Beyond Words

There is so much stress and strife out there but I’m pretty sure most of us are all looking for peace and harmony. Wanna know where you can find true joy? A dog park. Yep, a dog park.

 

 

 

My husband I and recently took our three dogs to our local dog park and it dawned on me that, despite the endless barking and aimless running of many canines, everyone had a smile on their face. The owners are happy. The dogs are happy. The heavens are happy. That’s our beagle Nick above running with some new friend he met and look at the smile on his face! Priceless.

 

It’s not very often you find a place of true, unadulterated happiness but my friends, go to a dog park and you’ll find it. And it’s no wonder considering all the ways dogs make us happy.

 

 

 

The fact that science tells us dogs make us happier really only enforces what we already know, right? We know that whether we leave the house for five minutes, five hours, or five days, our canine family members will be there to greet us enthusiastically with open paws. They love us. They adore us.

 

 

 

 

They also improve our moods. You could say it’s a two-fer relationship. They make us happy and we make them happy. Study after study show our furry friends lessen symptoms of depression, loneliness, and overall feelings of sadness. It’s hard to be sad when a buddy follows your every move, looks adoringly at you with those “puppy dog eyes,” or even jumps on your lap and starts licking your face! Come to find out, those licks actually mean something.

 

 

 

When your dog licks your face, and yes, I agree it can be annoying, but know that it’s a sign of affection and respect. They also may lick when they’re curious about how you are feeling. Dogs sense everything. They have special receptors in their nose and mouth that process and interpret scented molecules in a person. This means that by simply licking your face or smelling your body, your dog may be able to tell whether you’re happy, sad, or stressed. Then, the therapist in them moves in.

 

 

Dogs have actually been shown to make great therapists and reduce stress. They have an innate sense of compassion that cues a desire to bring comfort, affection, and encouragement. I distinctly remember this happening when my sister died. Of our three dogs, one is not a big snuggeler unless you constantly pet him. But on that day when my emotions were all over the place and I laid down on our bed, sweet Barry the Beagle jumped up and laid right next to me. He didn’t require petting. He only wanted to comfort me.

 

 

 

As my friends and I just this week, sometimes it’s just about showing up. Often times there are no words to ease the pain someone is going through, but showing up and just being there can help. That’s what dogs do. They don’t say anything. They just show up. It’s all about love.

 

 

 

Dogs know a thing about love as it’s known that they increase oxytocin; “the love hormone.” Simply spending time with your dog actually increases the level of this hormone, which is a neurotransmitter that increases trust and reduces fear. Amazing, right?

 

 

 

 

Dogs aren’t called “Man’s Best Friend” for no reason. Man, woman, or child, every dog’s middle name could be “Loyalty.” The most common cartoon name for a dog is Fido and how appropriate since the Latin word for “faith” is “fidem” and who’s more faithful and loyal than a dog? The special skills of dogs and their undeniable loyalty were on full display during WW1 when “Mercy Dogs” were trained to sniff out the wounded and bring them first aid in the battlefields. If a soldier was beyond saving, the dog would lay down next to him so he didn’t have to die alone.

 

 

 

Also interesting is the story of a dog who went missing. Lots of people searched for the dog to no avail, and then someone suggested the owner to put an item of his clothing down in the area the pooch was thought to be lost. At first light, the dog was found sitting on the owner’s coat. Don’t believe me? Okay men, put your wife and your dog in the trunk of your car. Come back in a bit and let them out. One will be sooooo happy to see you; the other one not so much. It’s pretty easy to guess who’s who here and if you disagree you’re definitely barking up the wrong tree!

 

 

 

All joking aside, you can learn a lot from a dog, as one of my favorite authors and bloggers Courtney Carver wrote. (Her book “Soulful Simplicity” is one of my all-time favorites.) Her “Seven Lessons My Dog Taught Me About Living Simply” can teach us all something.

 

Your favorite things are enough. Dogs tend to have their favorite toys, beds, spots, even humans in the family and we humans do too. Do you use or wear the same things again and again? Like dogs, Carver recommends if you want to enjoy your favorite things, only own your favorite things. Her “Be More with Less” site helps enforce the fact that living simply is not a sacrifice and that we all need less than we think to be happy.

It’s always a good idea to go outside. Hello dog park! Hello walking your dog! Best thing about our local dog park? Yes, it’s a place of delight but it also has a track around its perimeter so while the dogs run around, I get my walk in. They say if your dog is fat, you’re not walking enough. Dogs love going outside and it’s good for us too. I agree with Carver that I always feel better after a walk or any outdoor activity.

Just be there. I talked about this above in that just being there for someone, not necessarily solving any problems or giving advice, is often just what they need. As my friends and I joked about this very subject, we were reminded you never want to come in hot as “the devil’s advocate.” It’s called that for a reason and it’s not good. Instead, be a dog. Just be there.

Appreciate a small space. Bigger is not always better. Wherever you are in your big or small house, your dog is going to be right there with you. They don’t care if they live in a mansion or an apartment, as long as you’re there they are happy. And secure. And content. We need to be like that and appreciate the magic of living in a small space.

The next thing doesn’t matter. This I need to work on and didn’t realize my dogs can teach me about being fully present. I’m a planner. I don’t like to forget something or forget to do something. Our dogs? They don’t care what happened yesterday or what comes next. All they care about is right now. If nothing is going on, they lie down and slow down. We could all do more of that ourselves.

Forget what happened yesterday. You could say this is the cousin of #5 as just as much as what comes next doesn’t matter, in many ways neither does what happened yesterday. Every day is a new day. Dogs don’t have very long memories, which becomes apparent in training or disciplining them, and that’s not always a bad thing. I tend to hold on too much at times but unless something yesterday is something you can learn from or improve, let it go. Let it go with love.

Be gentle. Oh, how I love this one. Being Hispanic and married to a Yankee, a calm and gentle demeanor isn’t always easy to come by in our house. Our dogs on the other hand, are gentle. They are not aggressive or angry and are great examples of being gentle in our relationships, our health, and our work. Quiet your life, slow down, and enjoy the moment. Sit. And stay.

 

 

Well dog gone it, look at all we’ve learned! As I write this, I have a Beagle next to me reminding me to be loyal, be loving, and be active. Those are such tail-wagging ideas I may even go to the dog park and enjoy these dog days of summer!

