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Tuesday’s Tip January 16, 2013

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Quitters Can Win!

During a recent staff meeting my colleagues and I were asked to complete a “True Colors” personality test. It came as no surprise to me or anyone who knows me that I was a fairly dominant “gold” person. In short, this means I’m responsible, practical, dependable, loyal, caring, orderly, procedural, and drum roll please: organized. In fact, sometimes I’m organized to a fault. I’m very scheduled and depend heavily on my calendar and everything on it. But, I recently read that sticking to a schedule, along with other supposedly time-tested time management rules, can sometimes make us less productive, not more.

Steve Prentice, a workplace productivity expert (a job title after my own heart!) says that although following your hourly, daily, weekly and any other agenda might keep you organized, but doing so can also bog you down. He doesn’t advise abandoning schedules and to-do lists, but he does suggest planning out only about 80 percent of your day, leaving the other 20 percent open for the unexpected. He says allow for “breathing room,” I hear “chill Carla!”

Prentice also told “Better Homes and Gardens” magazine (September 2011) that procrastination is not necessarily a bad word. He notes that some people actually do their best work and experience a true adrenaline rush when things come down to the wire. If you are a procrastinator, tackle small jobs while putting off a bigger, more time consuming job. Doing so will not only give you the feeling of accomplishment, but you will get stuff done! Also recommended, and I think this is helpful to anyone, is to write down what needs to be done. This will relieve any worry that you might forget something and it will also ensure that everything needed is accounted for.

Now for the booger of all current boogers: multitasking. I am the queen of multitasking and actually pride myself on being able to accomplish more than one thing at a time. Comparatively, I often tease my husband about his lack of ability to do so. Where do you fall? Do you email and watch TV at the same time? Do you make dinner while doing house work? Can you focus on just one thing or do you need “all hands on deck?” Well, come to find out that multitasking may not be so efficient after all.

A study by the Journal of Experimental Psychology found that those who do two things at once may take up to 50 percent longer to finish what they’re doing than those who do one thing at a time. In addition, Stanford University sociologist Clifford Ness found that chronic multitaskers are less likely to remember details! Wow!

All this may come very hard for you and for society as a whole to grasp and adhere to. We are programmed to make the most of every second and never, ever give up. But, even giving up is being challenged. It seems quitting is not the same as failing anymore. If you find yourself at a true dead end, experts say it may not be a bad idea to quit. So I guess quitters do sometimes win and some winners do quit!

Lastly, it’s highly recommended that everyone take downtime. This doesn’t mean close your office door and watch reruns of your favorite TV show, it means simply take a minute to let your concentration wane. A study by Melbourne’s Australia University actually showed that office workers who spent a small amount of time surfing the web for fun were 12 more productive than those who didn’t.

Maybe it’s time for a new New Year’s Resolution, and that’s to simply slow down and smell the roses. Regardless of whatever you’ve heard or think you know, you can’t do it all. Running in place and running ragged will get you nowhere. Just ask the experts.

 

The Greatest Day of My Life January 13, 2013

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We all have memorable moments, and I’m no different. But, the “greatest day of my life?” Hmmmm….good question! The day I was born? Graduating from college? Getting married? The day Kristen was born? OU winning the National Championship? I found out in mass this morning that the answer is surpisingly “none of the above.” As a matter of fact, it’s not only a good question, but a God question.

Today, after the gospel reading on John the Baptist and Christ’s baptism, father’s sermon presented us with the idea that the greatest day of each of our lives was quite possibly the day we were baptized. That was the day, father explained, that I was officially adopted by God. As the proud owner of a brand new adopted dog, I couldn’t be happier or feel luckier than to have been adopted by God. Even as a cradle Catholic however, I’ve never thought of it that way. I always considered it the day I was formally and ceremoniously presented to the Catholic Church and our historic faith. But to be adopted by God? Wow! It really was the greatest day of my life! Being baptized also set the stage for the other sacraments, including Confirmation when I literally confirmed myself to God.

