

For shoes, you can go super casual or sky high as in these examples from Keds, Martiniano, and Ferragamo:

   

 

 

Rose Quartz is a very calming color but you don’t want to go too “pastely.” Think very muted salmon, not pale bubblegum. Add a bit of sparkle to it with silver or whimsy with a fun print.

 

 

 

If you’d rather stay safe, use it in your accessories. Austin jeweler Kendra Scott has a fabulous rose quartz line and your nails are a great place to try it out:

  

 

As with Serenity, shoes and bags are great places to add that pop of color. You don’t have to do Louis or Loubs, but here are two examples of each:

 

Personally I think this little Kate Spade bag, grosgrain-bowed loafers, and rose gold wedges espadrilles are equally adorbs:

 

 

Finally, if you wanna go crazy with the colors but in a subtle way, why not wear them both? Just keep it simple and keep it classy:

   

 

 

Have fun with your summer plans, keep cool, and wear sunblock!

 

 

 

Very true and a very happy “National Adopt a Shelter Pet Day!” Any day is the perfect day to adopt a pet but today is even more so. Observed each year on April 30, this day was created as a way to raise awareness for thousands of pets that are waiting for (and needing) adoption from the shelters.

 

As anyone who knows me knows, I’m a dog lover. I’ve had dogs all my life and truly believe they fill our lives with unbridled joy, unconditional love, and untiring loyalty. If you don’t believe me, consider this:

 

 

Rarely do I meet a dog I don’t like. It’s happened, but it’s rare. Rescue dogs are uniquely special. My current dog, Boomer, is a rescue. Found on the streets, she definitely still has plenty of “street” in her but she is sooooo much more loving and cuddly than our previous Jack Russell, Biskit, who came from a long line of distinguished relatives but who also had a little attitude. Boomer, on the other hand, just loves.

 

 

My daughter gave me the above frame and its message is so spot on. I may have rescued Boomer from the Leander SPCA but she undoubtedly rescued me as well. I will probably never get another dog that’s not a rescue. I swear they know they are rescued and they are forever grateful.

 

 

Love Match

 

 

One of my all-time favorite shelter dogs stories comes out of Brazil, where four former street dogs were trained to be tennis “ball dogs,” replacing the normal ball boys and ball girls at a recent professional tournament. And let it be known that this wasn’t just some club match, it was a match pitting two internationally ranked men’s players: Spain’s Roberto Carballes Baena and Gastao Elias of Portugal.

 

During the Brazil Open match, Frida, Costela, Mel, and Isabella dutifully retrieved stray balls as the audience cheered them on. All four dogs were found on the streets of Sao Paulo and were trained for this job as part of a national campaign to raise animal adoption awareness in Brazil.

 

It all goes to show that a well-trained and well-treated stray can turn into a very happy and productive pet.

 

 

Each year in America, 1.4 million dogs are rescued but sadly, nearly that same amount is euthanized. The Shelter Pet Project is working to fix that. A collaborative effort between The Humane Society of the U.S., Maddie’s Fund, and the biggest producer of PSA campaigns, The Ad Council, the SPP’s goal is to make shelters the first place potential adopters turn to when looking for a new pet.

 

 

They are just part of the very big and burgeoning pet adoption industry. In general, there are three kinds of adoption organizations you should look to when considering adopting a pet: private humane societies, SPCAs, and rescue organizations. Be careful who you work with though and do your research. Finding a happy home for that special dog requires both patience and love, the latter of which you’re sure to gain once little Fido calls your home their home.

 

Side note: I love books almost as much as I love dogs and recently found both in this wonderful coffee table book on shelter dogs. Maybe you’ll like it as much as I do!

I am blessed. Yes, I have a healthy, happy, and successful family along with friends who keep me laughing and grounded but I’m not talking about all that. I’m talking about three interesting places I’ve been lucky enough to visit in the past year or so: Panama, Costa Rica, and Jamaica. All similar yet so very different.

 

It’s no secret that I love to travel (although the headaches and hassles of flying are slowly making me think otherwise) and when I do, I also love to learn about the place I’m visiting. Smitty and I often visit with cab drivers, tour guides, and other local experts to get a non-guidebook take on the place, which I always find so interesting.

 

I am also an unashamedly trivia and info junkie and I delight in a good “did you know?” story. Writing today’s blog entered my mind as I was watching “Jeopardy” and I thought, “Wow, how do these contestants know all these things?!”