 

 

Happy summer! The season of sun and fun officially started Thursday and I’m here to say I didn’t even realize it. Then, I started seeing all these posts about summer and I realized the season is upon us. Where I live, summer means one thing: heat. Okay, maybe two things: heat and air conditioning. But it can also mean vacations, school’s out, gardening, and swimming. Leave it to my blogger and author girl Gretchen Rubin to present a whole new way of looking at the change of season.

In a recent blog, Rubin brainstormed about ways to make the most of this summer and challenged herself to write a five senses portrait of summer. She writes how exploring our five senses can get us out of our heads and into the world. I loved it and I’m up for the challenge. Are you?

Tied into her New York Times best-selling book, “Life of Five Senses,” which discovers a surprising path to energy, creativity, loves, and maybe even a little bit of luck simply by tuning into your five senses. The challenge asks you to list your five senses and tie each on into a memory of summer. Let’s dive in!

Sight. My immediate summer sight memory takes me to Costa Rica and gazing out on the ocean from our hotel balcony. It’s a happy place and a happy memory.

Hearing. Where I live, summer hearing means cicadas. Yep, those buzzing bugs that once we hear them chirping each evening, we know summer, or at least the heat, has officially arrived.

Smell. Flowers. I think of all the flowers blooming everywhere, especially my knock-out roses that go crazy once the weather warms up. They are so beautiful they could also be in my “sight” category.

Taste. Grilled anything. Summer (and spring for that matter) mean grilling outside for us. This could be anything from burgers to hot dogs to fajitas to BBQ ribs or brisket. Some of these could also qualify as “smells” of summer.

Touch. My skin. Weird, right? But yep, in the summer I tend to touch my skin a whole lot more cuz off went the hoodies and leggings and out came short sleeves and dresses.

Quick diversion here. Rubin also has what’s called the “What’s Your Neglected Sense?” quiz. I took it and discovered my most neglected sense is seeing. Rubin notes that is can be useful to recognize your neglected sense because that’s where you have the greatest opportunity to fin more enjoyment and heighten your mindfulness. Got to gretchenrubin.com to find out more about all of this.

Back to summer…

Last summer was one of endless days of 100 degrees or more, so I’m hoping this summer is a little different in that sense…excuse the pun. For me, summer also means getting up earlier for my morning walk with one of our three dogs, as by 9 a.m. it is way too hot for either of us to be out. Same goes for evening strolls, as it never really cools down enough for their little paws or me for that matter.

Summer came early this year, actually the earliest in two centuries. The summer solstice, which happened on Thursday, marks the longest day of the year north of the Equator, the exact moment when the sun reaches its most northern point in the sky, when the Earth’s north pole is most tilted towards the sun, and is the beginning of summer. The Earth has a solstice every six months, in June and September. After the summer solstice, the days get short and the sun will appear lower and lower in the sky each day until the winter solstice on December. Interestingly enough, the hottest temperatures of the year usually don’t occur until July or August, as it takes time for the sun’s rays to warm our planet. Don’t tell that to people in the northeast right now who are melting in an extreme heat wave!

Even though the sun gets all the attention during all of this, the moon had its own party with a stunning “Strawberry Moon” reaching its stunning peak on Friday. Did you see it?

It was the sixth full moon of 2024, was named after strawberries that ripen during the summer, and is always the lowest-hanging full moon because it mirrors the sun’s position when the sun is at its highest. It all coincided this year not only with summer solstice, but also with a rare “major lunar standstill” not seen since 2006. This happens when the tilts of the moon and Earth are at their maximum and when the moon rises and sets at the furthest points on its range on the horizon.

Whew! That’s a lot of astronomy! Truth be told this writer loves astronomy as being a word person, my math and science skills have always been lacking. In college, when I had to take a science, I took astronomy! I loved it!

But I digress. Back to our summer five senses portrait. It’s all for fun but maybe you’ll learn something useful out of it. Maybe you’ll acknowledge smells and sounds that make you reminisce about something enjoyable. Maybe a taste will not only make your tastebuds happy but your lips smile. Give it a shot. You might just discover what you see hung the moon in some fantastic way.

Have fun and happy summer!

Happy summer! The season of sun and fun officially started Thursday and I’m here to say I didn’t even realize it. Then, I started seeing all these posts about summer and I realized the season is upon us. Where I live, summer means one thing: heat. Okay, maybe two things: heat and air conditioning. But it can also mean vacations, school’s out, gardening, and swimming. Leave it to my blogger and author girl Gretchen Rubin to present a whole new way of looking at the change of season.

In a recent blog, Rubin brainstormed about ways to make the most of this summer and challenged herself to write a five senses portrait of summer. She writes how exploring our five senses can get us out of our heads and into the world. I loved it and I’m up for the challenge. Are you?

Tied into her New York Times best-selling book, “Life of Five Senses,” which discovers a surprising path to energy, creativity, loves, and maybe even a little bit of luck simply by tuning into your five senses. The challenge asks you to list your five senses and tie each on into a memory of summer. Let’s dive in!

Sight. My immediate summer sight memory takes me to Costa Rica and gazing out on the ocean from our hotel balcony. It’s a happy place and a happy memory.

Hearing. Where I live, summer hearing means cicadas. Yep, those buzzing bugs that once we hear them chirping each evening, we know summer, or at least the heat, has officially arrived.

Smell. Flowers. I think of all the flowers blooming everywhere, especially my knock-out roses that go crazy once the weather warms up. They are so beautiful they could also be in my “sight” category.

Taste. Grilled anything. Summer (and spring for that matter) mean grilling outside for us. This could be anything from burgers to hot dogs to fajitas to BBQ ribs or brisket. Some of these could also qualify as “smells” of summer.

Touch. My skin. Weird, right? But yep, in the summer I tend to touch my skin a whole lot more cuz off went the hoodies and leggings and out came short sleeves and dresses.

Quick diversion here. Rubin also has what’s called the “What’s Your Neglected Sense?” quiz. I took it and discovered my most neglected sense is seeing. Rubin notes that is can be useful to recognize your neglected sense because that’s where you have the greatest opportunity to fin more enjoyment and heighten your mindfulness. Got to gretchenrubin.com to find out more about all of this.

Back to summer…

Last summer was one of endless days of 100 degrees or more, so I’m hoping this summer is a little different in that sense…excuse the pun. For me, summer also means getting up earlier for my morning walk with one of our three dogs, as by 9 a.m. it is way too hot for either of us to be out. Same goes for evening strolls, as it never really cools down enough for their little paws or me for that matter.