In case you haven’t noticed, I haven’t been very inspired to write this blog the past few weeks. I don’t know why. I have tons of ideas but just haven’t sat down to put them on paper. My days and weeks have been busy but today’s mass inspired me, and here I am.

Today father also talked about having a personal mission statement. Companies have them, schools have them, and even families have them. But a personal one? I need to think about that one. As I ponder what I mine will consist of, what about you? What does your personal mission statement include? What do you consider the greatest day of your life? May they both inspire you daily.

 

New Year, New Hope January 1, 2013

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Happy New Year everyone!  It’s officially 2013, and despite the negative connotations of those last two digits, I am hoping this year is one of all things positive.  My dad loved New Year’s Eve.  I remember him and my mom getting dressed up to go out with their friends to celebrate and coming home with noise makers for us.  Still, I’ve never been a big New Year’s Eve celebrator, and this year was no different.  I do, however, always make those requisite resolutions come January 1 and again, this year is no different.

 

A resolution I always make that I have a pretty successful rate of accomplishing is learning something new every year.  I’ve taken an Italian class, ice skating lessons, have learned to cross-stitch and golf, and dabbled in yoga before yoga was cool.   This year, as I did last year, I hope to learn how to shoot a gun.  I know the timing is perhaps questionable but it’s something I’ve wanted to do and hope to finally scratch off my list this year.  As always I also hope to get healthier.  I need to eat better, exercise more, and lose weight.  I started yesterday and can’t wait for Coach Kim’s boot camp at work to start up again next Tuesday.  I don’t love exercising and I love all foods that are bad for me, but I also don’t love being overweight and unhealthy.

 

Why are resolutions so hard to keep?  Maybe we make them too unattainable.  Maybe we are imperfect and weak.  It all got me thinking back to Kristen’s high school yearbook senior ad.  I wonder if what I wrote in it qualifies as resolutions for every year:

 

“Always remember to pray, dream, believe in yourself, believe in Santa, never give up, help others, respect yourself, stand tall, be grateful, be kind, be a lady, say grace, be honest, speak up, ask why, attend mass, vote, work hard, never settle, laugh, dance, sing, listen, keep your heart open and your eyes looking up, and never forget the house that built you.”

 

I also added the following quotes and scripture:

 

May trouble neglect you and angels protect you.

 

Hard work beats talent when talent fails to work hard.

 

“In everything you do, put God first and He will direct you and crown your efforts with success.”  Proverbs 3:6.

 

“For I know the plans I have for you.  They are plans for good and not evil, to give you a future and a hope.”  Jeremiah 29:11

 

They all sound easy enough, right?

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My niece Tessa, whose married to a man from Japan, informed me that, according to the Chinese Zodiac, 2013 is “The Year of the Snake.”  Hmmmm…what do I make of that?   I hate snakes!  Apparently under this belief, 2013 is meant for steady progress and attention to detail. Focus and discipline will be necessary to achieve what you set out to do. The Snake is the sixth sign of the Chinese Zodiac and is the enigmatic, intuitive, introspective, refined and collected of the Animals Signs. It is a studious creature, preferring quiet predictability to ruckus and mayhem. Peaceful solitude is also its preference.  Snake or no snake, that’s what I’m hoping for in 2013.

 

I’m also happy to say I’ll be having “high tea” with my friend Mary from Scotland tomorrow.  This seems most appropriate being that “Auld Lang Syne” was originally a Scottish  poem written by Robert Burns in 1788 and set to the tune of a traditional folk song. It is well known in many countries, especially in the English-speaking world, as the traditional way to celebrate the start of the new year at the stroke of midnight   The song’s title is in “Scots,” the language spoken in Lowland Scotland and not to be confused with Scottish Gaelic, which is spoken in the Highlands, and may be translated into English as “old long since” or more idiomatically, “days gone by.”  Consequently, “for auld lang syne” could be loosely translated as “for the sake of old times.”  Singing the song on New Year’s Eve very quickly became a Scottish custom that soon spread to other parts of the British Isles.  As Scots emigrated around the world, they took the song with them.  Beginning in 1929, Canadian band leader Guy Lombardo  is often credited with popularizing the use of the song at New Year’s celebrations in America through his annual broadcasts on radio the song became his trademark.