 

So, if you’re like me and enjoy a bit of information minutiae or just have time on your hands to read through some, I thought I’d share a few fun facts about Costa Rica, Jamaica, and Panama. Some things you may already know, some may surprise. Enjoy the ride!

 

COSTA RICA – “Pura Vida”

“Costa rica” means “rich coast” in Spanish.

 

The country is a rugged, rain-forested Central American country bordered by Nicaragua to the north, Panama to the southeast, the Pacific Ocean to the west, and the Caribbean to the east.

 

There are 800 miles of coastline in Costa Rica between the Pacific and Caribbean coasts. Most resorts are found on the Pacific side.

 

 

It is considered the “Switzerland of Central America” in that it has had no army since 1948.

 

 

Costa Rica has a population of 4.5 million and a life expectancy of almost 77 years, one of the highest in the world.

 

A peaceful democratic country, Costa Rica has not suffered violence and military dictatorships like much of Central America.

 

Colon is official currency and considered one of the world’s prettiest currencies.

 

 

The structure of the government is similar to that of the U.S. in that it is divided into three branches: executive, legislative, and judicial. Has president.

 

The capital city, San Jose, is the country’s most populous with around 300,000 residents.

 

More than 80 percent of Costa Ricans are Catholic.

 

 

Costa Rica’s main industries are tourism; medical manufacturing; coffee, bananas, and sugar cane; and call centers.

 

Gambling is legal. Hunting wildlife is not.

 

February-April are the busiest tourism months and May-November is the “rainy season.”

 

The Tempisque River connects the mainland to the Nicoya Peninsula, which was a gift from Taiwan.

 

 

60 percent of tourists are from U.S. and Canada.

 

There are more than 121 volcanoes in Costa Rica and seven of them are active. Poas Volcano has the second widest crater in the world (nearly one mile in diameter), and Arenal Volcano is one of the world’s 10 most active volcanoes and is also a rain forest.

 

The power plant at Cachi Damn on Lake Cachi sells 60 percent of power to other countries.

 

The country’s slogan is “Pura Vida,” which means “pure life.”

 

 

 

 

JAMAICA – “Yeah Man”

Jamaica is the third largest of the Caribbean islands and the largest English-speaking island in the Caribbean Sea. It is considered the West Indies and is 90 miles south of Cuba, 600 miles south of Florida, and 100 miles southwest of Haiti.

 

Jamaica was the first Caribbean nation to gain independence when in 1962, it became an independent nation but chose to remain a member of the British Commonwealth. Similar to Canada, Queen Elizabeth II remains the Queen of Jamaica but by tradition only.

 

You see “1962” on t-shirts, towels, and other items all over Jamaica.

 

 

Its British roots are still evident in things like they drive on the left side of the road and it has a Prime Minister and Parliament. Although no longer a British colony, Jamaica is considered a parliamentary constitutional.

 

English is the official language of Jamaica, but you will also hear a lot of Patois, called Jamaican Creole by linguists. It is an English-based creole language with West African influences.

 

Despite its ganja-loving reputation, marijuana was illegal in Jamaica for more than a century and just last year Jamaican lawmakers decriminalized the possession of up to two ounces of marijuana, paving the way for a lawful medical marijuana sector in a country where the drug has long been culturally entrenched.

 

It’s estimated nine out of 10 tourists try weed while visiting. There are actually weed farms that grow marijuana. Owners of the farms are not allowed to sell their crops though.

 

 

Jamaicans are very religious people. Jamaica has the most churches per capita in the world. Most Jamaicans are Christian.

 

Rastafari is a religion. Those who practice it don’t eat anything that contains blood, their Sabbath is Saturday, and like Jehovah’s Witnesses, they don’t vote or participate in any political system.

 

Only 2 percent of the world’s Rastafarian population lives in Jamaica and only about 5 percent of the population of Jamaica is Rastafarian. It is a religious movement of Jamaican origin with many elements of Ethiopian culture as well as many Christian beliefs. It proclaims Zion, in reference to Ethiopia, as the original birthplace of humankind.