Summer came early this year, actually the earliest in two centuries. The summer solstice, which happened on Thursday, marks the longest day of the year north of the Equator, the exact moment when the sun reaches its most northern point in the sky, when the Earth’s north pole is most tilted towards the sun, and is the beginning of summer. The Earth has a solstice every six months, in June and September. After the summer solstice, the days get short and the sun will appear lower and lower in the sky each day until the winter solstice on December. Interestingly enough, the hottest temperatures of the year usually don’t occur until July or August, as it takes time for the sun’s rays to warm our planet. Don’t tell that to people in the northeast right now who are melting in an extreme heat wave!

Even though the sun gets all the attention during all of this, the moon had its own party with a stunning “Strawberry Moon” reaching its stunning peak on Friday. Did you see it?

It was the sixth full moon of 2024, was named after strawberries that ripen during the summer, and is always the lowest-hanging full moon because it mirrors the sun’s position when the sun is at its highest. It all coincided this year not only with summer solstice, but also with a rare “major lunar standstill” not seen since 2006. This happens when the tilts of the moon and Earth are at their maximum and when the moon rises and sets at the furthest points on its range on the horizon.

Whew! That’s a lot of astronomy! Truth be told this writer loves astronomy as being a word person, my math and science skills have always been lacking. In college, when I had to take a science, I took astronomy! I loved it!

But I digress. Back to our summer five senses portrait. It’s all for fun but maybe you’ll learn something useful out of it. Maybe you’ll acknowledge smells and sounds that make you reminisce about something enjoyable. Maybe a taste will not only make your tastebuds happy but your lips smile. Give it a shot. You might just discover what you see hung the moon in some fantastic way.

Have fun and happy summer!

Tis the season for travel. Americans are traveling overseas in record numbers this year, setting aside worries about inflation and “prioritizing meaningful experiences over material goods,” according to a new report from Mastercard. Don’t believe that? Just look online. Everywhere I scroll someone is posting photos of their trips to one fabulous place after another. I’m guilty of posting a few photos of past trips myself and I enjoy doing so but I gotta admit I don’t enjoy travelling as much as I once did. Especially flying and especially flying during the summer. I seem to be joined somewhat by fellow travelers as choices are being made mindfully and earnestly.

 

“Today’s travelers are discerning, choosing destinations that offer both value and authenticity,” Michelle Meyer, chief economist and head of the Mastercard Economics Institute, which compiled the report, said. “Travel & Leisure” also interestingly reports that trending destinations are once-in-a-lifetime events, whether it’s a Taylor Swift concert, an international soccer tournament, or a solar eclipse. Consumers are also looking for places that offer excellent value, whether through favorable currency exchange rates or the overall bang-for-your-buck, somewhat proving that current inflation rates and overall increased cost-of-living expenses are playing a big part in where people go.

 

 

 

Among the hottest trending spots on Mastercard’s list are Tokyo, where the yen is down significantly compared to the U.S. dollar, as well as warm weather tropical favorites Aruba and Cancun. Additionally, rather than hopping from one destination to another, today’s travelers are extending their stays and immersing themselves in the experiences and wonders of each locale.

 

I do like the idea of settling in one spot but unless I’m going to one of my few remaining Bucket List locations, I’m happy either staying home or taking a road trip.

 

Speaking of road trips, we are scheduled to take a road trip with our three dogs to Ruidoso soon. We are keeping our fingers crossed that the devastating wild fires are contained and we are still able to make our favorite journey to the charming town, but most of all we are praying for all those displaced and whose homes and businesses were destroyed. Will you join me?

 

We love going to Ruidoso and do so annually. I’d also love to return to Costa Rica, where we visited annually until the pandemic shut the world down, but unfortunately the land of “pura vida” has been officially discovered so it’s more crowded and the hotel we called home each year is now 10 times more expensive. Sadly, no gracias.

 

 

I would love to return to Costa Rica, where we visited annually until the pandemic shut the world down, but unfortunately the land of “Pura Vida” has been officially discovered so it’s more crowded and the hotel we called home each year is now 10 times more expensive. Sadly, no gracias.

 

 

 

 

What about you? Do you prefer to return to places you previously visited or do you like to explore new and exciting places? I’m somewhere in the middle as there are destinations I haven’t been that I’d like to visit, but I also love returning to places I know and love and know that I love.

 

 

 

I’ve pretty much loved the majority of places I’ve been blessed to visit, some more than one time, some more than others, and most I’d visit again but before that, I do still have a few on my Bucket List. I would still like to see Ireland but am okay if I never do and Montana/Wyoming sound lovely but quite a chore to plan. Ultimately, the majority of places I still want to see are in the U.S. International travel is hard and with all that’s going on in our crazy world I’m a bit of the thinking that if I can’t drive home if need be, I’m staying home. That being said, I’m hell bent on seeing the Biltmore and surrounding Ashville; Louisville/Lexington and their bourbon trails, horse farms, and Churchill Downs; Colonial Williamsburg; Coeur d’Alene, Idaho; and Newport, RI. Hopefully I’ll get to at least one of them this year.

 

 

 

Anyplace else I’m okay not seeing. Oddly enough one of those places is Hawaii. Neither my husband nor I have been and have no desire to. Yes, we’ve heard how beautiful it is, but if I’m going to fly that far I’m going to Ireland or somewhere else in Europe. Would I go if it was free? Of course, but if it were up to the two of us, we’re happy with Santa Fe; Ruidoso; Scottsdale; New Orleans; Longboat Key, Florida; his hometown of East Aurora, NY; and a couple of golf destinations in between. Call us old, call us simple, call us satisfied.

 

 

 

We know we are blessed. We’ve experienced many of great cities and charming countries in the world. My husband has played golf at most of the treasured courses and I’ve relaxed in a sundry of fabulous spas…my happy place. For 21 straight years I’ve been beyond fortunate with trips with four college buddies to a different location every year. I do have one travel regret though. I regret never going to visit my niece when she lived in Japan or going with her and her family on one of their annual trips to her husband’s home country. Someday maybe.

 

 

 

Naturally there will be trips to see family and attend weddings, which we always enjoy, but chosen and planned out travels are somewhat off our radar list. For starters, my husband has travelled for business for 40+ years (and yes, I’ve heard the argument “but leisure travel is different than business travel, but tell that to someone who has travelled for 40+ years. A plane is a plane. A hotel starts being a hotel. And a destination is just somewhere away from home. As his grateful wife I respect it and I get it.) and flying today is such a hassle. Truth be told, I would much rather take a long road trip then hop on a plane. Drive me to Montana before flying me to Hawaii.