 

So, as this new year begins fresh with new hopes and new dreams, perhaps Denis Waitley said it best with, “There are two primary choices in life:  to accept conditions as they exist or accept the responsibility for changing them.”  As I leave you with a prayer for 2013, I pray we all make choices that are healthy, resolutions that are attainable, and decisions that make a difference.

 

“Prayer for the New Year”

Give us the kindness to hear with compassion and to offer support, loving comfort, and care.  Give us the courage to do what is needed and the wisdom to choose what is right and most fair.  Give us the vision to see what is possible.  Give us a faith that will help pave the way for a present that’s hopeful and a future that’s peaceful.  Give us a heart to bring joy to each day.

 

Yay for Me, Thanks to You! December 31, 2012

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I started this blog in June 2012 on a whim.  I didn’t put a lot of thought into it, I just knew I love to write so why not?  Even the name of it just came to me.  Today I received my “annual report” from WordPress and I am amazed at what it showed.

In short, “I Am Woman, I’m a Wordsmith” got a little more than 2,400 views from people in 15 countries.  I had/have readers in the U.S., Canada, Mexico, England, France, Spain, Germany, Finland, India, Australia, Romania and Russia!  What?  I am equally honored and humbled.

How did they find me?  Popular social media sites like Facebook, LinkedIn, and Pinterest were often used but so were some very random websites and search engines.  Seems that people searching for everything from “Caroline Bissett” to “Dress Like Jackie” to “Football” found my blog.

My most popular blogs proved to be the very first one, as well as “Dates With Destiny,” “For My Biskit,” and “Be My Guest.”  I am proud to say that with this post, I have posted exactly 100 blogs since June.  I thank all of you for reading my words and for responding and forwarding them to friends and family.  As 2012 comes to a close, I look forward to writing more and hearing from you.

Thank you and Happy New Year!

 

No Words December 19, 2012

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 I sat down to right this blog with the intention of writing something Christmas-related.  I’ve been consumed by all things holidays this week – at work, at home, in my head – and have literally accomplished only what has to get done each given day, that very day.  No one or nothing says I have to write my blog so, sadly, it’s somehow slipped through my seasonal stresses.

But, I am grabbing a precious moment to write right now.  Writing is beneficial to me in ways I can’t even explain.  Like I said, I had every intention of writing something cheerful, but as I was looking through the photo file I often use for this blog, I ran across this picture that I took last spring in Oklahoma City:

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It sits right outside the Oklahoma City National Memorial and is called “And Jesus Wept.”  I’ve seen it countless times but each time it touches me.  Jesus wept the day of the Murrah Building bombing, and he’s weeping now.  He weeps for the families and friends in Newtown, Connecticut.  He weeps for all of us.

“There is no heartache that heaven cannot heal.”

Pope John Paul II

 

I don’t have any words of wisdom on the horrific subject and I have no platforms to stand on.   I will leave those to the so-called “experts” on the multiple channels that have created a circus of coverage.  All I can do is pray and hope.  I pray for the families who are hurting beyond hurt.  I pray for the townspeople and for our nation as a whole.  I also pray for the many priests, pastors, ministers and leaders of faith who are now being called to nearly impossibly somehow comfort and explain.  I also hope that nothing like this ever, ever happens again.  Wishful thinking?  Maybe.  Unrealistic?  Probably.  Still, I hope and I pray.

