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Sunday’s Scripture August 19, 2012

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“To learn you must want to be taught.”  Proverbs 12:1

I got the inspiration for today’s scriputure in mass this morning.   In support of schools starting back up, Father Dowling talked about learning in general, church being “The School of Jesus” and our textbook being the Bible.  He also said he – along with priests, bishops, and even the pope – are all “substitute teachers” for Jesus.  Love it!

Here’s wishing all students an inspiring and fun year and here’s hoping all teachers are both inspired and inspirational.

“When you get, give.  When you learn, teach.”   Maya Angelou

 

Tending My Garden August 18, 2012

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“Be grateful for the people who make us happy.  They are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom.”  Marcel Proust

 

Hi “I Am Woman, I’m a Wordsmith” readers and followers.  I wanted to share a recent post from yet another blog I follow called “Classy and Fabulous.”   Her post today was very timely for me and proved both inspiring and empowering.  Hope you enjoy it too.

 
 

Classy and Fabulous:  Eliminating the Weeds in Your Life

 

 

Posted: 17 Aug 2012 10:42 AM PDT

 

I don’t know about you but over the years I’ve had to let a few relationships die along the way to get to where I am today. While it wasn’t easy in the moment, it was so necessary. If certain friends or family members aren’t willing to love, support, encourage and uplift you or are just really negative and toxic, it’s time to stop watering those relationships and spend time pouring into those who feed you. Sometimes it’s a person that is extremely needy and just sucks the life out of you with their constant problems and often drama they bring upon themselves. Life is too short to be held back by those who aren’t happy in their own life and take it out on others, looking for company in their misery.

Some will argue “but she’s my sister” or “I’ve known her since kindergarten” and feel a sense of obligation.  While these things might be true, if you’re not being treated right by the person in question of you don’t feel happy, at ease or yourself around this person any longer, it might be time to have a talk. Many times in friendships and other relationships simply making a point of discussing something that is bothering you will remedy the problem. Other times, they might be too prideful to admit their wrongdoing to repair a relationship so it can continue. When you’ve been patient then taken it upon yourself to tell the other person how they are making you feel and there is no response, it may be time to move on. It doesn’t mean you cannot ever be friends in the future, it just means that perhaps you both need a break. Maybe the other person will realize that they miss your friendship enough to work on themselves to repair what was once a beautiful and treasured relationship. Other times it may in fact be the best to move on and not look back.

It’s definitely not always easy, but when you do this you’ll feel a lightness as if a huge burden has been lifted off your shoulders. If you feel that and don’t really feel a sense of the friendship missed, it’s pretty clear that they weren’t meant to be in your life any longer. It’s liberating to live authentically, know what you stand for, what’s important to you and to act accordingly, that you will not continue to put yourself in a negative environment that feels more like work than enjoyment

As we prepare to enter a new season in just a few weeks, now might be a good time to look at your life and determine what’s working, what and who bring you joy as well as those that do not and move in a direction that allows you to get the most out of your life so you won’t become entangled by any weeds that exist. You deserve to be HAPPY! :)

Is there anyone right now that is a ‘weed’ in your life instead of a flower. Are there any flowers that aren’t getting enough of your time because it’s being spent watering the weeds?

Happy Weekend!

XO

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Thought About It… August 17, 2012

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I received lots of comments about yesterday’s “Think About It Thursday” post.  Here then, is how the sentence can be punctuated:

By most men:  “A woman, without her man, is nothing.”

By most women:  “A woman:  without her, man is nothing.”

Punctuation is powerful!

 

Think About It Thursday August 16, 2012

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How would you punctuate this sentence?:

“A woman without her man is nothing.”

Note:  males and females punctuate it two entirely different ways!  Punctuation is powerful!

 

Wednesday’s Words of Wit and Wisdom August 15, 2012

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I couldn’t have said it better myself, so I’m sending today’s entry from one of my favorite blogs, “The Happiness Project.”  Enjoy!

 

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Now and then it’s good to pause in our pursuit of happiness and just be happy.”