 

 

 

Speaking of the two states, there’s also the beach vs. mountains and city vs. small town decisions to be made. Both my husband and I grew up snow skiing and continued doing so early in our marriage and in our younger days. We’ve also always loved the beach and now in our more current “mature” years, we prefer the beach although we do love a beautiful mountain town in the summer. Big cities are exciting but I’m kinda over them and prefer small, quaint towns.

 

I do somewhat admire (but don’t envy!) friends who go to what I call “daredevil destinations” like Machu Pichu or Antarctica as I would never choose to do any of them. I have ziplined in Costa Rica, rode in a dog sled in Alaska, jumped on board the Maid of the Mist at Niagara Falls, and breathed deep as my husband and I drove Furka Pass in Switzerland, but those are about the extent of my adventurous spirit. There’s just something very comforting and homey about going back to a lovely hotel and a familiar destination and in my comfort zone. Yeah, I know and have read all about that outside of your comfort zone is where the magic happens but I’m not big into magic either.

 

 

If you do travel this summer or anytime soon, Gretchen Rubin of the Happier podcast shed some summer travel hacks that I loved, including:

• Buy a book as a souvenir. (Oddly enough I started doing this many trips ago and have loved every book I’ve brought home for my library.)
• Choose a signature scent for the trip that will forever remind you of the memories made.
• Bring an extra light tote that can be used as a shopping bag, beach bag, or extra carry-on bag. (I always have one of those foldable ones in my purse and it has proven clutch on many occasions.)
• Take notes on your trip to help you remember details like places you loved and those you didn’t and what you might have do the same or even differently.

 

Tips from me:

• Use hotel shower caps as shoe covers. You’re welcome!
• Pack your patience. Things are not going to go exactly as planned. Flights will be delayed. Weather happens. Crowds congregate. Rubin suggests packing your humor too.
• Count your blessings. Travel is a luxury. Be grateful for every trip you get to take.

 

Safe travels to everyone heading out. I can’t wait to see the photos and hear all about your adventures. Have a wonderful time!

One day recently while playing golf, the “Barbie” movie came up. Some had seen it but I haven’t. Don’t get me wrong, I looooooved Barbie but heard such mixed things about the movie I opted to pass. Will I watch it now that it’s streaming? Maybe. But while talking about the movie and its stars Margot Robbie and Ryan Gosling, we got to talking about how much I loved Robbie’s TV series from way back called “Pan Am” and since I loved the book “Maid” I liked her in that too. We also talked about how Gosling’s wife Eva Mendes has opted to take a pause from her actress life to raise their kids. (Harrison Butker surely applauds her.) From there it took a turn to sandwiches. Yep, sandwiches.

 

One of my friends mentioned that she’d seen Gosling interviewed and when asked what his favorite sandwich was, he said “ice cream.” A bit unexpected but understandable nonetheless and it got me thinking about a recent Reel I saw online that listed the top favorite sandwiches. So, sandwiches it is today friends!

 

 

What is your favorite sandwich? Everyone has one, even if it’s an ice cream sandwich! Mine? I gotta admit I turn to my inner child on this one as two of my absolute favorites are a classic PB&J and a grilled cheese. A simple grilled cheese though, not (although I do like them) a “fancy” one a la Baltazar in New York City. And as for a PB&J, I like grape or strawberry jelly, over jam, and creamy peanut butter, over chunky. I love PB&Js so much that my recent discovery of them at a simple news store in Austin’s airport literally made my day. Wrapped in cellophane, they are the perfect go-to snack while waiting for a flight or boarding one.

 

 

The more grown-up Carla is not a fan of classic sub sandwiches made up of a variety of cheeses and meats but I do love a chicken or egg salad sandwich. Tuna salad is good too. Lastly, the more ravenous and unhealthy version of Carla loves a Philly Cheese Steak sandwich. I’ve even had one at one of Philadelphia’s original cheesesteak diners.

 

Okay, but back to the list.

 

“USA Today” reports that, according to data, 79 percent of people either “like” or “somewhat like” a good old’ grilled cheese sandwich best. It was closely followed by grilled chicken and turkey sandwiches, which tied for second with a 75 percent likeability score. Here’s the complete list of the top 15 favorite sandwiches in the U.S.

 

1. Grilled cheese
2. Grilled chicken
3. Turkey
4. Roast beef
5. Ham
6. BLT
7. Club
8. Bacon
9. Peanut butter & jelly
10. Pulled pork
11. Tuna
12. Egg salad
13. Meatball
14. Reuben
15. Cuban

 

 

While most of the above sandwiches are beloved across the country, it’s interesting to note how tastes vary by region in the U.S. For instance, YouGov reports that people in the Northeast prefer lobster rolls and meatball subs more than the rest of the country. And in the West, they’re much more into the French dip. I’m guessing the South ranks highest when it comes to egg salad or pimento cheese sandwiches and Texans love their pulled pork BBQ sandwiches. And, who’s ever been to New Orleans and not had a muffuletta? This combination of ham, salami, mortadella sausage, Swiss and provolone cheeses, and olive salad all served in a muffuletta loaf, which is similar to focaccia, is not my favorite, but beloved in the Louisiana.

 

One “sandwich” that didn’t make the list, and I added the quotes because the sandwich jury is out as to whether it’s truly a sandwich, is the good ole Sloppy Joe. I like the combo of ground beef, onions, and tomato sauce all slopped together in hamburger bun but not enough respondents did to make the below list. Other honorable mentions include a crab cake sandwich and a cucumber and cream cheese tea sandwich. Check, check; like them both.

 

 

Yet another debate is how you pronounce “sandwich.” My mom has forever said “sangwich” and then there’s the “samich” crowd. And, is the D silent? Sanwich or sandwich?

 

In all seriousness though, sandwiches are serious stuff. What goes into each one is the talk of the town square everywhere and they are big business, so here’s just a sampling of what’s what. Enjoy!

 

 

Grilled Cheese. Not widely exciting or inventive, a grilled cheese is simply hard to hate. The key is keeping it simple with just bread and cheese. I like my bread a little buttered too.

 

Chicken Sandwich. I had no idea that none other than Chick-fil-A actually invented the chicken sandwich. It was created by the fast-food chain’s founder as an alternative to the hamburger and is now beloved by many.

 

Turkey Sandwich. This one is kinda boring to me but most like it because it can be not only delicious, but healthy. Forego the mayo and opt for mustard, top with lettuce and tomato, and you’ve got a somewhat nutritious little treat. Turkey melts are also yummy!