I’ve seen many tributes, poems, and essays on the shootings, but none of them make me feel better.   Our priest’s sermon this past Sunday is the closest I’ve heard.  He reminded us that although the Christmas season is full of joy and cheer, the real Christmas was full of pain and suffering.  Joseph and Mary had been run out of their town, she was pregnant, riding a donkey in the cold, and delivered a baby in what was basically a stinky barn full of animals.  Out of all that suffering came the greatest gift of all though.  I’m hoping that the suffering in that idyllic town in Connecticut will result in something good someday.  What that might be, I have no idea.  In the meantime I will focus on that little baby lying in the hay and the one weeping.

“The Lord is close to thos whose hearts are breaking.”  Ps. 34:18

 

 

Friday Funny December 14, 2012

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Think About It Thursday December 13, 2012

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Wednesday’s Words of Wit & Wisdom December 12, 2012

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Tuesday’s Tip December 11, 2012

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THE FRIENDLY SKIES?

 

In one of my favorite movies, “Dumb and Dumber,” John Carrey’s character is a limo driver who picks up a pretty young woman.  She enters the car and quickly tells him, “airport please.”  He, being one of the title characters, says “flying somewhere?”  It gets me every time.  It’s so dumb, it’s funny.

 

Air travel, on the other hand, is anything but funny or fun.  Again, tis the season though.  Are you flying somewhere during the holidays?  If so, I have some tips for you!

 

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Germs

First off, I’m sure you realize that airports are some of the biggest gathering places of germs, but do you also realize so are airplanes?  In fact, aircraft bathrooms have the highest concentration of germs that you’ll encounter on your entire trip, especially direct or quick-connecting flights, but what to do if you really need to go?   First off, always go before you board the plane, after that my best advice is to use paper towels to flush and open and close the door and use hand sanitizer immediately upon returning to your seat.  You also probably know that airline blankets and pillows can be germ hotspots, but what about all that reading material in the seat pocket in front of you?  Keep in mind that most people don’t wash their hands before reading on-board magazines and many lick their fingers to turn the pages.  Eeeeewwww!  Best advice:  bring your own reading materials!  Finally, I know it’s often easier to go sockless through security, but unless you want to run the risk of picking up infections like athlete’s foot, wear socks when traveling!

 

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Connections

Did you know that 57 percent of all disrupted air travel is caused by missed connections?  You’ve been there, I’m sure.  Sitting in a window seat on row 27 as your flight crawls to the gate, leaving you mere minutes to make a connection that very well could be departing out of an entirely different terminal.  Ugh!  All I can advise is to carefully consider connection times when booking flights.  Airlines, travel sites, and travel agents may offer and present you with 30 minute connections, but keep in mind that those connections are safe only when every other aspect of a flight is on time and on target.  As we all know, these are often not the norm in today’s harried world of airline travel.  Personally, I would rather sit at a gate for an hour or two rather than run the risk of missing a connection.  When booking travel, I also do my best to avoid large hubs such as Atlanta, Chicago, Dallas, and Denver if possible.  Sprinting through those very large and crowded airports to make a connection can be much harder and less successful to accomplish than doing so at a smaller airport.  One last tip I have regarding connections:  travel early in the morning if possible.  Should you face any delays or missed connections, a full day’s worth of flights will provide you with more options for re-booking.

 

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To Check or Not to Check?

I gotta say, in this case I love Southwest Airlines and Jet Blue, where your first checked bag is free.  After that, it’s a crapshoot.  Do you carry your bag on-board meaning you have to lug it in the terminal, heave it in the overhead bin, and possibly have to pack fewer things than you’d like, or do you pay the fee to check the bag but run the risk of the airline losing it?  According to Conde Nast Traveler magazine, travelers this year in the U.S. have paid more than $3 billion in checked baggage yet 2 million pieces of luggage were lost or damaged.  And, even though 99 percent of lost bags turn up within two days and are returned to their owners, it costs an airline an average of $100 to do so.  Guess who’s ultimately “paying” those fees as well?  Airlines must also refund any checked baggage fees they collected for delayed or lost bags.  International travel is even worse, with 26 million bags being lost or delayed in 2010.