 

The Rastafari way of life encompasses the spiritual use of marijuana and the rejection of the degenerate society of materialism, oppression, and sensual pleasures. For Rastas, smoking cannabis, commonly referred to as ganja, is a spiritual act and is often accompanied by Bible study. They consider it a sacrament that cleans the body and mind, heals the soul, exalts the consciousness, facilitates peacefulness, brings pleasure, and brings them closer to God, who they call Jah. Sacramental use of cannabis in celebration of the Rastafari faith became legal in Jamaica on April 15, 2015.

 

Rastafari associate dreadlocks with a spiritual journey that one takes in the process of locking their hair and growing “hairlocks.” It is taught that patience is the key to growing locks and the way to form natural dreadlocks is to allow hair to grow in its natural pattern, without cutting, combing or brushing, but simply to wash it with pure water and herbal shampoo.

 

Reggae was born in the Kingston ghetto of Trenchtown, and was developed by poor blacks who listened to radio stations from the United States. Jamaican musicians, many of them Rastas, soon blended traditional Jamaican folk music and drumming with American R&B and jazz into ska, later developed into reggae under the influence of soul. Reggae became popular in the early 1970s largely due to the fame of  Bob Marley, who actively and devoutly preached Rastafari.

 

 

There are very few snakes on the island of Jamaica. The mongoose was imported to rid the cane fields of rats in 1872. As an added benefit, the mongoose has killed off almost the entire population of snakes.

 

British writer Ian Fleming penned his famous James Bond novels at the house he built and lived in in Jamaica. Today it is still home to The Golden Eye Hotel and Resort began as Flemming’s luxurious home.

 

Jamaica is one of only two countries in the world that has no colors in common with the flag of the United States. The other country is Mauritania.

 

Kingston is the capital and has ½ million people living there, as does Montego Bay. Together they make up half of the island’s population.

 

Jamaica has free medical care.

 

Unemployment is high but crime is low. “Respect” is something you hear a lot, along with “yeah man,” “no problem,” and “my lady.”

 

 

The Jamaican dollar is the official currency.

 

Jamaicans eat more goat then beef.

 

Jamaica Blue Mountain Coffee is one of the most sought after and expensive coffees on the market. It comes from Blue Mountain, which has an elevation of 7,000 feet.

 

Tourism is Jamaica’s largest industry and sugar cane is big crop, most of which goes to Europe.

 

Other big crops are bananas and mangoes. None of these crops are native to the island; they were imported at varying times during the island’s history.

 

Other big industries are rum, Red Stripe beer, and aluminum. Rum is the national drink of Jamaica and it was the first Caribbean island to produce rum on a commercial basis.

 

Jamaica was the Western World’s first country to build a railroad and AT&T copied Jamaica’s telephone system because it was so well developed.

 

In 1994, Jamaica became the first Caribbean nation to launch its own website.

 

 

Over 200 species of Orchids grow wild on the island of Jamaica, 73 of which are unique to the mountainous island.

 

The Manchester Golf Club was established in 1868 and is the oldest in the western hemisphere!

 

Jamaica’s economy was drastically hurt by 9/11. As one of our drivers told us, “When the U.S. hurts, we hurt too.”

 

 

 

PANAMA – “The Country with The Canal”

Because of the way Panama is shaped and how it is situated on the globe, it is the only place in the world where you can see the sun rise on the Pacific and set on the Atlantic/Caribbean. Normally you see the sun rise over the Atlantic and set on the Pacific. The sun only hits a portion of Panama’s Pacific west coast during its rising and goes down over a portion of its Caribbean eastern coast.

 

Panama is the southern-most country in the Central American continent. It connects North and South America, is bordered to the west by Costa Rica, and to the southeast by Colombia.

 

Even though Panama is bordered by Colombia, there is no road that leads in to its neighboring country to the south.

 

 

It is a small country and has Central America’s smallest population of only around 3.6 millio.

 

Nearly 1.5 milllion of them live in Panama City, which is the only capital city that has a rain forest within its city limits.

 

 

Flying into Panama City is like flying into Dallas or Miami, as it has a HUGE downtown with many modern high-rises dotting the skyline.

 

 

The Panama Canal was built by the U.S. Army Corps of Engineers between 1904 and 1914.The canal generates around one-third of Panama’s entire economy and is considered one of the 7 modern Wonders of the World.

 

The Canal is a 48-mile ship canal that connects the Atlantic Ocean  (via the Caribbean Sea) to the Pacific Ocean. A third, wider set of locks is currently under construction and will open this summer.