 

Roast Beef Sandwich. This can be made in several ways, including with just mayo and other toppings ranging from horseradish and aioli to the more exotic French Dip. Consisting of thin-slice roast beef, Swiss cheese, and onions on a French roll or banquette, the French Dip is also served with a side of beef broth for dipping. Ironically, it was not invented in France but at an LA sandwich shop called Phillipe The Original back in 1918. Maybe this is why they are way more popular in the West then elsewhere in the U.S.

 

Ham Sandwich. Thick slices of ham are the stars of this sandwich and are often joined by cheese, preferably Swiss, tomato and mustard. The very first recipe for this classic came from cookbook author Eliza Leslie back in 1840, where she instructed, “cut some thin slices of bread neatly, having slightly buttered them, and if you choose, spread on very little mustard. Have ready some very thin slices of cold boiled ham and lay one between two slices of bread.” The sandwich, which I do like, has come a long way since then but its roots remain.

 

BLT. Fun story. Growing up our family’s “BLT” didn’t have lettuce or tomato, but rather bacon in between one slice of bread spread with peanut butter and another slice spread with mayo. Odd I know, but beloved by us to this day. The more traditional version consists of bacon, lettuce, and tomato served as one. The sandwich became a national craze after World War II when the ingredients were sold in grocery stores at affordable prices.

 

Club Sandwich. Like the BLT, it gets its name from its ingredients: Chicken and Lettuce Under Bacon. This, I did not know! The popular sandwich first appeared in America in the late 19^th century and traditionally includes chicken, lettuce, and bacon served in a three-layer form with an extra slice of bread in the middle and served in quarters.

 

 

PB&J. Another favorite named for its ingredients, the PB&J is favored by old and young alike. The simple sandwich has been around since the turn of the 20^th century and, like the BLT, became popular during World War II as they were staples on ration menus as their ingredients were cheap and accessible. You could say this is the “All American Sandwich.”

 

Pulled Pork Sandwich. I do enjoy a good pulled pork sandwich…preferably sauced up and shredded barbecue pork. It should come as no surprise that this sandwich has its roots in the South and that’s where you’ll find the best versions, often served with coleslaw, where it’s most popular.

 

Tuna Sandwich. The story behind this classic consists of not a sandwich, but a salad. Toward the end of the 19^th century, restaurants began catering to their female clientele by serving healthy yet hearty salads with tuna. Years later, as women joined the workforce en masse, the more complicated salad became an easy to go sandwich and it’s still one of America’s favorites. If you want to get really fancy, there’s always a tuna melt consisting of added cheese and a toasted creation. Yum!

 

 

Egg Salad Sandwich. Yet another southern favorite and a Masters tradition, egg salad sandwiches are considered a bit “old school” but once you’ve had a good one, young or old you are sold.

 

Meatball. Next up, the meatball sub. The whopping more-than-a-sandwich features a hearty helping of ground meat or meatballs, mozzarella or provolone cheese, all heated up on a baguette or other large roll. Men tend to prefer this sandwich over women and I’m on board with that.

 

Rueben. This seems to be one of those things that you either love or hate. I’m not a fan but many are. Like the meatball, the combination of corned beef, Swiss cheese, Russian dressing, and sauerkraut served up on grilled rye bread, is more popular with men then women and is especially beloved in the Midwest.

 

Cuban. I always think I’d like this sandwich more than I do. Maybe it’s the combination of thin-sliced roast pork and glazed ham. Traditionally those meats are topped with Swiss cheese and dill pickles and then stuffed into a thick and unique Cuban roll.

 

 

Amazingly, British royalty is to thank for the sandwich, which originated in the 18^th century and was named after John Montagu, the 4^th Earl of Sandwich. Legend has it that he came up with the idea of putting meat between two pieces of bread so he could continue eating while playing cards. Okay fine; the English may have invented it, but it’s safe to say the Americans have perfected it.

 

 

I’ll end with one of my favorite sandwiches not listed above: the compliment/criticism/compliment sandwich. Never heard of it? It’s actually pretty essential in the art of conversation when it comes to feeling the need to criticize or offer disparagement to someone. It’s ingredients? Start with praise or a compliment, top and follow that with the criticism or advice, and top it all with more praise. This sandwich takes the bite out of what might be an awkward encounter and makes a savory addition to what otherwise might be too salty or spicy. Give it a try and make conversations savory!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

As I sit writing this my husband is out in the yard fertilizing our lawns. No big deal, right? Wrong. This is the husband who is not in any way, shape, or form a handy or home improvement kind of guy. For some reason though, this year he’s all about the lawns and has put a lot of love and effort into them. He even went to Home Depot today after mass to get the right lawn food. IYKYK and if so, you know that no day is really a day to find him on the home improvement aisles, least of which the Sunday of a major golf tournament. But there he was. All alone. And he even bought a gorgeous pot of Impatiens for our back patio and says we need more flowers! Someone call the troopers; this ain’t right. (No offense Scottie Scheffler…we are still rooting for you and love you!) Who is this guy and what did he do with my husband?

 

 

 

This is the time of year many of us are tending our gardens, feeding the lawns, and potting those plants. We plant, we water, and we hope. Ironically, today in the church we celebrate Pentecost, during which we commemorate and celebrate the Holy Spirit. Of the many and holy things the Holy Spirit is known for, what are called the Fruits of the Holy Spirit are among the most beloved. In order for fruits to grow, we need to plant them and water them, right? Gardeners plant the seeds much like the seeds of faith are planted in us, specifically those Fruits of the Holy Spirit: Love, Joy, Peace, Patience, Kindness, Goodness, Faithfulness, Gentleness, and Self-Control. Then, it’s up to us to water them.

 

 

 

Jesus talks often about seeds, most notably in the parable of the Seed Sower. The Sower spreads the seeds through the ancient practice of scattering seeds, which is the original meaning of our modern-day term “broadcasting.” In the famous parable, the Sower sows on a path, rocky ground, among thorns, and rich soil. On the path, the seeds never plant and are taken away by the evil one. Those sown on rocky ground lack roots so they only last a short time but never fully grow. The ones sown among thorns are choked and bear no fruit but those sown on rich soil are firmly planted and successfully grow. The parable is used to illustrate that Jesus is the seed and wants to take root in us. Is your garden one full of rich soil for those seeds of faith and the Word to grow or are they choked up and live only temporarily?

 

 

 

Gardens also need water. Pardon the pun, but scripture is flooded with water. Noah and his ark. The parting of the Red Sea. Jesus walking on water and turning water into wine. In the faith, when we think of water we also think of baptism, which without, our seeds of faith will not and cannot grow. Water drenches us, helps us grow, is necessary for life, floods us with strength, nourishes us, and cleanses us. Water your garden and your seeds and the good ones are sure to grow.