 

In addition, those bags you see fellow travelers checking in are hardly the extent of a flight’s cargo.  Your designer duffel or Samsonite suitcase is very likely to be in the same area as many things both dead and alive.  At Atlanta Hartsfield airport alone, 6,500 bags travel through its 20 miles of conveyor belts every hour!

 

What can you do?

  • Photograph the contents of any checked bags before you depart and make of list of all contents.
  • Inside checked bags, put your itinerary as well as contact information.  Outside tags can easily be torn off or removed.  In addition, put the address of your destination – not your home address – on the outside of your bag.  You won’t be home should your bag get lost and such a tag could also encourage burglary.
  • Be sure to remove any previous trip tags, especially those bag check stickers airlines often affix to your bag.
  • Although you might feel special using an expensive suitcase, keep in mind that thieves are way more likely to target your bag than a run-of-the-mill piece of luggage.
  • Never, ever check anything valuable or anything you can’t replace or do without upon arrival.  This includes jewelry, money, medicines, sentimental items, and important documents.
  • Quick connections don’t automatically mean your checked bag is more likely to be lost or delayed.  Often times these bags are considered “hot bags” by airlines and are the first to be tended to.  On the flip-side, don’t check your bag too early.  Sometimes these three-hour-prior- to-departure bags get lost in the shuffle.

 

Know Your Rights

If an airline does lose your bag, you should immediately file a claim.  The U.S. Department of Transportation requires airlines compensate you for the value of the bag and its contents, up to a maximum of $3,300.  Yet another reason to not spend big bucks on an expensive piece of luggage!  You may have to go to court to get compensated anything other than vouchers, but doing so will more than likely be in your favor.

 

If your bag is delayed, the DOT also requires airlines provide you with stipends for items such as clothing, medicines, and toiletries.  There are no hard and fast mandatory dollar amounts, but airlines are required to post their individual regulations on-line.

 

Flying today is anything but fun.   It is instead often stressful, expensive, and frustrating.  But, knowing just these few bits of information might make your air travel more manageable, which could mean the difference between a turbulent flight and a soft landing.  Happy travels everyone!

 

Cooking with Class December 10, 2012

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I couldn’t agree more and what better time to talk about fun and eating than the holidays?  It’s the time of year when we gather round tables with friends and family to eat, drink, and be merry.  I also couldn’t agree more with Ms. Child as when she famously said, “Cilantro and arugula I don’t like at all. They’re both green herbs, they have kind of a dead taste to me.”  I cannot stand cilantro…it tastes like soap and smells like stinky feet.  I am so happy I am not alone in this aversion!

 

I am not a serious cook but I do enjoy serious food.   There are so many TV chefs and cooking shows these days it’s almost  stress-inducing, and cookbooks are written by everyone from Rachael Ray to a take on “Fifty Shades of Gray…” for real!  In honor of good friends, good food, and good cooks, I’m dedicating today’s blog to two of my favorite famous chefs:  Ina Rosenberg Garten and Sandra Lee.   Amazingly, other than a love for cooking and entertaining, the two women could not be more different.

 

I have long enjoyed Sandra Lee’s “Semi-Homemade” television show and I recently her autobiography, “Made From Scratch,” which gave me a whole new level of respect for her.  There is a huge misconception that Lee was born with a silver spoon in her mouth and grew up in a life of privilege.  This couldn’t be further from the truth.

 

Lee and her sister were raised by their Grandma Lorraine in California after essentially being abandoned by their mom.  Although their life wasn’t extravagant, it was filled with love and set the stage for how Lee would live her life, despite many, many obstacles.

 

“I was going to be kind and nice, generous, supportive and nurturing, thoughtful and disciplined, and all the things Grandma Lorraine taught me to be – a lady,” writes Lee.