 

France began work on the canal in 1881 but stopped due to engineering problems and a high worker mortality rate. The United States took over the project in 1904 and opened the canal on August 15, 1914. One of the largest and most difficult engineering projects ever undertaken, the shipping shortcut greatly reduced the time for ships to travel between the Atlantic and Pacific Oceans, enabling them to avoid the lengthy, hazardous Cape Horn route around the southernmost tip of South America. Ships traveling from New York to San Francisco and vice versa save almost 7,872 miles by using the Panama Canal instead of going all around the Cape Horn.

 

Colombia, France, and later the United States controlled the territory surrounding the canal during construction. The U.S. continued to control the canal and surrounding Panama Canal Zone until the 1977 Torrijos-Carter Treaties guaranteed that Panama would gain control of the Canal after 1999 and a period of joint American–Panamanian control.

 

It takes 6 to 8 hours to pass through the Panama Canal.

 

When going thru the Canal, each ship’s country of origin releases control of their vessel to Panamanian captains.

 

Panama has the second largest duty free zone on the planet and also has the second largest registrant for offshore companies, behind only Hong Kong.

 

 

The “balboa” is the country’s official currency and it is fixed at parity with the U.S. dollar, which is used as the paper money in the country. Panama was the very first Latin American country to adopt the U.S. dollar currency as its own.

 

Panama was the first Latin American country to adopt the U.S. currency as its own.

 

Senator John McCain was born in Panama, in the Canal Zone that was, at the time, considered U.S. Territory.

 

 

The Panama Hat is actually made in Ecuador.

 

The world’s oldest continually operating railroad is in Panama. It travels from Panama City to Colon and back.

 

Nearly percent of Panamanians are Catholic and nearly just as many have never heard the Van Halen song “Panama.”

Major exports include refined petroleum, passenger and cargo ships, and bananas.

 

Panama is located south of the hurricane alley so is generally not affected by tropical storms or hurricanes.

 

At its narrowest distance, about 50 miles wide, is the land in Panama that separates the Atlantic from the Pacific Ocean.

 

If I had to choose I probably couldn’t pick a favorite but I will say Costa Rica left a lasting impression on me. Still, never in my wildest dreams did I ever think I’d actually see the Panama Canal with my own two eyes and while our Jamaican honeymoon 30 years ago was quite memorable, I wasn’t sure I’d ever see the island again. As I said at the very beginning of this blog, I am blessed. Out of this worldly blessed.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

There’s an endangered Mexican salamander called an axolotl that remains a tadpole all its life. Philosophers often use the axolotl to symbolize someone who avoids growth. I do not fear or avoid growth, I actually love it, but I do dislike and sidestep change. As I’ve written time and time again, I’m a nester. This momma bird likes her nest and when forced to fly the coop, she is not happy or comfortable.

 

 

As many of you know, my husband and I are moving. We’re building a house not far from our current one, downsizing, and starting again in a new neighborhood. It’s been somewhat fun and exciting picking out the style and finishes of what will soon be our new nest, but it’s also been stressful. I like stress about as much as I like change. Momma bird is not in a good place right now!

 

 

To help put me in the “this move will be a good thing” frame of mind, I’m reading the bestselling “The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up.” When I was first told about the book and that I had to read it before moving, I hesitated because its subtitle is “The Japanese art of decluttering and organizing.” If I’m anything, I’m organized so why would I need to read about it? Then I focused on the other word in the subtitle: decluttering. Yeah, I could certainly stand to do that. I do tend to accumulate clutter, albeit it’s all organized very nicely!

 

So, I dove in and I’m loving the book. It has inspired me to purge and re-evaluate what I keep and what I toss or donate. It recommends physically handling every item you’re contemplating what to do with, indirectly incorporating “te-ate,” the Japanese word for healing, which literally means to apply hands. As author Marie Kondo explains, the term originated before modern medicine when people believed that placing one’s hands on an injury promoted healing.

 

“Have nothing in your houses that you do not believe to be useful or beautiful.”

William Morris

 

Built around that idea that you should only keep the things that spark joy, Kondo’s method invites you to focus on choosing what you want to keep, not on what you need to discard. Bingo! I can do that!