 

 

 

Unfortunately, there are weeds…in gardens and in life. Gardeners take time to pull weeds and take steps to prevent them and we need to do the same in life. The weeds in life are things that tempt us in all the wrong ways, lead us astray, have us believe lies as truths, and basically choke out what is healthy and right. Make sure you are pulling the weeds in your life.

 

 

In the end, gardens are not made up of just one plant, but of many. Our gardens of life also need many watering us with love and support. I don’t know about you, but those Fruits of the Spirit are things I want growing in my garden and I plan to keep watering them and sowing them in rich soil.

 

 

 

Lastly, not to worry sports fans: hubby’s yard work is completed and he is firmly planted (again, no pun intended!) in his big chair watching the big boys battle it out for this year’s PGA Championship. Those fairways and greens are looking pretty plush. They must have been planted in rich soil and have loving gardeners watering them and tending to them.

 

 

On that note, here’s a little Garden of Daily Living:

 

• Plant three rows of peas: peace of mind, peace of heart, and peace of soul.
• Plant four rows of lettuce: lettuce be faithful, lettuce be kind, lettuce be patient, and lettuce love one another.
• Plant five rows of squash: squash gossip, squash indifference, squash grumbling, squash envy, and squash selfishness.
• Plant six rows of thyme: time for family, time for friends, time for quiet, time for exercise, thyme for giving, and time for prayer.
• No garden is without turnips so turnip for work, turnip for school, turnip for church, turnip for service, and turnip for each other.
• Water gardens freely with patience and cultivate them with love. Remember: you reap what you sow.

Happy Cinco de Mayo! Today is a traditional day of celebration but do you even know why?

 

 

 

Cinco de Mayo, or May 5^th, celebrates the date when the Mexican army declared victory over France in 1862 at the Battle of Puebla during the Franco-Mexican War. It is not Mexican Independence Day, which is September 15, or Dies y Seis de Septiembre, which was declared more than 50 years before the Battle of Puebla. Surprisingly, while Cinco de Mayo is popular in the U.S., it a relatively minor holiday in Mexico.

 

One way many of us celebrate Cinco de Mayo is by enjoying a margarita, but how did the popular drink become so entwined with the holiday?

 

 

Many believe it’s nothing traditional but rather thanks to the invention of the frozen margarita machine, created by Mexican-American restaurateur Mariono Martinez in the early 1970’s. The machine not only made a yummy frozen version of the cocktail, but one that was easy to serve to the masses.

 

The margarita itself, however, does have historic origins albeit often debated ones. Living in Texas, I’m of the belief it originated in the legendary Cadillac Bar in Nuevo Laredo, Mexico, just over the border of Laredo, Texas and a place I’ve enjoyed a marg or two. The bar is known for its “Cadillac Margarita” and it’s a story I’m sticking to. There are many others though.

 

Most origins involve places in Mexico between the 1930s and 1940s and typically involve a bartender and a women named Margarita. One of the most popular ones involves an American socialite named Margarita Sames who claimed her friend Tommy Hilton invented a cocktail named after her and put it on his hotel menus. Paris must be proud.

 

 

Another rumor dates back to 1941 when bartender Don Carlos Orozco from Ensenada, Mexico offered his concoction to Margarita Henkel, the daughter of a German Ambassador. Mozart must be proud.

 

Last but not least is the story of Danny Negrete, who created a drink as a wedding gift for his sister-in-law named Margarita. Negrete has another connection to a woman named Margarita, none other than Rita Hayworth whose real name was Margarita Cansino and who performed at the Caliente Race Track, where Negrete worked.

 

 

Traditionally made with tequila, lime juice, and triple sec, but everyone has their favorite version. Mine is an old college friend’s recipe of a can of frozen lime juice, that empty can full of tequila, and then that empty can full of a beer. Surprisingly, the margarita is actually a descendant of the daiquiri, which dates back to the Royal Navy’s rum stations. Whatever its origins, by the early 20^th century, the margarita had arrived and is today one of the most popular cocktails around the world, ranking No. 7 on Drinks International’s list of the world’s 50 best-selling cocktails.

 

 

 

Something else I love as much as margaritas and is associated with Cinco de Mayo are mariachi bands. What is more festive than a marg in hand and a mariachi band? Mariachi is actually the group of musicians not the style of music and a mariachi band is generally composted of at least two violins, two trumpets, a Spanish guitar, and two other types of guitars usually a vihuela and guitarron. In the 1950s trumpets and a harp were added and all of this combined is what today’s mariachi bands look like. And even though when you think of a mariachi band you think of a group of males, I love that females are often part of one and that there are even all female mariachi bands. What they wear is as infamous as the sound of their music.

 

Called “charro” suits, the distinctive ornate horseman suits are often attributed to General Portofino Diaz who ordered the poor peasant musicians to don the outfits in order to look good for a visit by the U.S. Secretary of State. This visit took place in 1907 and the garments have remained ever since.

 

 

Some historians believe the name “mariachi” is derived from the French word mariage, meaning “wedding,” and it is fitting as mariachi groups still form an essential part of weddings in Mexico and elsewhere. Not having a mariachi band at our wedding either walking out of the church or entering our reception is the only regret I have of that special day. What was I thinking?!

 

Mariachi bands are known for their distinct style of music, but they play many different types although most are closely related to what is called ranchera music, songs that were literally sung on Mexican ranches. The music centered around traditional themes of love, patriotism, and nature and they rhythm of the music can be similar to that of a waltz, polka, or bolero. Ole!

 

 

Lastly there is the beloved pinata, another Cinco de Mayo staple. You will find them in all shapes and colors and they are also popular at birthday parties and Christmas in Mexico. The origin of these festive party favors is very interesting and has a spiritual meaning

 

Spanish priests used pinatas as a method of faith conversion and Aztecs celebrated the birth of the Aztec god of war. Missionaries gave the pinata increased religious meaning and the original pinata has the shape of a star with seven points. These seven points symbolized one of the biblical Seven Deadly Sins of wrath, envy, gluttony, greed, lust, pride, and sloth. The stick, which is used to break the pinata, symbolizes a method to destroy those seven sins. A pinata’s bright colors represent temptation while the blindfold used on whoever is trying to break open the pinata stands for faith. Lastly, the candy and prizes inside represent forgiveness and new beginnings. Who knew, right?!