      Guillaume Appollinaire

 

Lighten Up! August 14, 2012

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Have you ever entered a room and thought, “wow, what a nice glow and what a comfortable feel?”  Chances are, the lighting in that room is what made you feel and think that.  As my daughter will tell you, I am a light fixture freak.  The lighting in a place is always the first thing I notice and the first thing I change in a new home of mine.  I lean toward traditional, but can also go whimsical or contemporary.  Designer Sabrina Soto of “Get It Sold” told “Better Homes & Gardens” magazine that if you can only afford to buy one thing to make a big difference when redoing a room, purchase a new light fixture.  I couldn’t agree more! 

Style is important in choosing the right light fixture, and so is size and placement.  Here, then, are some simple rules of thumb to keep in mind:

Chandeliers/Pendants – You never want your light fixture to overpower the table it’s above.  The fixture’s width or diameter should be at least 2 feet narrower than the table’s length.  If you’re set on a pendant that is too small, consider hanging two of them over a rectangle table or hanging the one over a smaller, round table.  There should be 30-36 inches from the top of the table to the bottom of the chandelier.  Generally, for a room with 8 foot ceilings, hang the chandelier 30 inches above the table.  For each additional foot your ceiling height increases, the light should be raised 3 inches.  Size is also important.  To figure out how large or small a light fixture you need, add the room’s length and width together.  For example, if your room is 12 x 14, you need a chandelier that’s 26 inches in diameter.  When all else fails, too big a light fixture always looks better than one that is too small.  

Table lamps – I am not a big fan of overhead lights in family rooms and bedrooms, and instead opt for table and floor lamps.  Choosing them is purely a matter of choice, but keep in mind that an end table should never rise above the arm of a chair or couch but can be as low as 4 inches below the arm.  Position table lamps on end tables so that the bottom edge of the lampshade is at or just below eye level when you are seated.   Here are some I like:

 

           Traditional Ginger Jar                Like the pewter with black shade

 

 Affordable take on classic                          Love the contrast                                Odd-shaped shades                                                Chanel crystal lamp                                        of white and tan                                are a great alternatives

Chandeliers, pendants and lamps are my favorite styles of indoor lighting.  I also adore lanterns, both inside and out, preferably black iron or ones with a rich patina.  I don’t really like sconces, but concede there are certain places where they are the right fit.  It’s all about making the room better and brighter.  Designer Suzanne Kasler told “House Beautiful” magazine that she compliments her signature white décor with light fixtures that make bold statements.  She considers hanging lights similar to creating centerpieces and says they should be a little more decorative than you might expect.    

Don’t every underestimate the power of shades; they can make a simple chandelier “pop” and can dress up an otherwise staid room.

                                                                                                                                                                               Shades come in all sizes,  styles and prices

 

         

                                                                                                                                                                            

There are so many fun and creative things you can do with lighting!

          

Lighting can transform an otherwise tiresome utility room!

                  

Some favorite lighting themes:

                                                                                                         

           

 

 Lantern style!

   

Love drum shades!

    

 

How ’bout a chandelier instead of a bedside lamp?!

 

 

  

Some great shades could make this inexpensive chandelier really “light” up!           

 

 

                            Pearls!

 

                              

                                     Black!         

 

 

   Bathroom lighting

                             

In the end, buy what you like and have fun with it!

 

Sunday’s Scripture August 12, 2012

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“Be still and know that I am God.” 

Ps. 46.:10.

 

LOL! OMG! WTH?! August 11, 2012

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What the heck is right?!   R u either guilty of sending or tired of getting txts from ppl who don’t spell out words?  I am definitely in the first group, and I m starting to worry!  U c, txting has pretty much taken ovr our society and, as stylish and pretty the woman looks in the above pic, a lot of chilling and ugly effects are resulting from this somewhat dominant social trend.

 

Perhaps first and foremost is the fact that “Generation Text” is lagging in grammar and spelling skills.  Yes, it’s official and not just a “they say” thing anymore.  A new study by Penn State University revealed that so-called “techspeak” is eroding users’ basic grammar foundations.  In fact, the more kids (ages 13-to-17 were used in the study) send and receive texts, the worse their grammar skills become.  Findings were so alarming that this age group is systematically being robbed of a fundamental understanding of English grammar.  For many of them, abbreviated words and entire sentences have become, well, words and entire sentences! 

 

Although I often text and sometimes even abbreviate, thankfully I don’t need to worry about losing my grasp of English.  Apparently adults not raised on text-friendly abbreviations are able to switch more readily from formal spelling to informal texting.  Sadly, kids today are not.  Computer spell-check programs certainly don’t help the problem. 