 

In fact, I’ve spent the day going through a biggie: paperwork. I’m a filer and as a writer, I’m a saver of all things written down. Kondo recommends discarding almost all needless paperwork, and I’ve surprised even myself in being able to do this. Granted I’m very sentimental and some items I will probably never get rid of, but I’m having quite a go at the old shredder…so far nearly three big trash bags full of shredded paper!

 

I’m only on paper. Books, sentimental items, and photographs are sure to be much tougher.

 

Keep the Change?

What is it about change that I, and many others, dislike? Maybe it’s not change per se, but more the hanging on to memories. We can’t live in the past, this I know, but I still find myself being very nostalgic. If it were up to me I would have stayed in the same house all these years. Moving is not fun. Being the “new kid on the block” is not fun either. I’m 50+- years-old and have friends I love and cherish. I don’t want to have to make new friends! I despise small talk and the fact that my new neighbors will know nothing about me, my history, or even my daughter makes me just say, meh.

 

“You can only grow if you’re willing to feel awkward and uncomfortable when you try something new.”

Brian Tracy

 

But I like my house. I like it a lot. This neighborhood was supposed to be our dream place when we moved here 10 years ago. I like where I live. I like that I’m only 10 minutes from work. Now I’ll be 40. Ugh. I also like my grocery store. I like the shops and restaurants around me. But, I need to remind myself that all those things will be where we’re moving too and that where we’re moving is fabulous. I just go back and forth but that’s okay. It’s totally okay and totally normal to feel how I do. So I’ve been told.

 

 

And I believe. So much so that I keep that quote in the very front of the folder I have on our new house. Don’t get me wrong, this move is not a bad thing. At all. It’s just something I didn’t plan and planning is up there with organizing on my list of “what I do really good.” Right next to worrying and writing.

 

If only I could be more like my college friend Christie, who embraces moves and new houses as “projects” and has been known to sell her family’s home and all the furnishings in it. What? The thought of that sends me in a tizzy. Sadly my husband is much like that and places little or no sentimental value on anything. I’m kinda in this along friends so this probably won’t be the last of my writings on the subject!

 

Maybe it’s the actual move that I’m not embracing. I actually fear it and think about it 24-7. And then this week I get good news: our daughter is moving back to Texas for an exciting new job! The bad news? Now I get to move TWICE this summer! I’m okay with it though and consider it the price to pay to have her three hours away (even a tad closer when we move to our new house!) instead of 18 hours away!

 

 

So, as uncomfortable as it will all be, I know that this change coming up is good and so is discovering new things and new people. Change is a part of life and even though I am being forced to embrace it, I know I can do it. I can’t control what is happening but I can control my perspective. I will look at downsizing, relocating, and needing to get rid of many treasured things as a way of starting new and cleansing out. Now if I could only snap my fingers and be in our new home, unpacked, at peace, and ready for my new chapter.

 

“Shoulders never gain weight.”

Donna Karan

 

Have you looked around in clothing stores lately or flipped through a fashion magazine? If so, you’ve probably noticed a trend that’s all the rage: the “cold shoulder.” I’m not talking being rude or being a snob, I’m talking fashion’s flirty hot style that’s flattering on almost everyone.

 

It’s all about the off-the-shoulder look this spring and summer and it’s looking good!  Don’t shrug those shoulders ladies, bare them! Everything from totally dropped shoulders to peek-a-boo shoulders to cut-outs to split sleeves is all the rage. They are all fun and they are absolutely fab!

 

Being a woman of a certain age and size, I personally have yet to try the design, but everything I read and look at assures me that the flowy form works and works well on all women. Spring runways were chalk-full of them and the breezy look is the perfect thing to pack for that summer vacay. So start shopping for a shoulder silhouette (try saying that three times!) and join the obsession of showing and showing off your clavicles!

 

Here are just a few ideas:

 

I’m obsessed with this Trina Turk “Neville” dress:

 

I also like this black and white Verdi II blouse and Jewels by Jen’s asymmetric stunner:

 

If you’re on the fence about the off-the-shoulder idea, look for the option of wearing the shoulders up or wearing them down like on these two designs from Intermix:

 

The trend can be oh-so-casual through the likes of Johanna Ortiz, Tory Burch’s embroidered Eliza top, or festive polka dots:

     

 

Or you can glam and dress it up like Roza and Sonia Rykiel did here:

 

And how stunning does Selena Gomez look in this drapey dream by Camilla and Marc:

 

Slacks love a good shoulder from Moda Operandi or an H&M bodysuit:

 

Full figured? No problem. Michael Kors and Aidan Mattox gotcha covered:

 

And if that’s not enough, here’s The Row’s simple yet stunning Ninja top and a dress I’m drooling over:

As with any fashion trend, be sure to do it subtly, age-appropriately, and affordably. And as you can see from all of the above, keep the jewels at home. The style screams “clean line” and anything around your neck or dangling from your ears will only hurt the look. Have fun shopping and share your shoulder stories and buys!