 

After raising her sister and two brothers, Lee headed out on her own and became truly a self-made, albeit homemade, millionaire.  She first arrived on the scene with “Kurtain Kraft,” a window treatment system that sold like hotcakes.  Before you could blink, she was on QVC, self-publishing her “Semi-Homemade” books, and becoming a “lifestyle goddess.”  None of it came easy though.

 

“I was dealt a hand that might have had a very different outcome if I ever allowed myself to feel like a victim,” she writes.  “But I have taken the lemons that life has handed me and made sweet, delicious, homemade lemonade.”

 

Her ideas were genius:  easy-to-follow recipes using specific brand-name products combined with fresh ingredients.  Her demographics are women she calls “semi-homemakers.”  They include both stay-at-home and working moms who run their households and run around all day doing things for others.  They are the ones in charge but make their husbands believe they are and she wants to do things quickly but efficiently so she can cross them off her ever-growing “to do” list.  On the outside these women are calm, but inside they are overwhelmed with pressure.  They take care of others, and they take care of themselves.

 

“A woman of grace is the hero of her home,” says Lee.  “She makes everything happen for the people in her life but never forgets to make herself a priority too.”

 

Sandra Lee practices what she preaches.  She creates all recipes and menus under her brand, as well as the themes, décor, and tablescapes…all designed with the intent of being easy to duplicate.  Her goal is to inspire viewers to believe that no matter what they are going through, they still have the ability to create a happy home.

 

“I have a passion for making a room look beautiful and a flair for doing it on a budget,” she boasts.

 

Lee did end up marrying wealthy, but always felt more in tune with her beloved semi-homemakers than the luxury she was surrounded by.  She says the jet set life was perhaps “fun,” but not “fulfilling” and ultimately divorced.

 

She still talks daily to her siblings and her most prized possession is a pair of her grandma’s shoes.  She says they represent the fact that until you’ve walked in someone else’s shoes, it’s impossible to know the challenges they face and the adversity they’ve overcome.  Fittingly, her grandma’s favorite poem was the popular “Footprints in the Sand,” which Lee says reminds us that we are never alone and that no matter who you are or where you’re from, sometimes everyone needs a helping hand.”  Indeed, as she says, “asking for help doesn’t make you weak; it makes you smart.”

 

Love her or hate her, you cannot deny that Sandra Lee is one smart cookie…literally and figuratively.  She’s lived a life that would make her grandma very proud.

 

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It’s Not Rocket Science

My other favorite TV cooking personality, Ina Rosenberg Garten, grew up anything but disadvantaged.  Garten was once a White House nuclear policy analyst but today we know and love her as the Food Network’s popular “Barefoot Contessa” host.  I love her low-key style and her cookbooks are some of my favorites.  She is, in a way, the antithesis of Sandra Lee yet I love them both.

 

Known for recipes that emphasize fresh ingredients and time-saving tips, Garten had no formal training and taught herself culinary techniques.  Quite an accomplishment for the Brooklyn-born daughter of an otolaryngology surgeon dad and opera aficionado mom.  Little Inga was always encouraged to excel in school and showed an early aptitude for science.  Today she credits that scientific gift for many of her experimental recipes.

 

She dabbled in cooking and entertaining as a military wife and also earned her pilot’s license.  A later trip to Paris prompted her to study the culinary talents of Julia Child and she began hosting her now famous weekly dinner parties.  All the while she earned an MBA at George Washington University after a move to Washington, D.C. with her husband and ultimately wrote nuclear energy budget and policy papers for Presidents Gerald Ford and Jimmy Carter.

 

Her job stressed her out though and she found comfort in cooking and ended up focusing on it.  It all started with a gourmet food store and now includes several best-selling cookbooks, magazine articles, self-branded products, and her popular TV show.    I love how this accomplished and educated woman is now teaching all of us how to braise, blanch, and baste.  It’s not rocket science, but it has launched her into kitchens everywhere, and as Gary Allen Sledge says, “It is difficult to know what counts most in the world, but I am beginning to see that the things that really matter take place not in the boardrooms, but in the kitchens of the world.”