 

Face-to-phone communication is also severely eroding another essential element of a unified society:  the ability to converse in person. 

 

Eating dinner recently with my friend Ann I was shocked to hear her story about this sad truth.  In a nutshell, she was on a boat with friends and their college-aged kids.  One of them was constantly texting away.  They pulled up to get gas for the boat and Ann noticed an adorable girl at the pump meekly wave to her friend’s son; the texter.  When Ann asked him who the cute girl was, he said, “oh she’s the one I’ve been texting.”  WTH??????   So you can text for minutes and hours on end, but when it comes time to actually talking, both parties shy away?  Something is wrong with this non-Instagrammed picture and it’s affecting how our world conducts business.

 

It is no longer essential for sales reps to call on clients; they just simply text or email them.  Public speaking used to be an art, now it’s somewhat gone the way of conference calls and webcasts.  What’s most alarming is that those who this applies to the most are the very ones who comprise our developing work force.  They might be able to develop the technology to send a text but will they be able to explain it to the masses face-to-face?  It just might be those same text-aholics who complain some day that they were let go…via a text.  Careful what you ask for; careful what you ask for.  It is indeed a sad, sad day when making a phone call is someone’s third choice of contacting someone.

 

 

 

Remember the days when the home phone would ring and family members would scream, “I’ll get it!”  Today, if that home even has a landline, those same people ask “who is it?” (meaning check Caller ID before even thinking of picking it up), or “let it go.”  Most kids today don’t even know what a “landline” is.  They all, it seems, have cell phones.  A recent study by Mediamark found that in 2009, 80.5 percent of kids between 10-and-11-years-old had a cell phone; up from 36 percent in 2005.  What, pray tell, do that many 10-year-olds need a cell phone for?  Safety is the number one reason parents state, followed by keeping track of them during afterschool and social activities. 

 

I’ve never been a big phone-talker but my husband is – or was.  Up until maybe just a year ago, he was the first one to complain that “no one ever picks up the phone” and rarely, if ever, texted.  But, today you’ll find him doing just that.  Constantly.  Maybe it’s his Blackberry.  Maybe it’s inescapable.  I think it’s both.

 

One thing he is not doing…yet…is Tweeting.  If you asked him, he’d probably say it has something to do with birds, not a technological wonder that is picking up where texting hasn’t left off.  Tweets are now even more popular than Facebook status updates among college students.  They “follow” each other.  They “follow” famous people.  And, they follow Twitter’s strict 140-character limit per tweet.  To cram their thoughts into tweets, tweeters turn “with” into “w/” and “love” becomes “luv.”  They also omit “needless” words like “a,” “the,” and pronouns.  Rarely, if ever, do they use the word “I.”  Not only do grammar and spelling take a hit, so does punctuation, as Twitter counts double spaces between words so the ends of sentences often have only one space.  Ugh!!!!

 

I will admit I truly appreciate the advantage and convenience of texting.  Just last night I was out with three girlfriends of mine and we all guiltily chuckled as, in one fell swoop, we were all either texting or posting.  It’s how everyone communicates.  It’s how we do business.  I know it’s also the most certain method of getting a reply from my daughter. Here she is in an art museum we recently visited:

 

 

An ART MUSEUM mind you!  Monet is rolling over in his grave.

 

There are, however, instances when you are somewhere and you just can’t pick up or place a call, so a text can be an effective way to communicate.  And, I will admit that I’m most guilty of texting when all I really want is a quick comment or answer from someone rather than a long, drawn-out conversation.

 

I know texting is not going away and I don’t have any magic solutions.  So for now all I can suggest is spell out your words, pick up the phone every so often, call a friend or colleague, and NEVER TEXT AND DRIVE.   TTYL or maybe evn tmrw.  <3. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Friday Funny August 10, 2012

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…and Steinbeck, and Michener, and Scottoline, and even Sparks.

 

Wednesday’s Words of Wit and Wisdom August 8, 2012

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I recently saw this and, in honor of the Olympics, thought it was fitting for today!

 

Heaven is where…

            The police are British

            The chefs are Italian

            The mechanics are German

            The lovers are French

            And it’s all organized by the Swiss

 

Hell is where…

            The police are German

            The chefs are British

            The mechanics are French

            The lovers are Swiss

            And it’s all organized by the Italians

 

What role would the Americans play in both?!