 

 

 

So there you have it; everything you wanted to know about today’s celebrations. So as you toast your margarita, dance to mariachi music, and maybe bash a pinata, know that everything you do has meaning behind it. That’s life though, right?

 

 

 

Happy May everyone! Can you believe how fast this year is going by and that we are well on our way to summer? Crazy! But summer means many good things, one of which is flowers! I love flowers. I am by no means a green thumb but I do love flowers, especially my two favorites: daisies and Easter Lilies. Daisies are so simple and cheerful and Easter Lilies represent so much and smell so good. I also love Texas wildflowers and boy are we having a season this year! The photo above is from our backyard as I write this.

 

 

 

The photo above is an arrangement I made during a recent flower arranging class courtesy Bunches of Charm Floral Design. I went in knowing zero about the topic but I’m good at following directions and I love a pretty vase of flowers so this class was right up my alley.

 

 

 

And, although it’s past Easter (but still Easter Season in church) and my Easter Lily from this year is now lovingly planted in a flower bed, I also recently watched a Hallmark movie (yes, I love them) called “An Easter Bloom” about a gardener who sets out to save her family farm by entering a floral competition for Easter. Spoiler alert: yes, she saves the farm, wins the contest, and falls in love!  During the movie, a seasoned florist at one point tells her the four principles of floral design: harmony, contrast, purpose, and balance. It all made sense to me and piqued my interest. I wasn’t sure if this was accurate or just “Hallmarky” so I delved deeper.

 

 

Enter Wendy Mouton of Petal Republic who is quite versed in the area and says understanding the principles of floral design is the first step to creating beautiful arrangements. As with most rules, these guidelines are somewhat made to be broken depending on the arrangement’s purpose and supplies available, but you can’t follow or break rules without knowing them, right?

 

 

 

First for Mouton is Balance. An arrangement that’s top or bottom heavy or flat-out lopsided has balance issues, and I’m not talking because they were over-served. The key to achieving balance here is to use the horizontal and vertical lines of it as a guide. It’s easy, simply hold up a pencil in front of an arrangement in the center and determine if both sides are even and does each side attract equal attention? Keep in mind that larger flowers and shapes attract the eye more than smaller ones and warm or brighter colors attract the eye more than cool or dull colors. (More about colors below.)

 

 

 

Next up: Focal Point. This is a piece in the arrangement that draws the eye and anchors the design. This could be a large flower, which should always be placed just above the edge of the container leaving the outside for more delicate and wispy materials, or even a balloon or stuffed animal.

 

 

Accent and Emphasis are closely related to Focal Point and are generally the main cast members of a floral arrangement. These should be large flowers but not too many, shapes that create interest points, bright colors, and shiny textures.

 

 

 

Like a good musical piece, a good floral arrangement needs Rhythm and repetition offers just the right beat. Examples could be long and tall plants or flowers in a long and tall vase or a variation of the same color scattered throughout the design. Also, always use more than one of any type of plant or material and arrange them by thinking of a tree’s natural design: the trunk is broad and the branches generally get smaller as you move up the tree. In a flower arrangement, this type of transition works well by starting with the bigger and more compact middle and moving outward to smaller twigs and leafy materials to create rhythm and flow. Curves, of course, also create rhythm and curved plants are also playful and whimsical. When it comes to transition, color can also create rhythm by using a bridging color between two other colors such as using an orange flower between a yellow and red one.

 

 

Here’s where we bring in color as we talk about Contrast. One of the easiest ways to add contrast is with color and by making use of the color wheel. In case you’ve forgotten your elementary school color wheel, here’s a reminder:

 

In general, colors across the color wheel add instant contrast with the cornerstone Primary Colors of red, yellow, and blue adding the brightest and most vibrant punch that all work well together for a high-contrast grouping. The Secondary Colors of green, orange, and violet (or purple) are opposite the Primary Colors and mix well with their bigger and brighter brothers.

 

 

 

Lastly and perfectly, there’s Harmony. It just sounds pretty, right? Things that create harmony include repetition, texture, and using shapes, whether your arrangement is for in the kitchen or out on the porch. For example, match the color of the vase to the colors in the flowers and just for fun, sing while you’re doing it!

 

 

Okay, so maybe there’s more to floral design then depicted in the Hallmark movie, but isn’t that the norm? Things don’t always end up happily every after but if you follow even most of these guidelines, I’m confident you’ll be pretty happy with your creation. Even after it’s long gone.

Happy Independent Bookstore Day! Who knew? I certainly didn’t but when I found out, I was ecstatic. And the good news is that while big box corporate-owned bookstores are booming, the majority of the retail book market is controlled by small stores. This makes me so happy (actually I’m happy when any bookstore flourishes) as my dream has always been to own a small bookstore with a coffee bar and one that hosts book signings, book clubs, and other gatherings. I even have a name for it: Luna Books. Maybe in my next life.

 

Until then, I’ll celebrate the small book shop boom trend that isn’t limited to just U.S. sales. According to goodnewsnetwork.org, 50 percent of all retail book sales worldwide come from those little bookstores around the corner and tucked away. Yay!

 

 

It’s been said bookshelves say a lot about a person and are like self-portraits, as when you look at someone’s collection of books, you see what interests that person. Bookshelves are hot right now. I’ve always adored them and have several. I’m a physical book girl. No Nook or eBooks for me.

 

 

My dream rooms are either a library like the one in “My Fair Lady” with a rolling ladder or a dining room with built-ins. Again, maybe in my next life.

 

 

Bookshelf Wealth

I’m not alone here, as a new design trend has appeared dubbed “Bookshelf Wealth.” Like we need another video trend or the pressure of pursuing wealth, right? This one’s a good one though; I promise!

 

Yes, the idea first appeared in online videos but rapidly gained popularity in the design world. Videos featuring elegantly styled bookshelves filled with unique collections, objets d’art, paintings, photographs, and lots of lovely books rack up millions of views. But, as featured in “Veranda” magazine, this is a trend that will endure for years. Books are like that.

 

 

So, what’s the difference between a regular ole bookshelf and a “bookshelf wealth” bookcase? The latter’s shelves aren’t overly styled or staged, but rather have a lived-in look and lean into their imperfections to create a cozy vibe in your home. Without even trying or knowing about this trend, I gotta say my bookshelves follow this “new” trend.  Here are some of my faves I found:

 

 

 

 

 

 

Other key tips for creating this looks is to keep in mind that everyone’s bookshelves should be different and based on your own personal taste and collections. You don’t want them to look overly staged or perfect. Also, if you or your collection just aren’t there yet, no worries. You can start as early as today by purchasing a bookshelf or having built-ins installed and then add your favorite books along with souvenirs from your travels, pieces of art, and framed photos of friends and family. Most of all have fun with it and remember that just like financial wealth, you want to invest in your bookshelf wealth and let it grow over time.