 

Disciples believe that Jesus can perform miracles, right? Easter is considered His biggest miracle but why did He choose to keep His crucifixion scars? We live in a world that is fascinated with implants, fillers, and changing how we look but maybe we should be taking a cue from Jesus and accept our scars and flaws as testaments to our growth and our real beauty.

 

 

 

Much to our chagrin and as hard as we try to hide them and apply fading creams to them, most scars never completely go away. Jesus chose to keep His. He had wounds on His hands, His feet, His sides, and His head. Had He been crucified in Hollywood instead of Jerusalem, he probably would have been pressured to fix those wounds and fix them fast.

 

None of us were born perfect though, so our constant dream of the perfect body, perfectly white teeth, and perfect skin can never be perfectly accomplished. At some point, we need to accept who we are and just try to be healthy.

 

I don’t know about you, but when I see someone who’s had plastic surgery I rarely think, “Wow, she looks great!” Instead, I think, “Wow, she’s had some work done!” No one is fooling anyone. A 50-year-old woman is not meant to look like a 20-year-old one. It looks fake and why is fake considered good? People abhor fake ingredients in food, fake jewelry, and even fake personalities but fake faces? Somehow they’re okay? I can’t.

 

 

This wasn’t always the case. In fact, “plastic surgery” was not meant to be artificial and originally had nothing to do with synthetic materials. The “plastic” comes from the Greek word “plastikos,” which means “to mold” or to “give form.” In its truest form, this type of surgery can do amazing things, none of which includes Botox injections or cheek fillers. Anyone with deformities or true discomfort as well as victims of fires, accidents, and other injuries can be repaired and renewed by the skilled hands of a talented plastic surgeon. But, I totally agree with author Graeme Simsion who wrote in his wonderful “The Rosie Project” book, “It’s an incredible waste of surgical skill – inserting synthetic materials purely to alter appearance.”

 

The term “plastic surgery” was first used by German surgeon Karl Graefe in his book “Rhinoplastik,” published in 1818. Graefe is considered the pioneer of reconstructive surgery and developed many techniques. He often performed surgeries to treat cleft palates, drooping eyelids, and other medically necessary procedures. He died in 1840 and would probably be dismayed at how the industry has changed.

 

Today famous plastic surgeons have their own reality TV shows and sport trophy wives to display their wares. We are so focused on being “pretty” but why aren’t we just as willing to be make changes to be pretty nice, pretty smart, pretty giving, and pretty good?

 

 

The American Society for Aesthetic Plastic Surgery reports that for the first time ever, last year Americans spent more than $13.5 billion on aesthetic procedures, up $1.5 billion from 2014. Billion, with a B. Liposuction is the most common procedure, followed by breast augmentations, tummy tucks, eyelid surgeries, breast lifts, rhinoplasty, and overall skin tightening. “Fat transfers to the face” (okay, why?!) are now in the top 10 while buttock augmentations/lifts/implants are also on the rise (again, why?!). And if you’re wondering about Botox and other injectables, well there were more than 6 million of them done. Big money. Big business. Big risks.

 

 

 

What has happened to aging gracefully and respect for natural beauty? I for one pity the formerly beautiful Priscilla Presley who has clearly gone under the knife one too many times.

 

 

But it’s not just mature women who are having work done. Young girls are also lining up to have their lips plumped and brows lifted. Take Kylie Jenner for example. She’s been going under the knife to totally alter her face since she was 16 or 17-years-old. What is that skin going to look like when it’s 60? What message is she sending to her millions of fans and followers? Ironically, the one member of Kylie’s notorious family who is actually making a living off her looks, model Kendall, is also the only one who has not had plastic surgery. Go figure.

 

I bite my tongue as I say this, but maybe we should all take a cue from Kendall Jenner and live in our own skin. Yes, we’re not all as stunningly beautiful as she is, but to Jesus we are. Scars and all.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I’m officially out of gas. As in exhausted. Burned out. In desperate need of refueling.

 

This weekend is the first in three that I’m home and not boarding a plane or packing a suitcase. Granted, my escapes were all for pleasure, but I couldn’t be more grateful than to just stay home today. And tomorrow. And Sunday. Maybe Monday I’ll venture out. Maybe not.

 

 

I adore a comfort zone every now and then and am thriving in mine right now, so if there was a “dislike” button for the above, I’d use it. It kinda goes hand-in-hand with something I read on one of those flights I mentioned above, which I both agree and disagree with. The magazine article pull-quote read: “According to a study by Cornell University, investing in travelling makes us happier than acquiring physical objects. The reason: routine is one of the great enemies of happiness.” Yes, perhaps but also N to the N-O!

 

I have been cuh-raving my routine. I’m a nester and the great enemy of my happiness is too much chaos and too much commotion. Of course a travel magazine is going to encourage travel right? Another magazine article I read however was all about boycotting busyness. I’m on board that train, wherever it’s going!

 

Why oh why is being busy considered such a noble thing anyway?

 

The New “B” Word: Busyness

As Phil Ressler of “Greater Things Today” writes, “we wear busyness as a badge of honor.” Porque pray tell? Maybe it’s because it seems like everyone else is busy so if you’re not busy, you must be either untalented, lacking friends, or just plain lazy. But, busyness is not always good and surprise, it doesn’t always translate into effectiveness. In fact, being too busy all the time leads to only one thing: burn out.

 

 

“Most people are so busy knocking themselves out trying to do everything they think they should, they never get around to do what they want to do.” Kathleen Winsor

 

 

In our struggle to appear busy and therefore “important,” we end up spending lots of time on things that don’t really matter. Or, we stuff our lives with things we do enjoy but end up feeling overwhelmed, overscheduled, and end up not enjoying what we thought we would. In this sense, we might be busy doing things we love, but the fact that we never slow down and calm down is still not good.

 

 

Even more alarming, as Jennifer Boykin recently blogged, is that why our schedules are so full is as critical as the fact that they are full. Sometimes busyness is unavoidable, but sometimes we fill our days with things because we are running from something we don’t want to emotionally address. We tell ourselves, “If I stay busy I won’t have time for that issue,” but what we are avoiding will ultimately catch up with us.

 

It’s a fact of life that corporate America (and the world for that matter) travels for work, but I’ve never been one to be impressed with the constant talk of business travel, frequent flyer miles, and all the global glam they get to see in between meetings and presentations. It’s almost like I feel more sorry for them then envy. Same goes for those constantly scheduling dinners and get-togethers. If my get-togethers this weekend consist of me, Smitty, and Boomer watching The Masters and going to mass, I’m okay with that.

 

 

This societal insecurity of feeling most validated only when we’re depleted is also making its way into the lives of our teens.

 

A recent study by the American Psychological Association revealed that teens reported higher stress levels than adults and about one-third of them feel overwhelmed. Kids are apparently modeling their parents; parents who are too busy for their own business and are not handling their stress well. Cue the craziness.

 

 

It seems for kids and adults alike “downtime” has turned into a bad word. Social media is partly to blame, as we feel the need to always be “on” and “up” on various sites but we also need to look directly in the mirror and learn to be okay with being still. Just. Be. Still.

 

Don’t get me wrong, I love to travel, I love to learn new things, and I love checking something off any one of my numerous “to do” lists, but I also love to be in my home and chill. I’m comfortable alone and okay with not attending every event. We all should be. It’s important to tell yourself you don’t have to do it all. Before agreeing to go somewhere or commit to something, ask yourself “will this enhance my life or complicate it?” And be honest. Even if the outing is something that seems pleasurable, the scheduling of it might not be.

 

 

Instead make a concerted effort to make more time to rest, relax, and refuel. For some that might mean working out, for others it might be curling up with a good book. Whatever works for you, do it. Only you will know if it calms you or stresses you.

 

 

I keep a book titled “Positive Quotes for Every Day” on my desk. I try to read it every day but haven’t had time (ugh!) to do so of late. So, before writing this very blog I picked it up and read today’s entry. Amazingly today’s positive quote for me is:

 

 

Sounds like a good idea.