 

 

 

Book Club Goals

Perhaps a good place to start collecting books is through a book club. I’m a member of one in my neighborhood and even though I don’t always like or read each month’s chosen book, I love my book club. Extremely popular and literally (excuse the pun) found everywhere, did you know book clubs can actually make you happier?

 

 

 

According to author/blogger/speaker Gretchen Rubin and right along with my previous “Find Your People” blog, belonging to a book club is a great way to meet new people who either share your same interests or open you up to new perspectives and ideas. Being a part of a book club that meets regularly also is in line with “Find Your People” as it ensures you are connecting consistently and hopefully building bonds that stretch beyond the books.

 

So many people claim “read more” as a goal but many also never achieve that goal. Joining a book club is the perfect answer as it ensures you don’t neglect reading or put it at the bottom of your to-do-list.

 

 

 

How to get started? The easiest way is to join an existing book club. If you want to start a new one, be clear about the club’s expectations. Who can join? Can people attend who didn’t read the book? Can anyone suggest a book? Who hosts the club and where? How often does it meet? People often assume a book club has to be organized in a certain way, but kinda like your bookshelves, they can be arranged and created however you want!

 

 

 

 

Reading is healthy for you and ancient philosophers and contemporary scientists agree that strong relationships make people happier and that we need enduring, intimate bonds. We need to feel like we belong. (Hello Jeannie Allen!) and we need to get and give support. Those same ancient philosophers and contemporary scientists also agree that eading makes people happier and that reading regularly boosts creativity, improves vocabulary, reduces stress, fosters empathy and understanding, and is FUN!

 

 

Hmmmm…it doesn’t take an ancient philosopher, contemporary scientist, or rocket scientist to realize that by combining community with reading you are creating happiness! Join a book club. Start a book club. Your personal bookshelf probably has some good starting points and if not, your local bookstore does. Check them out and check out books!

Earlier this week I wrote about finding your peeps and also discussed what I learned about doing so after doing a group neighborhood study on Jennie Allen’s book “Finding Your People.” Ironically the study wasn’t part of my neighborhood book club but rather, part of my neighborhood Bible study. When it comes to friends, you need look no further than the scripture.

 

 

 

Let’s start right with the source: Jesus. You want a squad? He had the squad of squads. Simon (to whom He named Peter), James and his brother John, Andrew, Philip, Bartholomew, Matthew, Thomas, James, Thaddaeus, Simon the Zealot, and Judas Iscariot who betrayed him. Okay, that last one proved anything but a friend but we’ve all been there though, right? We’ve had friends hurt and betray us. Maybe not to the point of death, but hurt just the same. You could say this is just one more way Jesus knows…really and truly knows…what we go through.

 

Jesus kept His 12 companions close at hand and spent the last days of His life with them. They were first called “disciples,” which means learners and then in Matthrew 10:2 they are first called “apostles,” which means messengers. So first they learned and then they preached. Probably something we should all do: listen and learn and then speak.

 

If you remember from my previous blog, Allen wrote with passion about proximity in friend groups and doing our daily lives with each other. We might read about various places in the Bible but think about it, there is only roughly five miles between Jerusalem and Bethlehem yet in those compact five miles, Jesus did work that forever changed the world. Five miles.  My grocery store is five miles away. Lesson learned? We don’t need to spread ourselves too thin to find our people. Who’s in your five miles?

 

 

 

You could literally say God planned this all. He did not want us to be isolated and alone. From day one, (actually day 6), He said, “It is not good that man should be alone” and created Eve to be Adam’s helper. We all know how that turned out but the point is God wants us to be together.

 

Even the Holy Trinity is a community of sorts and when Jesus taught us to pray, He didn’t say to pray “my father,” but “OUR father.” We are in this together whether we like to believe or not. What God has wanted from the very beginning is for us to gather in fellowship and share our lives together.

 

 

 

The gathering of community and banquets is found throughout the Bible and often times a table and food are involved. We need look no further than the Last Supper for proof of this, which is re-enacted and expressed during every Catholic mass. That gathering came towards the end of Jesus’ life, but throughout His life He hosted meals and invited all. Loaves and Fishes. The Wedding at Cana. I am the Bread of Life. Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they will be filled. The list could go on and on.

 

 

 

Equally important to note here is that Jesus invited everyone. He ate with sinners even as others watched in horror. He didn’t do so however, to accept or celebrate their sins, but to change them and their sinful ways. He befriended them. And He, the King of kings, didn’t call them servant. He called them friend. I always told my daughter when she was young, “No one has to be your friend. You have to make them want to be your friend.” Making a friend starts with being a friend and Jesus was a friend to all. You could say He sometimes added a little spice to a meal by way of invitees and often came away with a five star one.

 

 

 

I was thinking we should do that too. We should add some spice to our friend groups by sometimes mixing things up. I’ll up it the challenge even more and ask, what would it be like to have at your table people you have hurt? My hope is that come dessert time, you’d be breaking bread together. Yeah, it’s comfortable to hang out with those who are similar to you and who you are comfortable around, but sometimes we need to get comfortable with being uncomfortable. Maybe add some different ingredients to those you regularly hang out. Invite the quiet one. Welcome the outspoken one. When you mix beans, a fiber, with rice, a carb, you create a complete protein that gives you energy, builds strength, and fills you up. Same with our friends. They should together make us better and stronger.

 

 

Sometimes I feel my life if full of different ingredients, both sweet and spicy and sometimes even a little salty. The groups of friends I see frequently are so varied that I sometimes feel like a different Carla is part of each different one. Is that bad? Do you experience this too? I’m of the thinking that life changes but friends don’t have to so even though my life stage is different now (and maybe I am too) then years past. And, isn’t it normal to function differently in Bible study then while playing golf or catching up with college buddies? Help me out here.

 

 

 

I’ll close with a famous scripture verse I left out is the often heard: “You reap what you sow.” What seeds are you planting? Are you sowing friendships or are you hiding behind your fig leaf and social media? Instead, how about passing the flavoring and healing attributes of salt and breaking bread together? Be hungry not just for food, but for community. For God. For both. As beloved Father Jared Cooke so eloquently said, “If you’re not hungry for God, you’re probably too full of yourself.”